As of today I am 40 weeks and 5 days pregnant.
We are still waiting for the arrival of our newest family member.
I am hoping that her lateness is not an indication of what life with her will be like.
I am currently scheduled to go to the hospital tomorrow night at midnight to be induced. I feel like that is probably what will happen. I think the chance of me going into labor in the next 24 hours is a pretty slim possibility. This is harder for me than I had imagined.
It's not the being pregnant that is difficult. I don't love being pregnant and there are some things that I won't miss--like having to stand sideways to do the dishes and getting up three times a night to go to the bathroom--but I feel fine so I don't mind a few extra days. It's the emotional aspect of having a late baby that is really getting to me. Audrey and Truman were both on time and so I expected that this one would be too. Sure, I was prepared to go a day or two on either side of my due date, but a week? I was not prepared for this. It's much more emotionally draining than I could have imagined. I don't know if anyone else feels like this when they go past their due date or if it's just me.
I had a doctor appointment on Monday. When I scheduled it last Wednesday I truly believed that I wouldn't make it in. But I did. I had an ultrasound and the baby looks fine. I have more fluid than is typical at this stage, but she's measuring about what she should. We were surprised to see that she's only estimated at 8 pounds 13 ounces, which is much smaller than any of us expected.
After the ultrasound I had a non-stress test which also went well. She's active, her heart rate is good, and she handles contractions well, although I only had one the entire time I was hooked up to the monitors.
Then I saw the doctor and received the news that really burst my bubble. Last Wednesday when I went in I was dilated to a 1 1/2, almost a 2. On Monday I was only at a 2. I thought for sure I'd be further along. But I wasn't.
It all happened so fast and the news was so different than anything I expected that I wasn't thinking all that clearly until later in the day. That's when I started to wonder if inducing is really the best option. So now I'm worried that I'm making a mistake. She's small (for me) so letting her grow another several days wouldn't hurt anything. I feel fine and she's doing fine so I don't think there's any reason to rush. I wish I had thought to talk to my doctor about all of this, but I didn't. So now I'm scheduled for an inducement one week after my due date, which is pretty standard, and I'm questioning if that is really the right option. I know that if there are any complications or problems with the labor and delivery that I will feel it is my fault for being induced. I know that problems can arise anytime, but the last two were problem free so if this one is different I'll feel that was the reason.
Another thing that makes this hard is that I feel like I'm sitting around twiddling my thumbs now. I've been super focused on getting things done this entire pregnancy. We worked up until my due date making sure we were prepared for this baby's arrival. We didn't get everything done that I wanted finished, but we got the most pressing things and all of the baby stuff done. Then we sat back and waited. And waited. And we're still waiting.
There are more projects I could do, but it's hard to start something when you feel like any minute you could go into labor. Plus, I'm tired. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. This is truly exhausting. I thought I was ready and instead I find myself re-doing things so I'll be ready a week later than I had planned. My toes are repainted, I've done loads and loads of more laundry, and I changed all the sheets again on Monday. I should probably re-clean the entire house. But I won't.
I prepped my parents for everything they'd have to do last week and today I re-prepped them for this week. Matt had a week's break from a big project at work starting last Wednesday. He still had to work, but he didn't have a huge project deadline looming. Tomorrow the project is back and he has a week to write some big rebuttal brief (or something like that). Thursday is Audrey's meet the teacher barbecue at school. We had all planned on going but it looks like my parents will be taking her instead. The arrival of this little girl is not coming at the most ideal time. Plus, with her so close to the end of August I now have the added worry about when she'll start school. She'll make the cutoff by just two days. Now I'm worried that maybe she's supposed to be born in September so that she'd be a grade younger. I know this is all kind of ridiculous and maybe even slightly irrational, but I'm almost 41 weeks pregnant so I think I'm allowed.
All of that being said, I really am excited to meet this little girl. We all are. The kids can't wait and tell me everyday how they'll help with the baby. Even little Truman tells me how he'll help me change her diaper and get her dressed and share his toys. They are both so sweet. Audrey hasn't complained at all about having to share her room with her baby sister. I'm excited to see what color hair she'll have. Matt and I both have guesses and I want to see who is right. I'm also excited to finally make a decision on her name. We still haven't decided yet.
Baby, I love you and I am excited for you to join our family. If you could, would you please come tonight or tomorrow? I would really appreciate it and we are all so anxious to meet you.