Monday, August 20, 2018

Sorry Rosie

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Rosie, here I am thinking that I'm all caught up on everyone who tagged me, and I missed yours. Sorry! I think Google Reader skipped a few things, because I thought I had read all your posts until I went to your actual blog. So here I go again. So if someone else tagged me and I never responded, you'll have to let me know!


Here are the rules: I have to answer the following questions with one word answers and one word only!


1. Where is your cell phone? Bedroom

2. Where is your significant other? Work

3. Your hair color? Blond-ish

4. Your mother? Hospitable

5. Your father? Hard-working

6. Your favorite thing? Family

7. Your dream last night? scary

8. Your dream/goal? patience

9. The room you're in? Office

10. Your hobby? Childbirth

11. Your fear? Future

12. Where do you want to be in 6 years? peace

13. Where were you last night? Home

14. What you're not? perfect

15. One of your wish-list items? mattress

16. Where you grew up? Maryland

17. The last thing you did? Laundry

18. What are you wearing? Pajamas

19. Your TV? gone

20. Your pet? imaginary

21. Your computer? on

22.Your mood? tired

23.Missing someone? Husband

24. Your car? black

25. Something you're not wearing? make-up

26. Favorite store? Anthropologie

27. Your summer? Busy

28. Love someone? someones

29. Your favorite color? many

30. When is the last time you laughed? today

31. Last time you cried? yesterday

face paint fun

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The library had a party celebrating

The Parenting Books I wish I read BEFORE I had kids...

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I've been thinking a lot about discipline lately.  Probably because I have a lot to do in that area--in more ways than one.  Let's take example #1: Disciplining my kids:

I was a pretty awesome parent...before I had kids.  I think even that first year with one baby I was doing pretty good.  Now there is rarely a day that goes by without me wondering, "What the heck am I doing?!".  (Please tell me I'm not alone here!)  I have read dozens of parenting books over the years, but the last several months have found me reading and re-reading several more.  Here are some of my favorites:

Unconditional Parenting

Siblings Without Rivalry/How to Talk so your Kids will Listen and Listen so your Kids will Talk



Three Steps to A Strong Family

The Secret of Parenting

Free Range Kids

Love and Logic (magic)

Headgates article


Tale of our Quest

The Parenting Breakthrough


Naturally Healthy Babies & Children  Aviva Romm

Take Charge of Your Child's Health

The No Cry Sleep Solution

Tjed  phases...(Leadership Education: The Phases of Learning)

love languages??

attachment parenting


Mitten Strings For God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry

home safe home???

(And these aren't exactly discipline books, but I've found them helpful in parenting as well:
How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex


Protecting the Gift

I know that no parenting book can just solve all my problems and turn me or my kids into perfect people, but I have noticed that when I read something really insightful, it at least gets me to stop and think a bit longer before doing something stupid, and gives me a few extra tricks to use when I'm feeling stuck.

(Note:  If you happen to go and read all of these books like I have, you will see that I can not possibly agree with every single thing that is written in each one of these books, because some of the ideas differ.  I'm sure there will be things in these books that you might not agree with either, but hopefully there will be something that will give you some helpful ideas!)

Each parenting book I read pretty much makes me realize how the most difficult part of parenting is disciplining MYSELF!  Which leads me to Example #2: Self-discipline!

I've been trying hard to focus on

Okay, what are some of your favorites?

October (come & gone)

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I had this goal in October to blog more often.  I thought that maybe I could even do it every day.  And so, I believe in direct consequence of that goal, we got sick.  All of us.  With a lot of stuff.  For almost the whole month.  It took me by surprise, because I have long depended on the fact that we would start our winter sicknesses after Halloween.  It was the huge influx of sugar that was to blame for any cough or cold or worse.  So getting hit with the coughs and colds and worse a month before the holiday was not what I was expecting.  I believe that Murphy's Law would say something like, "That's what you get for making a goal like that."   

One week was spent with all of us taking turns between experiencing and cursing the stomach flu.  Even poor little Luke.  There are few things more pathetic than a sick baby shoving the bowl away from him because he thinks it is the cause of the horrible experience of throwing up.  And nothing is worse to clean up than that which does not make it into the bowl.  Enough said.

Andrew is the only one who didn't get the flu, but he didn't exactly get off easy.  Being the cleaner-upper when everyone else is sick is just about as bad as being sick yourself, wouldn't you agree?  Plus, he had already begun the month just recovering from a sickness of his own.  He came down with a really weird virus that gave us momentary worry that we might have a very serious issue on our hands.  Thankfully, everything is fine and we seem to have escaped with only two weeks of extreme vertigo where he could not get out of bed and his world was akin to riding upside down on a merry-go-round 24 hours a day.  He was obviously quite incapacitated, and I decided once again that single parenthood really stinks.

The normal coughs and colds took up the space on either end of the vertigo and stomach flu.  And there went October.  And there went my goal.

But somehow, when browsing through our pictures, I realized that we must have been healthy enough on enough different days to actually do a lot of activities this month.  And although I never did manage to write about them on a daily basis, I think it is still worth mentioning a little bit about them now.  A big, long post all at once.  Because that seems to be the way I do this blog.  And if it somehow means not getting sick again for an entire month, I might just have to keep it that way.

So here's the list of the things we managed to fit in this month.  Looking back at all these pictures, you wouldn't think we had time to have anything unpleasant happen at all.  Although that could have something to do with the fact that I had no interest in documenting through photographs the days that weren't so fun.  (You're welcome.)

I also must mention that in part because of all the sickness, and also because I have gotten tired of dreading Halloween, I decided not to do any Halloween preparation this year.  I hung a decoration I've had for years on the door, stuck a pumpkin on the table, and bought one bag of candy to hand out the day before Halloween.  Seriously, that's it.  I barely even talked to the kids about what they were going to dress up as.  They came up with their own costumes for our ward party and for trick or treating.  All on their own, with stuff we already had.  Apart from braiding Annie's hair (which is already a daily occurrence) and helping open the face paint for Tyler, I had nothing to do with any of it.  Somehow, the kids worried so much less (as in, not at all) about their costumes when I was completely uninvolved, than when I was working myself to death trying to help them come up with, make, and buy things.  When the candy ran out on  Halloween night, we turned off our lights.  We didn't even ever end up carving the pumpkins we got.  So now they are still sitting pretty on our steps for Thanksgiving.  And this was about the most enjoyable Halloween I've had since I was a kid.  I'm converted.  Next goal: try to apply the same principle of cutting back and no stress to Thanksgiving & Christmas.  

The kids wearing orange to church on October 31st.
The gorgeous scenery we enjoyed when having a picnic in-between conference sessions.
The company we enjoyed.
The food we enjoyed.
Dressed in blue for BYU football.


The kids first 'real yellow school bus' ride for a homeschool field trip to a farm.
How did they immediately know that 'the cool kids' ride in the back?
Picking apples on our field trip.  Delicious straight off the tree!


Luke was thrilled with his pumpkin and apple, both of which he called 'ball'!

Enjoying a family activity at Wheeler farm...the maze seemed to be created for those whose height was under 2 feet, but we still had fun.

Picking our pumpkins.
Enjoying the hayride.
Macey's had a Halloween contest...when they started the Halloween music, choose a number to stand on and see if they call the number you chose...
About 60 seconds after arriving to grab a few groceries, the game began and the kids insisted on playing.  You can imagine their extreme joy when we were the very first winners, and each person standing on the number won their own cupcake.
We went to The Reluctant Dragon at the Scera Theatre with a homeschool group.  It is my favorite play of all the children's plays we've seen at the Scera so far. 
Enjoying the beginning of an amazing BYU basketball season at the Cougar Tipoff.
Riding The Nightmare Express, a haunted train ride put on by a local family in Lindon for free at their home.  Very family friendly, but probably still a little much for our younger kids.  We generally tend to avoid all things scary, even during Halloween!

Visiting a local gardening center to see their pumpkin carving contest.  Here are the kids posing by their favorites.

Pumpkin bowling?!

Happy Halloween!  (almost...the celebration in our neighborhood all happened on Saturday, which was perfect for us.)  Our little superhero, cowgirl, skier, and pirate.  (It was a cold and rainy Halloween, so really, costumes were optional since coats were the attire of the evening for everyone.)
Annie's favorite activity of the evening was handing out the candy.

November (come and gone)

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Luke LOVES asparagus!
So happy I'm not the only one who likes the baby carrier!
We took a trip to the zoo with cousins Kate & Alli.  It was a beautiful day.



Luke was thrilled with all the animals.  He kept pointing at everything he saw.
Pretty happy for that glass wall right then!
BYU FOOTBALL GAMES!
These games are loooong...especially for little babies (and their moms!)


My mom came into town for a day and a half for a reunion with her sisters.  She only had a couple of hours to visit with us, and she had to drive an hour each way just to get to my house, but she spent all her time with us making the homemade rolls that I had signed up to bring to Enrichment that night!(a church women's activity)   I received so many compliments on those rolls.  :)   Andrew was out of town that day, and I was going a little crazy.  My mom saved me.   Thanks Mom!!!
Thanksgiving Point Farm...normally kids don't get to sit on these horses, but this horses' name was Annie...when the lady taking care of her heard that we had an Annie too, she let her have a ride.  Annie was thrilled.  She still talks about how she got to 'ride on the horse with my same name'.



THANKSGIVING!!!

This was our third Thanksgiving since moving here almost 3 years ago.  We had so much fun continuing many of the traditions that we began after moving here...



our grateful turkeys
Dressing up as Pilgrims & Indians
So grateful to have cousins nearby!






cousins!
We covered the windows with paper so that everyone could list what they are grateful for.  This was a new tradition we began this year, and we'll definitely continue this.  I loved it!



Have I mentioned that Luke has always insisted on feeding himself?
 Tyler made this.  So true, huh?  :)