National Week, ahem Day..

On Nationaly Day night, a terrible thing happened!

Brayden had a fall, from the bed! I was totally freaked out.. I didn't know what to do.. and I see that he was crying very badly and in pain... I felt guilty.. If only I had grabbed him tighter.. Immediately, we rubbed the ointment on his bump, when we took a closer look, there was a red line on the side of his forehead.. We also fed some medication to calm his nerves..

Everyone burst into our room to check him out... prayed for his safety... only PaPa is carrying you.. my hands were still shivering when I was making milk. My mind was going thru the emotional turmoil. I couldn't cry. It makes situation worst when Brayden is already the loud one..

Let's just face it.

Parenting is really tiring. I do not know if I am saying this because I didn't see any progress from my child? No progress, is this caused by my laziness?

Talking on the progress, he still does not know how to stack blocks, wave good bye, clapping of hands, not to mention about greeting all of us... It makes me feel lousy... a lousy and worried parent.

I do not know if it's due to my laziness, coz it's really no joke to rush home, and rush thru dinner, shower and attend to a kid, playing nursery DVD, I didn't persist in teaching or rather repeating everything..
Even if I tried, he only pay attention for awhile, and then he gets hooked into his favorite.

Besides, the child plays a part too.. he wasn't interested in anything except for wheels or things that can be spun.. he loves that...

On the other hand, compared to another parent whose child absorbs everything that they teach, will that parent be very much happier? That their "effort" paid off? And they will look forward to meeting their child everyday after work?

Of course, there are other circumstances as well, such as the family, the environment... they are players too..

A Father's Message

I read an online article about dying father of 2 children. He didn't spend time pitying himself.. instead, he spend the last few months recording message to his children in DVDs, buying presents for them, arranging his funeral, monetary arrangements, getting his friends to stay bonded with his family..

All and all for his family and especially his children.. Very educating... If only all parents can educate their children like that.. I think it's important..

A FATHER'S RULES FOR FINDING FULFILLMENT

"Be courteous, be punctual, always say please and thank you, and be sure to hold your knife and fork properly. Others take their cue on how to treat you from your manners.

Be kind, considerate and compassionate when others are in trouble, even if you have problems of your own. Others will admire your selflessness and will help you in due course.

Show moral courage. Do what is right, even if that makes you unpopular. I always thought it important to be able to look at myself in the shaving mirror every morning and not feel guilt or remorse. I depart this world with a pretty clear conscience.

Show humility. Stand your ground but pause to reflect on what the other side are saying, and back off when you know you are wrong. Never worry about losing face. That only happens when you are pig-headed.
Learn from your mistakes. You will make plenty so use them as a learning tool. If you keep making the same mistake or run into a problem, you’re doing something wrong.

Avoid disparaging someone to a third party; it is only you who will look bad. If you have a problem with someone, tell them face to face.

Hold fire! If someone crosses you, don’t react immediately. Once you say something it can never be taken back, and most people deserve a second chance.

Have fun. If this involves taking risks, so be it. If you get caught, hold your hands up.

Give to charity and help those who are less fortunate than yourselves: it’s easy and so rewarding.

Always look on the upside! The glass is half full, never half empty. Every adversity has a silver lining if you seek it out.

Make it your instinct always to say ‘yes’. Look for reasons to do something, not reasons to say no. Your friends will cherish you for that.

Be canny: you will get more of what you want if you can give someone more of what they desire. Compromise can be king.

Always accept a party invitation. You may not want to go, but they want you there. Show them courtesy and respect.

Never ever let a friend down. I would bury bodies for my friends, if they asked me to . . . which is why I have chosen them carefully.

Always tip for good service. It shows respect. But never reward poor service. Poor service is insulting.

Always treat those you meet as your social equal, whether they are above or below your station in life. For those above you, show due deference, but don’t be a sycophant.

Always respect age, as age equals wisdom.

Be prepared to put the interests of your sibling first.

Be proud of who you are and where you come from, but open your mind to other cultures and languages. When you begin to travel (as I hope you will), you’ll learn that your place in the world is both vital and insignificant. Don’t get too big for your breeches.

Be ambitious, but not nakedly so. Be prepared to back your assertions with craftsmanship and hard work.

Live every day to its full: do something that makes you smile or laugh, and avoid procrastination.

Give of your best at school. Some teachers forget that pupils need incentives. So if your teacher doesn’t give you one, devise your own.

Always pay the most you can afford. Never skimp on hotels, clothing, shoes, make-up or jewellery. But always look for a deal. You get what you pay for.

Never give up! My two little soldiers have no dad, but you are brave, big-hearted, fit and strong. You are also loved by an immensely kind and supportive team of family and friends. You make your own good fortune, my children, so battle on.

Never feel sorry for yourself, or at least don’t do it for long. Crying doesn’t make things better.

Look after your body and it will look after you.

Learn a language, or at least try. Never engage a person abroad in conversation without first greeting them in their own language; by all means ask if they speak English!

And finally, cherish your mother, and take very good care of her.

I love you both with all my heart.
Daddy x"