Tuesday, September 07, 2010
This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here...
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?'
In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to
DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened
TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,
a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVERjust happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make'
love.
Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.
Remember always this:
'God determines who walks into your life.It is up to you to decide who you let to walk away,who you let to stay, and who you refuse to let go.
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The greatest irony of love is this, loving someone right at the wrong time, having someone wrong at the right time; and realising that you love someone right after they walk out of your life. Sometimes, you think you're already over someone, but when you see them smile at you, you'll suddenly realise that you're just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again.
For some, they think letting go is one way of expressing how much they love that person. For others, they are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else. Most relationships fail not because of an absence of love. Love is always present. It's just that one was loved too much, or the other, too little.
As we all know, the heart is the center of the body, but it beats on the left. Maybe that's why the heart is not always right. More often than not, we fall in love with the person we think we love, but for them, we are but a passing of time, while the one that truly loves us remains a friend or a stranger.
So here's a piece of advice: let go when you're hurting too much, give up when love isn't enough. Move on when things are not like before. For there is someone out there who will surely love you more.
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Friday, July 16, 2010
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Friday, April 18, 2008
After getting some inspiration from others, i have decided to give some life to this empty blog which have been around for some time. What's going on in my life right now shall be show shortly. Schools have started for most of my friends, a new education year, new semester, new faces to be with. Heard from some of them that orientation was fun, interesting and many more. So sad that through my 3 years in Ngee Ann Polytechnic I have only attended the Orientation held for me and i went for 3 out of the 5 days. Second year of Polytechnic education was mainly busy with my own stuff that i can't be bother to participate in some schools activity. Third year miss out the opportunity as i was posted to attachment, can't join the Orientation too what a waste, miss out a chance to hit on new Ngee Ann hot chicks. That ah siao Leslie, got the best SCO and best orientation group, power man and now he is out on his kinky trip overseas.
Starting on my attachment experience over at Foo Kon Tan GrantThornton now.
So far i have start to work for 7 weeks which is 35 days , many more to come. Some background information about my company that i am in, Foo Kon Tan GrantThornton was first establish in 1973 as Foo Kon Tan founded by these 3 guys name Mr Foo, Mr Kon and Mr Tan currently one of them is dead the other 2 retired and Mr Kon son join the company followed by 9 other partners. It then join GrantThornton which is an international audit company which has several other office all over the world. So it is quite a big company actually, locally ranked big six i suppose. One out of the many things i dislike about the company is the office location, although it is located at city hall but the building it is in is really terrible; Singapore Chinese Chamber of Commerce & Industry the office we are in looks so run down, not like those others company where the view out of the window is so stunning and the office environment feels great, make you want to work longer. Over at Foo Kon Tan it is the opposite, 6pm sharp i will leave the office immediately breath the fresh air outside. For the past 1 month i have been in the bookkeeping department, transfered there due to the department being shorthanded and there is no job on hand for us at the audit department. Along with me who got transferred was Ying Wei. She is a girl from another semester, i am from 1.2 she is from 1.1 by the way there are 4 interns attached to FKTGT, Ying Wei, Yi Xuan they are both from 1.1 and there is Samantha from 1.2.
Join on the 3rd of march, we were given a tour around the company and some introduction basically the whole SCCCI seems to be occupy by FKTGT, audit department is on the 4th level, tax department on the 5th level, human resource department on the 5th level as well, book keeping department on the 6th level, payroll accounting department on the 6th level as well. i rotted in the company for a week before starting work on monday, for the entire week we had nothing to do except for a day where i went out for cash count which is rather easy and simple audit job. Cash count is to go to those clubs or recreation centre and audit them taking all those jackpots winning see them count the number of 1 dollar coins. It is quite alot of money actually like during one cash count which we usually do every week or two week once, the winning can actually be enough to buy a car! They will have this machine which counts all the coins and then pack them into bags of 1000 coins in each bag. interesting process i would say. thats about cash count, we got to prepare the working papers, brings the labels and then there is the meter reading and the actual reading. Where meter reading is taken from the machine meter counting the number of coins slotted in and actual is the the actual as it say counting the number of coins inside the slot machine using this super fast machine which counts i think 15 coins in a second. The difference between these 2 readings cannot be more then 1% of the coins amount, if there is then got to check it out. Simple audit. For the 2nd week i was post to bookkeeping department as said, got to go over to the client's place which is located so far from my house over at Pandan Road, which is somewhere near clementi and west coast that area. Good thing though is that we start work at 9.30am and ends at 5.30pm where 5.30 sharp there will be this bus waiting outside to send us to Clementi MRT. Bookkeeping is all about preparing the audit schedule before the auditors come, so there is the 3 of us, Joyce the one teaching us what to do and stuff, Yingwei and myself, simple plain job of data entry from the clients record into the excel, then the auditors they are actually also from FKTGT so i have helped them to audit as well, but i am not auditing my own work, my work is only the audit schedule. Vouching is basically the crucial and important part of audit but it is also the super boring job, where you just have to run through the receipts or bank statement or invoices or whatever to find the thing you need to find, boring! so over at the clients place lunch is really boring, where they would help you ta bao food and the food you don't know what they have so for me default if i don't know what to eat = chicken rice. i think most guys are like that, when you have no idea of what to eat is then = chicken rice. lunch time is like 1.15 to 2.15 an hour time where sit at the pantry talk a bit relax. Good thing about being at the client place would be you need not face the boss or manager or partners. You feel more relax, take things at your own pace. play some games at times and we had this addictive game of ZUMA, you guys can search it and try quite fun something like puzzle bubble.
i stayed in the bookkeeping department for 1 month and this is roughly what i have done, looking through the accounts and having data entry, seeing those exchange loses etc etc.
work has been what i say so far so good but tiring now i am back in audit and on job shall talk about it another time after i finish the entire audit job.
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Tuesday, April 08, 2008
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Saturday, April 05, 2008
me.
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Monday, February 18, 2008
72 wordsSpeedtest
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Saturday, February 09, 2008
ok got car post.
recently i pass my driving test. on the 5 of feb 1 time clear already but the thing is on that day my whole family went oversea to celebrate chinese new year leaving me alone at home to study for exam, another sad thing is the lend the car to their friend so i am without the car for 3 days until 8 of feb in the morning voom voom the car drove back. song song already.
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