Monday, November 15, 2010
THIA Yumm!
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
facing my emotions
I'm making this post today for those of you who have gone through a loss like this.
I hope it can help in some way.
Yesterday I had a doctors appointment to get my hormone levels checked and set up another ultrasound to make sure that nothing is still in there that shouldn't be. Before I was about to get up and leave my doctor asked me how I was doing emotionally and I suprised myself and began balling before I could even answer him....
and after a long talk we agreed I should see a pshycologist.
I think I am a happy person and have so much to be happy for and want to be happy all of the time and because of that
I don't think I have let myself go through the grieving process fully of having a miscarriage in my second trimester. I have only let out my emotions a little bit at a time then put them away and put on a happy face for the rest of my days.
Its been a month now, which seems like forever but then somedays like no time at all.
So today I faced my emotions head on.
I had my meeting with the phsycologist and I'm glad to say it helped so much.
It was relieving to have someone to lay it all out on the table with and help me sort through what I'm feeling.
someone who had a fresh look at the situation and wasn't wrapped up emotionally like family and friends are.
and yes I went through a whole box of kleenex in 1 hour.
I learned that I hate to "rain on peoples parades", and because there are so many wonderful things going on in my life to people whom I love so much I have pushed my feelings aside so that I could enjoy those happy moments with them.
....I can be happy and excited for others but still need to deal with what I'm going through.
We talked a lot about....
you can be sad and greatful at the same time
it's okay to be sad
It's healthy to grieve
what to do when I feel sad
***give it time***
and numerous other things that are personal to what I went through.
So yes I am heartbroken still and am learning how to deal with it still....but I am greatful for my testimony always and today for this.....
Yesterday DAVE opened his second med school acceptance letter to Kanas City.
That makes 2 schools now we can go to and there are even more interviews and acceptances to come I'm sure.
My husband makes me happy/proud always....no matter the circumstances.
And one day he will be the bestest dad ever!