Four weeks ago I experienced my second pack-out in the Foreign Service, said goodbye to the U.S. Consulate General Shanghai, and wrapped up yet another a shorter-than-expected chapter of life. A standard two-year tour became 18 months in order to make it to Kabul in time for a mandatory overlap with the officer I'm replacing. When I'd applied for the Kabul position, it was one of three on my list, and the only one that required curtailment. "It's not a big deal," I thought, "what's the difference between 18 or 24 months when you have to leave anyway? It was always going to be temporary."
Definitely a bigger deal than I thought. It was surprisingly hard to say goodbye to everyone. Now, last week one of my local staff told me on WeChat 微信 that they'd broken the 5,000 visas/day barrier and everyone was exhausted, so I'm not exactly devastated to be missing that. But overall, life had become very good in Shanghai.
The final two weeks were a whirlwind of activities and dinners and staying late to finish a few projects, and there was just enough time to feel satisfied with finishing well (or well enough). A karaoke night. A Consulate-wide BBQ. Drinks with coworkers. Multiple farewell dinners. It was generally an upbeat time for me, and I felt a little awkward if anyone would express dismay and grief at parting. But recently
this explanation about pre-grievers and post-grievers explained it all. I'm enjoying the moment right up until leaving, and then after it's all over, BAM, grief hits.
By the way, packing out your belongings is way more stressful in a foreign language.
Nothing like needing the words for "bubble wrap" or "long term storage" to open one's eyes to the gaping holes in one's vocabulary. I'm still discovering every so often that such and such an item ended up in the sea freight to Hagerstown, so I guess I'll just do without for the next year or so.
Moving is not getting any easier, which is a big issue for a long-term career, but I don't think it's ever supposed to get easy. Because beyond the next diplomatic post, or any other kind of move or personal upheaval, we increasingly long for a day of restoration of all loss, in "a better country, that is, a heavenly one."
"I am sifted through the fingertips of God’s transcendent hand
I am numbering the hours on the hourglass of man
I am hurling toward the future with a bullet in my chest
Oh, I feel the sting, the longing, running for that final rest
And I saw our home
For the first one was gone,
and every good thing was restored
And the sea was no more, and the sea was no more."
Sandra McCracken, Hourglass
“I am sifted through the fingertips of God’s transcendent hand
I am numbering the hours on the hourglass of Man
I am hurtling toward the future with a bulllet in my chest
Oh, I feel the sting, the longing, running for that final rest.
And I saw my home, for the first one was gone, every good thing was restored
And the sea was no more, the sea was no more.”
- See more at:
http://www.tollbooth.org/index.php/past-issues/past-music-reviews/884-mccracken-sandra-desire-like-dynamite#sthash.MDHLsoyL.dpuf
“I am sifted through the fingertips of God’s transcendent hand
I am numbering the hours on the hourglass of Man
I am hurtling toward the future with a bulllet in my chest
Oh, I feel the sting, the longing, running for that final rest.
And I saw my home, for the first one was gone, every good thing was restored
And the sea was no more, the sea was no more.”
- See more at:
http://www.tollbooth.org/index.php/past-issues/past-music-reviews/884-mccracken-sandra-desire-like-dynamite#sthash.MDHLsoyL.dpuf
“I am sifted through the fingertips of God’s transcendent hand
I am numbering the hours on the hourglass of Man
I am hurtling toward the future with a bulllet in my chest
Oh, I feel the sting, the longing, running for that final rest.
And I saw my home, for the first one was gone, every good thing was restored
And the sea was no more, the sea was no more.”
- See more at:
http://www.tollbooth.org/index.php/past-issues/past-music-reviews/884-mccracken-sandra-desire-like-dynamite#sthash.MDHLsoyL.dpuf