感激

感激我周围所有的好友，我生命里的那个他。。谢谢你们给于我的所有支持，鼓励与帮助。

你们在黑暗中给我带来了无限的曙光，让我在迷失后找到了新的方向，让我拥有从新站起来的勇气，继续走下去的力量！

也许你们不晓得，但真的，你们那无私的帮助与鼓励带给了我很大的力量。。笔墨无法形容我那万分的感激。。若没有你们，我也许就无法在短时间站起。

收拾心情，向往明天，全新出发！

我没事了，你们放心吧！

谅解。。。

谅解。。好可贵的一样东西。。好难得到，我好渴望的一份礼物。。。

很多时候，很多事情，很多人都会说他们谅解。。但真的是这样吗？或只是一时的不耐，一时的敷衍?

口是心非是很多人都会的, 说谅解但所做的一切却很明显的告诉他人相反的意识。。非真心的谅解，表面的谅解会带给人多大的伤害，这也许是很多人无法体会的。。。

当一个人以为他备受谅解但却发现并非如此时，那种无奈是无法形容的。。。

当一个人遇到挫折，跌到谷底，非常失落时。。他所需要的不是无尽的道理，不断的催促。。道理谁都懂，但这时所需要的并非这些。。真心的谅解，无尽的支持，关怀与体贴。。反而能够让人有站起来的力量，面对现实的勇气，继续走下去的意志力。。。

很多事情并非我不想尝试，不想尽力。。但现在的我真的已精疲力尽。。连走下去的力气都快用尽了!

自我给于的压力很大，家人给于的无限压力让人透不过气，我想够了吧。。也许我太没用了，一丝的压力，小小的挫折就让我毫无力气。。精疲力尽。。也许未到达极限，但我真的不想到达极限。。请让我歇一歇吧。。。

weak at times

many bad times, many lousy moods, i always look myself in the mirror...and tell myself that i can do it...things will turn out fine! it does helps and does lift my mood and change my peception over them.

i'm not a total pessimist...i try my very best to be optimistic over matters, but....sometimes...somethings...are so great that i'm just powerless over it....

i'm really not as great or capable as all think i am...expectation too high will just get me breathless...stress out...breakdown...

i might look tough, and be tough...but there are times where i'll be weak...totally out of energy...its unavoidable really...no one can be tough all the times! rest is all i need really...a total breather...i can pick myself up...something i'm really sure i can, but pls give me the time to do so.

no words can describe....

a huge turn in my life, but some might think otherwise. what's the big deal about it, many might think of it, but it sure meant quite a bit to me. for those close to me, you would know what i'm referring to.

all the help that you have given, all the trouble you have went through, all the care and concern that i've got from you...really touches my heart deeply...no words i can use to describe my thousand tks and appreciation.

'you' referring to all the piggies and a few others...all those who will know who you are...all my sincere friends who are there to help when in need...are there to share in times of joy. tks guys and gals...really...tks!

esp a person whom i'm glad he is in my life...my dearest ed, tks for being there!

love is not blind?

a quote that i came across, how true i find it to be...ironically ironic...

"love is not blind,
it sees more and not less,
because it sees more,
it choose to see less"

what's your take on this?

问世间情为何物，
只叫人生死相许。。。

淡忘 。珍惜 。向往

回忆最美，失去的最珍贵。
但现有的最真实，懂得珍惜最重要。
淡忘过去，向往未来最幸福。。。

Yesterday is history,
Tomorrow is a mystery,
Today is a gift,
That's why it's called the present.
Treasure...

misunderstanding her

got this article from a friend...find it quite interesting and true...but still can't say the same for all women...no one think exactly alike in this world.

guys out there...can never understand what a women think? don't know how to communicate to one? then you gota read this!

This article will be mainly addressed to men. Here the most typical mistakes that men commit in communication with women are presented. Sometimes the reaction of women on this/that situation is interpreted incorrectly by men, so that the response reaction can be inadequate as well, leading to total destruction of relationships.

Emotionally adequate communication: generally women’s behavior is more emotional than men’s. Though the most emotional women are sometimes simply not quite self-confident, every woman wants her man to talk to her in common language of emotions. Men hardly use female language, considering Latin or Greek to be easier to learn. This gap in communication provokes most of acute problems and conflicts. Imagine a casual conversation between man and woman:

She: How do you feel?
He: I’m ok.
She: No, how do you feel really?
He: I don’t know how I feel. You always ask the same question and get the same answer.
She: But why you don’t know? You should know how you feel.
He: I don’t think so much about feelings.
She: But I want to know what you feel about us and all other things.
He: I am fine, really.
She; It can’t be called like fine.
He: Listen here, don’t tell me what I feel and what I should feel.
She begins to cry.

So what has really happened? Actually a woman wanted to help the man, to make him feel comfortable, and in reality she made him think about what he got used to hide – his feelings, that’s why he behaved in a hostile way. Eventually all men will consider the behavior of the man in this situation quite normal and reasonable.

So if a man wants to become proficient in emotional aspect, it is important to learn to understand your feelings:

Most anthropologists say that people usually feel the following emotions:
Happiness
Fear
Fury
Love
Sorrow
Doubt
Compassion
Boredom
Disgust

You can learn how to express your feelings doing one simple exercise: concentrate and try to remember how you perceive this or that emotion, then try to express it through the sound: love arises soft sound, disgust – sharp, fury – growling. The more often you do the exercise, the faster you will be able to express your feelings in a proper manner.

Stop blaming each other: Even if you suppose that woman makes you feel uncomfortable, asking about your emotions she is striving to be closer to you; if you behave aggressively she may think that she is the reason for problems and irritation.

First – compassion – then help: Imagine your woman comes to you and complains, that she had an unpleasant talk with her boss in the morning because she was late - what will you ask after that? First of all, you will ask how many minutes she was late for, then advise how to behave in order to avoid such situations in future… you will hardly tell that you understand her and share her feelings. But that is the reaction she is waiting for! Remember to begin with compassion, and only then mildly advise her how to get out of the situation.

You can make her become better: Sometimes men face the strong desire to make their women better either physically or morally. It is a dangerous step to take, you will hardly achieve the success if you put pressure on her. Only if she asks for your opinion about her appearance, express your opinion carefully.

Remember about the force of compliments: tell them sincerely, moreover it is such an easy and available way to make her happy!

Who is the head? of course you are, a man, but when you ask for a favor, include into your speech such poliet phrases like: "My dear, could you please", "Will you be so kind", and address her like "Dear", "Darling", "Honey", "Sweetheart" - you will get even more than you have asked for.

Demand for intimacy: imagine that you live with a woman, she wants to be near and to share all the moments of your life. Is it too much for you? In her childhood a woman had a best friend, and now she wants her partner to be her all. That is why your desire to spend Saturday night with your friend in the bar, drinking beer and chattering, she would consider like betrayal.

And finally some more useful advice in brief: when you speak with a woman, try to involve her into conversation, listen to her and respect her opinion. Remember – it is a dialogue, not a soliloquy.

When you talk to her, look into her eyes, don’t examine her figure or revert the eyes, otherwise she will think that you are absolutely not interested in communication with her.

This piece of advice will probably ease your life and help to build strong and confidential relations with your partners.