this friend of mine was known for being a trouble-causer. she changed schools several times, never finished secondary school, used to break a hell lot of rules by rules, i mean school rules and public law and her parents had the hardest time with her. her string of relationships were not steady either. so of course, when there was news that she was getting married (and not because of pre-marital pregnancy), it comes of as a shock to many.
then again,
if anyone we knew got married at the age of 18, wouldn't we be almost as equally surprised?
what is conventional and unconventional though?
wasn't there a time in our past when our grandparents, or perhaps even for some of us, our parents, had marriages that were set up? when marriages took place at a young age? my grandmother married my grandfather when she was 20 and he is more than 10 years her senior. one of my close friend's parents were acquainted with each other for a year before they got married.
this was what was conventional back then.
at least to my idea.
my main point and thought is that we cannot measure or estimate how people love. humans have put labels to time; there are seconds, minutes, hours, days and months. but really, how much one feels and experiences in that allotted time is different from that of another. the concept of time is so relative and flawed; perhaps the only reason we do need the measuring of time is to align order in our elective-filled lives.
it is so easy for us to condemn relationships that fall apart when they have had only such a brief coming together i.e the Kardashian/Humphrey, 27-million-dollars-worth tv drama. so much, that we start condemning the idea of short and young encounters.
wasn't there a time in our past when our grandparents, or perhaps even for some of us, our parents, had marriages that were set up? when marriages took place at a young age? my grandmother married my grandfather when she was 20 and he is more than 10 years her senior. one of my close friend's parents were acquainted with each other for a year before they got married.
this was what was conventional back then.
at least to my idea.
my main point and thought is that we cannot measure or estimate how people love. humans have put labels to time; there are seconds, minutes, hours, days and months. but really, how much one feels and experiences in that allotted time is different from that of another. the concept of time is so relative and flawed; perhaps the only reason we do need the measuring of time is to align order in our elective-filled lives.
it is so easy for us to condemn relationships that fall apart when they have had only such a brief coming together i.e the Kardashian/Humphrey, 27-million-dollars-worth tv drama. so much, that we start condemning the idea of short and young encounters.
ohhh they've only known each other for a month, how can they be so sure?
she's getting married at such a young age, their marriage wouldn't last~
nothing can nor should justify what a relationship is like to the people who are in it. we will never experience nor feel what two people feel when they are together. and neither can we determine what will happen to another's relationship in the course of the future, just because it appears unconventional to our ways and beliefs. what is different and contradicting to our principles is not always wrong. in fact, there is no wrong and right. there is only the comparison of those two states.
just like time.
two people may have only been together for what seems like a very short period of time, but your view and their view of the time they have spent is absolutely incomparable. you are not a part of their world and to be frank, you will never be.
she's getting married at such a young age, their marriage wouldn't last~
nothing can nor should justify what a relationship is like to the people who are in it. we will never experience nor feel what two people feel when they are together. and neither can we determine what will happen to another's relationship in the course of the future, just because it appears unconventional to our ways and beliefs. what is different and contradicting to our principles is not always wrong. in fact, there is no wrong and right. there is only the comparison of those two states.
just like time.
two people may have only been together for what seems like a very short period of time, but your view and their view of the time they have spent is absolutely incomparable. you are not a part of their world and to be frank, you will never be.
i sound very much like i am defending something.
perhaps i am.
