
I've been working on a lot of projects lately. And by "working on a lot of projects" I mean to say that I've completed two (two
ish - okay, one for sure), am in the middle of the ongoing battle to declutter my bedroom, am brainstorming an office organizational project and a wall decoration project, have informed my husband of how he can best utilize his "Man Skills" to upgrade my dresser before the baby comes (complete with diagram and measurements as well as a walk through the lumber department at Home Depot), and have pinned about a thousand more projects and recipes on
Pinterest. And since I haven't uploaded the pictures of my lamp re-do, I thought I'd tell a funny little story about how crazy I am.
When we first moved down here to our sleepy little college town Matt and I had some tense conversations about what to unpack, where to store stuff, what to keep and what to give away. I think I can count the number of arguments we've had on one hand. Okay, big arguments. I can count the number of disagreements that haven't ever really been resolved on two hands. This is not because we're excellent communicators but because we clam up and avoid issues until it doesn't become an issue anymore. And we don't really disagree on all that much. Or if we do, one of us usually "sees the light" and compromises on something. (I don't want you to think we're a complete mess of a couple). Anyway, I say all of that to emphasize the point that if we had some tense conversations about possessions it was a pretty big deal in our world.
One day, after unpacking a box of things (I couldn't even tell you what the box was full of - Matt probably could, he was very traumatized by the event) my husband came out to sit on the couch and brought a big black cloud with him.
"Are you okay?"
"I'm fine." I could tell he was completely NOT fine.
"You don't have to get rid of your stuff if you don't want to." Because I'm an enabler...
"Too late, it's already in the trash."
At this point I had to abandon ship to another room because I sure as heck was not going down with Captain Grumpy Pants. And the Oregonian in me was riding a major guilt trip over all of the things that went into the dumpster that could have been recycled...
Fast forward a few days to when Matt is telling some friends about the difficulty we had in getting our house unpacked...
"...I realized as I was unpacking my box that this thing that I was so attached to could not love me back. So why was I having such a hard time getting rid of it?"
Matt has said many profound things in the time I have known him but this statement has almost turned into the Munger battle cry over the last nine months.
It cannot love me back.
Five little words that have set us free on a many occasions. Five little words that have ended arguments and added perspective to tense conversations.
So here we are in June of 2012, awaiting the arrival of our little Sweet Pee (yes, I spelled that right). I'm elbow deep in box number two (of five) of stuff that has been sitting in our bedroom waiting to be stored, purged, or donated and I come across a
white desk lamp. I haven't used this desk lamp in about 10 years, but there it sits in a box with a "SUPER!" sticker glued onto the base and a "United Way" sticker stuck to the metal bell shade. I love this lamp. Why? Because it was one of the last Christmas gifts that my Grandpa Jones gave to me before he passed away 20 years ago.
This lamp cannot love me back.
I put it down on the bed, took a few steps back, closed my eyes and said to the empty room, "My Grandfather's legacy is not tied to this lamp." I picked up the lamp, put it in the "donate" box, walked to the living room and asked Matt to take the box to Goodwill that afternoon before I started pulling items back out.
Two weeks later, as I wandered through the Goodwill looking for only God knows what, I saw The Lamp. And next to it was another exactly like it. Two white lamps!! What are the odds?! My stickers were gone so it's hard to say which one was mine. Come to think of it, it's hard to say if either lamp was mine. Both were in good condition and both were only $4.99. I can buy the happy memories of my loving, generous Grandpa Jones back for only $4.99?! What a steal!! I reached out my hand to stick it in my cart and completely froze as I realized that I was being completely ridiculous.
I raced to the front of the store to pay for Mini Mange's giant bag of Mega Blocks before insanity overtook common sense and drove straight home where I sheepishly recounted the story to my patient, loving (and now flabbergasted) husband.