男人 女人

女人开始试探着管男人，先从生活小事开始..

支使男人拿尿盆倒尿罐，男人全干了..

家里的庄稼女人说什么，男人就做什么..

女人说：「跟谁走近点，跟谁走远点.. 」男人全都听女人的。

男人正跟人闲聊，女人一声「喊」！

男人就像被牵了鼻子的牛，乖乖就回去了。

男人正跟人喝酒，女人上前只扯一下耳朵，就被拽进家！

有人说男人，你的女人三天不打，就上房揭瓦。

你还算是个男人吗？

怎能让女人管得没有一点男人的气概？

若是我的女人，非扇她两鞋底不可！

男人不急不慌地说：「把你的女人叫来，我也舍得扇她两鞋底子。」

那人回答：「神经病！我的女人怎么由你来扇？！

你这没种的男人，怕老婆！简直丢男人的脸！」

村里人有大小事商量，男人一出场，人们就说：「这商量大事你也做不了主，还是把你家女人请来吧！」

男人还真的把女人给叫来了。

女人管得住男人，觉得很得意。

直到..

有一天.. ..

女人在男人耳边说起了家婆的不是..

男人红了眼，一声「吼！」说：「想知道我为什么舍不得打你吗？

就算朋友怎样羞辱我，我都对你百依百顺吗？！」

女人呆了，瞪着男人..

男人红着双眼看着女人说：「因为我娘.. ..」

我娘没一日好过，因为我爹的脾性暴躁..

稍有不顺心，张口就骂、举手就打！

我爹打断过胳膊粗的棍子，打散过椅子..

我娘为了我们几个孩子，竟熬了一辈子！

每次见娘挨打，我都发誓，我娶了女人决不会让她少一根头发！

不会让她受一点委屈！

男人咽着眼泪，看着女人说：「不是我怕你，是我忘不了我娘说的话，她说：

女人是被男人疼的，不是被男人打的！」

女人听了，眼泪往下掉..

她没想到眼前的男人胸怀竟这样宽广。

什么也没说，紧紧地抱着男人..

从此..

男人在外再同人神吹海喝，

女人不喊，也不再拽耳朵，

有时还会端碗水递给男人。

有人问男人，你是怎么调教你的女人的？

一夜之间变得体贴善良。

男人却一本正经地说：

「打出来的女人嘴服，疼出来的女人心服。」

from http://www.sharing.my/note/?p=5192

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Desktop Reformat

Two days ago, I did my first self-reformat of desktop. sweats* i really didn't dare to perform it alone. But no choice...

Lucky it wasn't a difficult task. Equipped with my Vista CD provided with the desktop purchase 3+ years ago, and the website below, I succeeded in the reformat!

http://www.cyberwalker.com/article/725

Yays! so proud with myself. That website is useful for reformatting of computer; please use it when necessary.

I give myself a pat on my back =3

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黑暗

《我梦游你梦游》几米

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三月二十七日 天气晴

我在唱歌，
用尽全身的力气在唱歌，
你听到强烈的共鸣了吗？

《又寂寞又美好》

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七月十二日 天气晴

前往游乐园的直达车已经客满，
晚来的旅客情请下一班，
而车上那几位心情不佳的苦瓜脸旅客，
也请你们立刻下车，
改搭通往坟场的班车。

《又寂寞又美好》

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Perhaps Love

Perhaps love is like a window
Perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer
It wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself
And don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through

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九月五日 天气晴

我和时间
一起躺在抽屉里睡觉，
我换了好多好多姿势，
却还是睡不着。
时间安安静静地躺在那里，
说她其实从来也没有睡着过。

《又寂寞又美好》

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四月二十九日 天气雨

他的身体几乎完全报废，
头顶却开出一丛美丽的花，
风吹过来时花草摇曳，
蝴蝶飞过来，小鸟也飞过来。
这时他才开始懂得欣赏玫瑰花的美丽，
相信青蛙王子的浪漫故事。

《又寂寞又美好》

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Sitting is killing you

abstracted from Yahoo news.

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shortcuts & tricks

http://techgyo.com/index.php/18-impressive-computer-shortcuts-and-tricks/ its good, esp #12 :)

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天空是什么颜色？

《又寂寞又美好》

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balloons

又寂寞　又美好

calming and bittersweet

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How Much Are You Seeking?

One Ten Hundred Thousand Million Billion Trillion Quadrillion Quintillion ...?

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26 Feb 2011

《又寂寞又美好》

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acronyms. cool~

http://twitter.com/lolacronyms

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Metaphysics

The optimist says, "The glass is half full."
The pessimist says, "The glass is half empty."
The rationalist says, "The glass is twice as big as it needs to be."

extracted from Plato and a Platypus

A thirsty man will find immediate application of the glass of water without further ado. =|

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wah NTU loves me ah

hahaha

Greeting Card

FYP

wah!

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for all good and bad..

i remind myself

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why ah?

the more I think of it, the more perplexed I feel. and angry. and I can't concentrate at work.. on CNY eve, I approached my manager and asked if I could follow out for lunch since the coffee shop isn't open. he said use your own discretion, if there's nothing to do u can leave after 1pm. I was overjoyed and thanked him. coz I simply had nothing to do that day.. so I left at 1pm lor. ystd he came back to me and another colleague. said we give him trouble by leaving at 1pm on CNY eve. wth la! he was the one who said can leave after 1pm if got no work. by common sense if u don't go for lunch u can't expect a person to stay in office for too long after lunch hr right?! another manager told off to my manager that we left at 1pm.. and so he came back to say we should have left at 2-3pm... wth. as if he really meant that when he said can leave after 1pm. coz if he did he would say can leave after 2pm, or any later time instead. stupid. he just wants to cover his big ass, and push the blame to us and say we give him trouble when he is the one who approved initially. very smart huh, but sorry you can't gain ur subordinate's trust and support this way if u don't help ur subordinates. it's really stupid, coz instead of telling us off, he could simply settle and tell us to file for half day to cover our own ass. why has it gotta be the subordinate to suggest how to resolve the situation huh huh?! and this manager of mine went on to give example of how other sales colleagues stayed till 2-3pm. well, I told him 2 staff would have left at 1pm too, if not being told off by the CEO for playing pool during lunch (like wth also lor). and this manager ignored the statement and said that 'but they left at 2+pm so there's still reason to cover' and so they wont have to take that half day. this is nonsense. totally nonsense. argh!!

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funny site.

"The sunset displayed rich, spectacular hues like a .jpeg file at 10 percent cyan, 10 percent magenta, 60 percent yellow and 10 percent black"

I wonder where is the remaining 10% accounted for...

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那些男孩教我的事

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我睡不着…

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bored in new year's day

I was so bored I did that.... =|

wahahahah!

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how much truth can a person take?

my brain is bursting from all the thought processes going on...

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every little things

Just because we don't say thank you every time you do something, doesn't mean we don't appreciate every little thing you do.

The little things usually mean more than anything else.

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20 Ways to Manage Your Boss

i like this article =)

It’s performance-review season in Officeville and that means most of us are going to be singing “me me me” louder than any other time of the year.

Is my boss going to give ME a good review? He’d better give ME a raise — I deserve it! Ooh, do you think he’ll give ME a bonus, too?!

Charming though your little “me” chorus is, the truth is, it’s not going to get you very far unless you start thinking about your boss and how best to manage your relationship with him or her. When we think of managing, we tend to only think of managing subordinates but the truth is, you have to manage in every direction: up, down and side to side.

“Managing up can sound like how to manipulate your boss but that’s not really it all,” said Marie McIntyre, a career coach and author of “Secrets to Winning at Office Politics.” “Whenever you’re trying to build a positive, productive relationship with anybody, you have to look at it from their point of view. And that’s particularly true with your boss because your boss does control a lot of things that affect you at work,” she said.

“Even if you work for an idiot, you have to figure out how to manage working with an idiot,” she added. “As long as that person is your boss, they’re going to affect your life and you have to figure out how to work with them.”

So, how exactly do you “manage” your boss? We asked the pros and they offered up these 20 Ways to Manage Your Boss:

1. Accept the fact that your boss is your boss. It’s amazing how many times people say — I’m not going to tell him that, he’s a jerk. I don’t have to be nice to him — I just have to clock in, do my job and clock out. Wrong! Your boss not only controls if you get a raise this year, if you get promoted or if you get a pink slip but he or she also has great influence on the opinions of his boss and other managers.

If you’re jerky or disrespectful to the boss, it doesn’t hurt anyone but you. So whether you think he’s an idiot or if you have no respect for him doesn’t matter at all. You need to figure out how to manage your relationship with the boss in order to get what you want.

2. Prove that you’re trustworthy. Your boss can’t be everywhere at all times so you’re one of his eyes and ears on the ground. So, if you have information about something good, share it. Even if it’s bad news, you have to have the courage to tell it to your boss so you can put out the fire.

“If you’re sitting on a ticking time bomb, things will happen if you’re afraid to tell the boss the bad news,” said Dion Lim, president of job-search site Simply Hired. “Remember, you and your boss are in this together.”

3. Don’t complain about your boss with others. One easy way to break that trust with your boss is to have her find out that you’ve been complaining about him to other people. So, resist the urge to give in to office complaining. Remember: You never know when that person you think is on your side commiserating about the boss will turn on you. Keep your eye on the big picture and keep your trap shut.

4. Don’t whine! You hate it when your colleagues whine, you hate it when your spouse or kids whine, so what do you think the boss’s response will be if you’re always coming into his office complaining? You guessed it — Hate it! It’s completely fair to bring a complaint or issue to the boss — just make sure you practice how you say it. Keep it professional and check your emotions at the door. If you want to scream, cry or punch something after work — that’s totally your prerogative. When you’re at the office, zip it.

5. Look at the situation from your boss’s point of view. Sitting in your cubicle, it’s easy to sing the me, me, me song, and stew in what you are and are not getting, who’s getting more, etc. But that’s not going to get you anywhere with the boss. Before you approach your boss, try to think about what she’s going through — is it budget time? Did she just have to lay off 20 people? Is she getting pressure to improve the numbers from her boss?

“I call it ‘taking the emotional temperature of the boss,’” said Peggy Klaus, a career coach and author of the book, “Brag! The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It.” “Think about what ticks him off. What pleases him … Do you know when the best time to approach him is? Is he a bear before his morning coffee? Or, is he cranky after a board meeting?!”

“Timing is everything,” said Avi Karnani and Dave Clarke of GetRaised.com, a site that helps employees ask — and get — a raise. “A simple inquiry regarding, say, your interest in working from home one day a week shouldn't be delivered on a Friday evening at the end of the quarter - it's almost a guarantee that your boss will be stressed … That’ll do more damage than good,” Karnani explained. “However, if you were to time your inquiry to when you know your boss will be most receptive (maybe that's on Tuesdays after the lunch hour), you'll probably have more success.”

6. Treat your boss with respect. Regardless of how you feel about your boss, he’s is in a higher position than you and you and you need to treat him with respect.

“This doesn’t mean you have to respect your boss,” McIntyre explained. “You may not actually respect your boss as a person but you need to be respectful of the boss,” she said.

If you don’t, he or she will pick up on it, and respond accordingly. Think about that little punk at the deli counter yesterday. Then ask yourself: If you were the boss, would you promote someone who didn’t respect you?

7. Try to understand your boss’s management style. Every boss has a different style. Some are outgoing and like to chat, some are more quiet. Some like you to keep them in the loop on every little thing. Some don’t want to be bogged down with that, but would rather that you just deliver occasional status reports of the projects you’re working on. Some may not be big on showering you with praise every time you do something good. It also includes how they prefer to interact — phone, email or face-to-face. Also, what time of day is good or bad for them. Whatever it is, find out what your boss’s management style is — and make sure all of your communications with them fit with that style.

This is particularly important when you get a new manager, McIntyre said. “Call them on the phone, send them an email. Find out what they like,” she said. Plus, don’t be afraid to check with colleagues about their experience with the boss and her style. Every little bit helps.

8. Try to make your boss look good! You may have learned to keep your lip zipped when it comes to the boss but you have to go beyond not creating conflict with the boss. You also have to do things that make her look good. Not only will it be better for the team — it will be better for your career.

9. Try to make your boss’s job easier. Yeah, yeah. You’re exhausted. If you think your job is stressful, think about how much more the boss has to deal with! Get over yourself and do things to try to make the boss’s job easier.

“We're not suggesting you become the office kiss-up, but helping your boss out every now and then with day-to-day stuff can go a long way,” Karnani said. “Are you tech-savvy? Does your boss not have the faintest idea on how to operate his iPod? Offer to be his go-to for all things tech. Bottom line, if you make your bosses life easier, chances are, he/she will return the favor when you need it.”

10. Keep your boss in the loop. No matter how busy you are, take the time to keep your boss in the loop. Per No. 7, find out what her style is — how she likes to be notified of what’s going on — and how often. One of the worst things for a boss is to have a fellow manager be talking about someone on her team, and not having any idea what the guy’s talking about or, worse, not knowing about a ticking time bomb. Give your boss regular updates — but make sure you keep them brief. Karnani suggests maybe making a list on Sunday night of what you plan to do in the coming week and send it to your boss.

11. Express some sincere appreciation for your boss. “It never hurts to express some sincere appreciation to your boss,” McIntyre said. They hear a lot about what’s wrong — but don’t often hear praise or appreciation. And who doesn’t like to be appreciated? You’d be amazed about how far a little appreciation will go.

“We’re not talking about sucking up! But things you generally appreciate about your boss — Even a boss you don’t love,” she said.

Surely, you can find at least one nice, sincere thing to say — even if you don't really like the guy. It's not sucking up, it's called "career advancement."

12. Don’t feel entitled. Yes, we all know you work hard and deserve a raise. But walking into the boss’s office with a sense of entitlement is a surefire way to be shuffled out of there in a hurry. “Stay away from broad, general statements like ‘Doesn’t everybody get a promotion after a year?’” Klaus said. Even if everybody does get a raise after a year, you want to prove to the boss that you’ve earned it. Go in there with a list of accomplishments — not a list of entitlements.
13. Offer solutions — not just problems. Do you have any idea how many people on a daily basis, walk in to the boss’s office and dump their purse on his desk? Instead of dropping an open-ended problem, briefly tell him what the problem is and then offer up a couple of solutions. It’s a lot easier to answer a multiple-choice question than an open-ended question. Plus, it will brand you as a “solutions” person — one of the most valuable types of employees to the boss. Of course, be prepared that he may choose e) none of the above, and provide a different solution. Remember, he’s the boss — that’s his prerogative. What’s important is that he will appreciate your effort to solve the problem, not just dump it on his desk.

“I love it! I always love when someone comes to me with a solution,” Klaus said. “That takes you out of the whining category!”

14. Do your homework! Before you go into the boss’s office with a request for a raise or new project, do your homework. Find out what your company’s policies are, what the company’s going through right now (financially and organizationally) and what’s going on in your industry in general, suggests Stacey Carroll, a human-resources expert for PayScale.com and an adjunct professor at Western Washington University.

Then, prepare a list of key bullet points before you talk to the boss and do a practice run — either alone in your office or before a spouse or friend outside the office. “I call it getting it off your tongue,” Klaus said. That will help make sure you’re brief and not tongue-tied. Plus, try to anticipate the boss’s response — and have some answers ready.

15. Have a clear objective. Sometimes you think you know what you’re asking for just because you’ve gone over and over it in your head. But if you don’t do your prep, you may go in there and do the verbal equivalent of falling down a flight of stairs.

Know what your objective is, get in, get out — and let the boss move on.

16. Defer to your boss. Lim said one of the best pieces of advice he ever got from a mentor was to defer to your boss. You go in there with clear objectives and say “This is what we’re planning to talk about today.” Then, defer to your boss and say, “Is there something else that you actually feel is more urgent for us to talk about?”

“That lets him know that you’re well prepared but you’re ready to put it in your back pocket if something is more urgent,” he said.

17. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Too often, people see asking for help as a weakness and want to be that “Yes” Man to their boss. Remember that your boss’s objective is to get the task done, so don’t be the “Yes” Man, be the “Get it Done” Man — even if it means asking for help. Your boss won’t think less of you for asking, they’ll think more of you — because you quickly assessed what it would take to get the job done — and got it done.

18. Toot your own horn. A lot of people treat bosses and colleagues like a date — they don’t want to be seen as the obnoxious person who brags too much. Knock it off! No one says you have to be obnoxious but if you don’t tell the boss your accomplishments, who will? Remember, you are thinking about one employee — you — and your boss has a whole lot of employees to think about. So periodically make sure you let her know about your accomplishments and any great feedback you’ve received.

“The boss often really doesn’t know what you’re doing,” Klaus explained. “You absolutely have to toot your own horn. And you can do it artfully and gracefully,” she said.

19. Ask your boss for honest feedback. So, you got a bad review or you didn’t get that raise. A lot of people will take that as a cue to complain about the boss, or write it off as him not understanding or appreciating you. So how’s that working out for you? It probably strained your relationship. A better bet, Carroll said, is to ask your boss for honest feedback. There’s probably a lot more going on than he didn’t understand or appreciate you. Maybe there’s a budget freeze or maybe there are restructuring plans. Find out what the issues are — and then find out if there’s anything else you can do to improve your chances of getting that raise, getting that promotion — whatever it is you’re asking him for.

20. Don’t try to be friends with your boss. Sorry, we’re grown-ups now and you have to accept that you can be friendly with your boss but anyone who’s conducting your performance review or deciding if you get a raise cannot be your friend. Being too close with the boss could not only strain relations with your peers, but stir rumors of favoritism., McIntyre cautioned. So that not only creates problems for you, but problems for your boss — which is what this whole list is aimed at avoiding.

So, does that mean forget the holiday gift?

No way!, the pros say. A modest gift is a sign of your appreciation and, like anyone else, bosses like to be appreciated.

One way to keep it from getting weird is to go in with several co-workers on a gift for the boss. That’s a win-win-win: Your boss feels appreciated, you look good and now you’ve also made your co-workers look good.

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nuts!

haix.. I suspect it's ystd's cashew nuts..

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How my handwriting has changed since Kindergarten

With compliments to theoatmeal.com

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Yellow and Turquoise

12 Jan 2011
2pm

I saw my 学妹 boarding the train at Redhill Mrt.

it's her first year and she is wearing the name temp name tag despite alrd on the way home. despite how smartly dressed, the skirt will still crease and fold upwards due to the bag that hangs above. and it's still the bright yellow and seemingly same material, which will fade over the years to a translucent blouse by the start of First 3 Months of the next stage in life.

apparently it's one of the few schools which still requires students to wear white shoes to school. but don't worry girl, ur shoes will bleach to a colorful one by the end of sch year, just as how ur skirt will find it's way to grow short at a faster time than it take for ur legs to grow long. soon, you'll understand and experience it for yourself..

then I smiled :)

it's been a long while since then. I wonder if there were also people looking at us then, smiling to themselves, and thinking how long it had been for themselves..

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Lie Detector Robot

John was a salesman's delight when it came to any kind of unusual gimmicks. His wife, Marsha, had long ago given up trying to get him to change.

One day John came home with another one of his unusual purchases. It was a robot that John claimed was actually a lie detector.

At 5:30 that afternoon, his 11 year old son, Tommy, returned home from school two hours late.
"Where have you been? Why are you over 2 hours late getting home?" asked John.

"Several of us went to the library to work on an extra credit project," said Tommy.

The robot walked around the table and slapped Tommy, knocking him completely out of his chair.

"Son," said John, "this robot is a lie detector, now tell us where you really were after school."

"We went to Bobby's house and watched a movie." said Tommy. "What did you watch?" asked his mother.

"The Ten Commandments." answered Tommy.

The robot went around to Tommy and once again slapped him, knocking him off his chair.

With his lip quivering, Tommy got up, sat down and said, "I am sorry I lied. We really watched a tape called Sex Queen."

"I am ashamed of you son," said John. When I was your age, I never lied to my parents."

The robot walked around to John and delivered a whack that knocked him out of his chair.

Marsha doubled over in laughter, almost in tears, and said, "Boy, did you ever ask for that one! You can't be too mad with Tommy. After all, he is your son!"

The robot walked around to Marsha and knocked her out of her chair.

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《刚好》 几米

拥抱一只猫
莫名涌现
幸福美满的感动

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I wished u were here.. I am tearing and I want a hug...

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muacKs!

my kok is getting married, i'm so happy for them!

and i'll be there for you :D

i've done some homework le (1) (2). Need some help though, coz i can't find much of local context XD

i'm so excited for you and for me! hahahha

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《我的心中每天开出一朵花》 几米

快樂過馬路
我混在鴨群中，
搖搖擺擺地過馬路，
還大聲唱著難聽的歌。
啦啦啦啦……下雨了…
啦啦啦啦……打雷了…

請原諒我的張狂，
人的一生沒有幾次可以
輕鬆快樂地穿越馬路。
啦啦啦啦……啦啦啦啦……

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