Wednesday, August 31, 2011 1:29:00 AM
What to do When You Miss Someone
Seconds, minutes, hours pass in silence. Suddenly you realize days have already passed, weeks or even months. You think of only one person. You have been away from him for far too long. You don't know what you are feeling. Girl, you miss him. You miss him a lot.
First here you are very happy. Feeling everything is good, feeling that everything is perfect. Then, a sudden turn of events. Misunderstanding or arguements happen. Then, bang He left without leaving you anything. Only happy and bitter memories.
Before, it seemed that you loved everything, everyone. It seemed like you knew everything perfectly. You had your inspiration. Now, it's gone. You suddenly find yourself in a room full of people. People you know, but there is one person your suddenly don't know. You see her looking right at you, she seems familiar like someone you used to know perfectly still, you don't know her. After a while, you stop staring at yourself in front of the mirror. You realize that person you don't know is-- yourself. You don't know what or who you want. You can't concentrate on anything anymore.You world is suddenly surrounded by mixture of feelings-- pain, anger, love and longing.
What do you do with this? What will you do with this suddenly weird life you have. Should you forget that person entirely? Should you push yourself to forget him? Should you put aside all the memories you had? Should you pretend that everything is fine and that he never exsisted in your life?
Okay, this is what you do. Put into your mind that he was a part of your life. He has made a great impact in your life. He made you happy, he made you smile during hard times. He accompanied you when you were lonely. So, be thankful for that. He also, in a way, helped mold you into the person youre are right now.
A lot of memories you have were spent with him. Don't forget those memories you had with him may it be good or bad. Those good memories could help you please the feeling of longing, or the feeling of emptiness. The bad memories may help you be a better person. It will help you because you will want to avoid feeling the pain you already felt. You can learn from your mistakes from there to avoid more conflicts. Also, those bad memories can help you move on. Move on from the feeling that you still miss him though he has hurt you one too many times.
When you miss someone, don't push yourself to forget him. You miss him, that's natural. He was a part of your life. Of course you miss the times that you were with him. So, savor he moments you have when you see him. Talk to him, ask what he is up to these days. At least you are still being a part of his life. Missing someone isn't bad. Never push yourself to do stuff you don't want to do. You will just add more burden and pain to yourself. Let the feeling pass naturally. It would be better to let the feeling go away than hurt yourself intentionally just to forget him or to get over missing him.
Also, you should not pretend that everything is just fine even when it's not. You should not act that you can deal with it easily. You will be lying to the people around you and you will be lying to yourself. If you miss him, admit it to yourself. You can even admit it to him that you miss him, you won't lose anything once you tell him. You wouldnt know he might be missing you too. Then you can have time again for each other to bond, to patch things up or to even try to bring back old times. At least when you get to talk to each other, you will be able to update each other. The bond you used to have is there again. Now, when you part ways, it would be parting from the more intimate relationship you had. You can now go back to the first step and at least be friends again. While you are still freinds, treasure those times. I mean you would rather have him in your life as a friend rather than strangers walking passed each other everyday right?
Tell that person the truth. Tell him you miss him. At least admit to youself. Also, Always remember the fact that he was a part of you life. You can have that as a basis for a beginning of a new friendship. Remember all the memories you had. Treasure them always because that is the only thing he can never take away from you. Yes, he got our heart but you will get it back. Your memories, once it's gone, it's impossible to get it back. Never push yourself to forget hm. Let the feeling pass. Let your heart heal its wound. Let your heart grow. Let yourself miss him. Help yourself get over missing him but don't force yourself. Dont live a lie. Laslty, if you miss him, let him know, you may never know, he might be missing you too and he even might want you back in his life. Now, those old goood memories will be added and the bad memories will be replaced.