Well, to me not nothing but, majority of people doings are never fair towards a person.
Everything people gives a suggestion, you tend to give another but on a second thought, it will be like " hey, if i start suggesting, will they feel that i am being an idea spoiler or think that i am trying to get things into my own way."
Most of the time, people will try to give suggestions, giving comments. One thing about giving comments is that it must be sensitive towards everyone in a sense that it will not be offending towards the other party. One thing which my teacher told me, " stupid ideas will eventually lead to a brighter and better idea. It is better than having a silent meeting whereby everyone does not even give a suggestion. If you are confident of doing it, just show to everyone else. Show your work."
Well, people told me to work on my confidence. Three reasons on why i do not want to make any decisions excluding ones whereby i have no choice and have to make it in a short moment.
One, i was often called the "boss" in my primary school. Sounds good? Yeah it is. Bad when everyone started to bitch behind your back, saying that you are bossy here and there. They will tend to look at everything you do and eventually find some problems, even minor problems which they blew the matter to my teacher in charge.
Two, what if it fails? Yeah i know. Failing leads to a big success or even reaching a greater quality of work. But these comes with a great price. Screwing up lets say a poster? Yeah, a poster you must do and the deadline is tomorrow and you are rushing to finish. You are lost in the world of imagination and inspiration but no avail for ideas. Then, an idea came up and maybe you tried to execute it. Next day, it was disapproved by everyone, getting mocked at, criticized, humiliated, not being entrusted to duties and being looked down at. Everyone will try not to give you a chance to do other things which got to do with that stuffs.
Three, yeah. Was once demoralized by my other peers last time. Confidence went down so have to sometimes depend and continuously ask my seniors or peers. Once a nail got hammered onto a wood, the nail can be pulled out but the hole remains.
So that is about it for today. Rather troubled with this stuffs but trying to gain some confidence though, not too much perhaps. Well, good day everyone.
Everything people gives a suggestion, you tend to give another but on a second thought, it will be like " hey, if i start suggesting, will they feel that i am being an idea spoiler or think that i am trying to get things into my own way."
Most of the time, people will try to give suggestions, giving comments. One thing about giving comments is that it must be sensitive towards everyone in a sense that it will not be offending towards the other party. One thing which my teacher told me, " stupid ideas will eventually lead to a brighter and better idea. It is better than having a silent meeting whereby everyone does not even give a suggestion. If you are confident of doing it, just show to everyone else. Show your work."
Well, people told me to work on my confidence. Three reasons on why i do not want to make any decisions excluding ones whereby i have no choice and have to make it in a short moment.
One, i was often called the "boss" in my primary school. Sounds good? Yeah it is. Bad when everyone started to bitch behind your back, saying that you are bossy here and there. They will tend to look at everything you do and eventually find some problems, even minor problems which they blew the matter to my teacher in charge.
Two, what if it fails? Yeah i know. Failing leads to a big success or even reaching a greater quality of work. But these comes with a great price. Screwing up lets say a poster? Yeah, a poster you must do and the deadline is tomorrow and you are rushing to finish. You are lost in the world of imagination and inspiration but no avail for ideas. Then, an idea came up and maybe you tried to execute it. Next day, it was disapproved by everyone, getting mocked at, criticized, humiliated, not being entrusted to duties and being looked down at. Everyone will try not to give you a chance to do other things which got to do with that stuffs.
Three, yeah. Was once demoralized by my other peers last time. Confidence went down so have to sometimes depend and continuously ask my seniors or peers. Once a nail got hammered onto a wood, the nail can be pulled out but the hole remains.
So that is about it for today. Rather troubled with this stuffs but trying to gain some confidence though, not too much perhaps. Well, good day everyone.
Best wishes
-Jun Shen
-Jun Shen
