The Key

Everything happens for a reason.

Your focused thought is not “Why did you throw it away?”

I had explained my thots, my feel, my ignorance… I do not wish to be seen or said I am defensive… I couldn’t handle the situation that day.. I felt miserable and it's pointless or even helpless to go on… those explanation were just not being heard…The “If ” will never make me feel any better nor you I believe... and I felt utterly remorseful cos I cannot change what has gone before by looking back at it. At that moment, keeping mum maybe better to calm you down but it did not.. you alighted me and drove off. I was lost..

Your predominant thoughts was

“WHY did you throw away my thing WITHOUT ASKING?!”

I kept mum not becos I think I am right...

For it is the true that I’d thrown it without asking… It is the true that I assumed and did not ask further in the first place..

It was so painful to hear from you that things can never be the same as before.. 7 months of separation has resulted so much changes.. but, overall I'm thankful that you gave ourselves a chance to work things out.

I am working on the difference to make things better than before definitely not harder.. but it definitely will need 2 hands to clap. I am grateful that you are trying very hard too.. You are maybe right, thing may not be the same again, it will only turn out either better or worst. Look it in a simple prospective, it is either your heart speaks or your mind speaks first that generated the output.

Not till you have try your very best, you shall not raise the white flag! You are to answer for yourself. Not only you are improving yourself but also understand the real meaning of  compromising and forgiveness. 

 FEE, Fighting! :)

Happy Mother's Day!

感謝朋友寄來的很棒的一段話：

女+馬=媽為你做牛做馬的女人就是媽,你怎能不愛她？
💖3歲時：媽咪，我愛你。　
10歲時：媽，随便啦。　
16歲時：我媽真的很煩。　
18歲時：想要離開這個家。
👭25歲：媽，你當時是對的.
🏡30歲：我想要去我媽家。　
👭50歲：我不想要失去媽。　
70歲：只要我媽還能在這，我願意為了我媽放棄一切。 對媽媽，我們說的話最多的是：
“媽，我衣服在哪？”
“媽，我們晚飯吃什麼？”
“媽，我能出去嗎？”“媽，我餓了。”　　
而對爸爸，說的最多的 話是：“爸，我媽在哪？”　
我們都有一個好媽媽，怎能不愛她！
生病時,媽媽說:別嚇媽媽；
吃飯時,媽媽說:別管媽媽；
👰結婚時,媽媽說:別牽掛媽媽；
媽媽病時,媽媽卻說:媽媽没事。
我有一個好媽媽,時光請你別傷害她,
如果有一天,當媽媽站也站不穩,走也走不動的時候,請你緊緊握住她的手,陪著她慢慢走,就像當年她牽著你一樣。
如果轉發,可以換媽媽一生平安,健康,你願意嗎?
願意的話請默默轉發....

我願意並祝全天下的媽媽"母親節快樂"o Happy Mother's Day!

What Oprah Winfrey Had to Say About Men

My gf sent shared this piece of article while chatting away on whatapps the other day. It is so so true and well said as I read. So I decided to shared it here with all the ladies out there!

1.  If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.  
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
    
3. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.
    
4. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
    
5. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle.
    
6. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
    
7. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying 
8. when things are not better.
    
9. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
    
10. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them 
11. when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
     
12. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
13. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
     
14. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
     
15. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
     
16. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has more education or in a better job.
     
17. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
     
18. Never borrow someone else’s man.
     
19. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you
     
20. All men are NOT dogs
     
21. You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is two-way street.
     
22. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your 
23. issues before pursuing a new relationship.
     
24. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary not supplementary
     
25. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted
     
26. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man
     
27. You should know that you’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats 
28. you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one. They’re all watching you and you want more .. so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one
     
29. So ladies take care of your own hearts.

Oprah Winfrey's Official Website 

Today, I'm counting my blessing.. I'm so blessed with this group of great friends and family members! You know who you are! Thanks for being there for me.. I am touched.. Really... ^.^

Happy Valentine's Day to Me, Myself and Fee!

What was it that happened between us back then that has glued us together for the past 7 years?

The length of the relationship isn't as important as that initial spark that snapped into our life and connected us in ways that others can only imagine..

Our story started with the coincidental of a BKK trip back in 2004. It was his brother who told me that he was taking the same flight as me that evening. I was quite delighted to find a companion then. I sms-ed him to check if we were taking the same flight and timing but his reply was "who the fuck are you!" I was like dumbfounded... I went down to look for him at the Eurodollar pit after market closed to tell him I was the one that text him.. I guess he was quite embarrassed... or maybe not.. but I noticed the brief smile on his face then... though it was just one or two seconds.

I was late and this cool man was reading a book while waiting patiently for me at the check-in counter.. Thinking back, I was quite chatty at that time, telling him almost everything under the sun despite that we don't really know each another.. I found it rather amazing at times...

Well... I felt I was being slapped hard on my face... and this is how true...
"A man who truly loves you will never let you go, no matter how hard the situation is.."
"A woman who truly loves you will be angry at you for so many things but will stick around.."

I hold onto you becos you gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up for mine..

Two imperfect people got together and it was that promise that brought us thus far..
It wasn't the house that protected us.. - It was that "Promise"..

Faded memories...

Korean Dream: 浪漫满屋2

Just finished watching Fullhouse 2! Simple love the 2 actors in the show ^.*

Not only that, the song are a hit too! My favorite is "Hello Miss" and I'm gonna share it with all here! I simply love the last episode of the show and can't bear to del it from my iPad! It's a mixture of sad, touch and happiness. Hahaha, think i'll be repeating it till I get the mp3 into iPod!

 

A-Treez - Hello Miss (浪漫满屋2)

(u-u-u-wo-eo hello hello hello)

amu maldo hajima neo jigeumcheoreom idaero

nae pumsoge angyeo be my love soneul jabajwo

neo-ui ipsul bol ttaemyeon ne jageun sumgyeol neukkigo

neo daga-on sungan you're my dream

ojik neol wonhae

haru haru haruga da seolleneun sigandeul

nae misoneun neomaneul wihangeoya neon naman barabwa

Hello hello neon namanui yeosin

neoreul saranganda my love

Hello hello nan neomaneul saranghae neon nae cheongugingeol

neol gajigo sipeo everyday

neon na-ege isseo everything

han sungando neoreul nochil suga eopseo neon nae cheongugingeol

neo-ui ipsul bol ttaemyeon ne jageun sumgyeol neukkigo

neo daga-on sungan you're my dream 

ojik neol wonhae

jakku jakku heundeullyeo ni dununeul bolttaemyeon

nae simjangeun neol hyanghae ttwigo isseo

nan neoreul saranghae

Hello hello neon namanui yeosin

neoreul saranganda my love

Hello hello nan neomaneul saranghae neon nae cheongugingeol

neol gajigo sipeo everyday

neon na-ege isseo everything

han sungando neoreul nochil suga eopseo neon nae cheongugingeol

Hello hello neon namanui yeosin

neoreul saranganda my love

Hello hello nan neomaneul sarangae neon nae cheongugingeol

Steamed pear 蒸梨汤

I chanced upon this dish when one of my fb friend posted the other day and it looks delicious. She posted the cooking steps and I told myself that's easy, so why not?! I went to goggle for more detailed recipe and information about this dish and it took me sometime to find the "Chuan Bei" and nice juicy pear.

A bit FYI, Chuan Bei (know as  Fritillaria) is a bulbous  flowering plant often used in Chinese medicine to treat coughs or other lung conditions. According to traditional Chinese medicine, this compound is "cooling" and affects the "heart and lung meridians." It is typically used to moisten dry mucous membranes, loosen phlegm, and suppress coughing.

Serve: 4

Ingredients:

• 2 large Chinese round shaped (I used Korean pears)
• 25g dried white fungus (雪耳)
• 3 tbsp dried osmanthus flowers (桂花) - optional
• 1 tsp Goji berries (wolfberries) 
• 10g dried red dates
• 2 candied dates – optional
• 20g chinese almonds (南杏) - optional
• 75g rock sugar/ 2-4 winter melon strips
• 1.5 litres water

Methods:
A) Preparation

1. Rinse the white fungus under running water, followed by soaking in a bowl of water for an hour. Using a pair of kitchen scissors, trim out the hard yellow orange parts at the bottom and separate the frilly head of fungus into bite-sized pieces. Rinse, drain and set aside.
2. Skin the pears, core them and cut each one into 8 wedges, set aside.
3. Put dried osmanthus flowers into a sieve. Rinse them through running water and drain. Spoon it into a disposable tea or spice bag. Seal the bag and set aside.
4. Wash and remove seeds for red dates.
5. Rinse candied dates and almonds.

Poaching using pot

1. Bring the water to boil in a medium-sized pot. Add tea bag (step 3 above) and rock sugar to the pot, and turn heat down to medium. When the rock sugar has dissolved in the tisane (add more sugar if desired)
2. Add the white fungus, candied dates, red dates, and sweet and bitter almonds.
3. Simmer over medium low heat for 45 minutes to an hour. The pears are done when you can pierce through them easily using a sharp knife.
4. Let it cool in the pot for 1 hour. Fish out the tea bag containing the osmanthus flowers before serving. It can be served warm or chilled. For chilled, cool completely then refrigerate at least four hours or overnight.