Thought no. yxrt

I've heard of this phenomena called "Tough Love".

Its where you're intentionally mean to the people you love to

(i)toughen them up or

(ii)to make them angry at you

so that

(a)they strive to better themselves

(b)pull themselves out of the funk that they are currently in.

But as with all things, this is a heavily laden double edged sword.

The person you practice tough love on should never know that you love them and are doing this for their good until someone else points it out to them.

You have to be able to tolerate this person hating you so that they become stronger.

You sacrifice their love in order for them to gain strength.

Is this logical?

Does it make sense?

Has it worked in your life?

How many people have you been angry at that were actually doing what they did out of love?

Anger in one's heart does help one move past grief as the 5 stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

Anger helps one steel ones heart from more pain and pushes people to strive harder to prove someone else's statement wrong.

Anger for too long can lead to suffering and grief later as well as end up pushing people away.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is take some time out of your life.

Reflect on how you've been treated by others. Think about what they did.

How it made you feel.

Then think about how it made them feel. Think about their motives.

Did it help you in the long run? Was it just a small incident? Did it change your life forever?

Is there a lesson in there that you learnt from?

I mean, just take some time out to think. You may be surprised.

Thought no. What?

ahoy there dear readers? are you ready!
... i was thinking

about how ive' only been working in actuality for a week and, yet i feel as if i could get used to this
. i mean not to say but you know,.,.,.

jobs are like relationships they require effort time and nurturing if they are to love you back i mean take for example a parent who does the utmost that they can for their children would expect the child to love them in return or to at least understand the effort theyve put in but unfortunately
this isnt always the way it turns out similarly in our jobs we can do our damnest throw and pour our heart and souls into it and yet still not get an emotional reward out of it but honestly how many of us are doing our job for the money and would rather get paid for just bumming and lazing around at home

lets look at a phrase that has been used often through time .,,...()''- i want to love my job
want defines something that isnt necessary for survival but more towards the lines of if its convenient and doesnt require much effort and its for my own passion and enjoyment
love is an emotion and even if you were never in any meaningful relationships it requires effort as mentioned above understanding from both parties and a lot of hard work although i know this is just a substitute word for effort but hey it promotes emphasis because more people understand the word hard work than they do effort and its something you hear often so you know it must be true
my job refers to an employment of some kind where you perform and carry out certain tasks mental or manual or sometimes a combination of both in return for renumeration omg fancy word for earnings wages salary pay pocket money pittance etc
for some people their job is a large part of their lives and for some not so much but in any case if you have a job its a part of your life ...........()(),,,,,,,,''' youre receiving financial compensation for it and now you want emotional compensation as well
what other form of compensations do you require in this world i am not fully aware but im sure that unless your job is your life it shouldnt be your one stop shop for all your needs and frankly when you say something like want it indicates to me that your needs are already being met elsewhere
and for those of you whom your job is your life and that you are so emotionally attached to it and youre still unhappy with it well its time you rethink your relationship and see if that relationship is still giving you what you want or if its time for you to move on i mean 43% of marriages end up in divorce most of the time from a lack of communication or effort so think carefully before you do it im not advocating .....,,,()'' quitting im advocating thinking.

what the hell am i talking about i dont know and for those of you who have been paying attention just think about it and see if you can make any sense of it it sounds a lot more organized in my head....()''!?

Thought no.899

I was just having this morbid thought about my death. Again.

If you are the type that doesn't like thinking about these things, leave now. No one's forcing you to be here and if there is I find that a very interesting and intriguing situation and I do hope you survive it.

But anyway folks, what we're really here for is to talk about the Great Beyond, The Greener Grass, The Wild Blue Yonder, The Other Side, Kicking the Bucket, Pwnage, Etc. (actually Etc. isn't used to describe death, its just a term to indicate "and other examples. See you learn something new every day.)

Friends are a large part of life. Let's not deny that "No Man is an Island". Unless you have discovered an island with the name of "No Man".

Without friends or people you share your life with, you are alone. OMG Lyon stating the obvious.

Being alone, is lonely. (Refer to above).

You have no one to share your laughter with, no one to sing along with you, hold you when you are sad or to talk to when you get depressing thoughts. It really sucks.

Sure, there are times when you just want to be left alone, but that feeling doesn't really last for very long. We're social creatures from birth, sucking titties and looking for attention. Don't deny it.

Back on topic, I was thinking that if you were a good friend, you would have your friends interests at heart. You'd care for them when they were down, offer them advice that wouldn't ruin their lives and not mess with their wallets without their permission.

Also you wouldn't log in to their private lives and question them about it later <-that means you mum.

So if friends are important to you and you have their best interests at heart, wouldn't you plan for your death?

Once you're gone who are they going to talk to, to laugh with, to share?

Would it be better to just be a marginal part of someone's life so that in the event that you die (regardless we all will someday, along with pay taxes) they won't miss you too much?

As a friend, is it wrong for us to not allow ourselves to get close to people so that we won't hurt them in the future?

Either by leaving them via death or by just growing apart (which is a sort of death).

I don't know why am I sharing this part of my personal life here on my blog instead of on facebook. It seems like a much better medium to garner attention and commentary on this issue.

But then again, I guess I do want to restrict commentary to people who actually know and read this piece of writing me.

So anyway, your thoughts are appreciated and welcome, if you have any to share. Peace out!

Sarawakian

Sarawakians are like the African-American community of America.

We are a strong voter base, it'll be a miracle if one of us ever made it into the top post of the country and we (or at least, I) have pride at being part of this state.

Be you FooChow, Lumbawang, Bidayuh, Cina, Apek, Lau Bu, Lau Pan Niang, etc. it's a great people oriented community.

Like the Ozzies and Kiwis, I somehow feel as if people from different parts of the state have friendly competition between each other but if you mess with one of us, you will mess with all of us.

Recently we were featured in the Star, in fact we just got the Star in an East Sarawak edition. We have nature parks, beaches, culture, a jazz fest (which I have yet to attend) and most of our guys make good boyfriends.

I don't know how many Sarawakians you know, but the ones I do are good, honest and down-to-earth people. We can drink and laugh loudly, secrets and dramas are few and far between.

I'm proud to be Sarawakian. Disagree with me, tell me that your state has those things as well and that you know Sarawakians who aren't worthy of praise, well thats your experience and I respect that.

But you ain't going to change my mind!