i learnt something in my "Effective People Management" module in school today..



- Conflicts

- Misunderstandings

- Bad decisions



often we are under the misconception, including myself previously, that conflicts are the main issue derived from misunderstandings..



the lecturer made known these few points, read this:



Misunderstandings need not lead to conflicts

In other words, conflicts don't necessary come from misunderstandings

vice versa... conflicts may/may not lead to misunderstanding...

the main thing that you get out of misunderstandings... most of the time.. are bad decisions...



sounds confusing?

here's an example..

A and B has a misunderstanding with each other...

they may not have a conflict before or ever... in fact... they go on with their lives and communicate with each other as friends do...

but the misunderstanding came from A or B observing of something that the other party had done before...



that thought or critism inside your mind or heart is the main issue of how misunderstandings came about..

it may not be that verbal conflict... its all in the mind



and with that negative thought...

or a past experience.... even AFTER forgiving and making up with each other...

as many people do forgive and make up.... BUT somehow some hidden unforgiveness is harboured somewhere inside you...



listen carefully here...



it is that misunderstanding...especially if tat person is involved...... that will affect your decision making badly...

i received a "Further Reporting Order" from CMPB today, to report for vocational assignment on 11th Feb to Naval Diving Unit at Sembawang Naval Base..



...

i wish i have the time to prac my rudiments...

went to david hall's last nite and went trough some basics...

i m rusting man...





argg.... where's pek?

i want to get my first snare drum soon!!!!!!!

this is my first entry for the year...

well... for at least the nex few months...i dont think i will be blogging as often...

busy busy busy with my FYP...



it's a killer...

wherever i go... it nv fails to haunt me.. and time seems ticking ticking ticking....



11 weeks due...



so many things in hand...

when i saw the teaching plan for discipling class... i realised the last lesson is one day after my deadline...

and that is just the first deadline... for the product...

the final report is due a month's time from there...



these few months are going to be like sour mouldy milk...

and i seem to be going to drink em in this episode of fear factor...