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aduhhh...i'm freakin bored & tired now~~ yikesss..gotta wake up at 8am tmr..i cant imagine how tired i'll be after my workout tmr.....wish me luck den!!~

How Do I Learn to Trust?

Usually being hurt, lied to or cheated on in the past is what makes trusting more difficult as you move on to different relationships.

Or perhaps, this guy has been displaying red flags that say you should not trust him. For example, he stays out late all the time and gives you minimal information on where he’s been. Or he wants to keep your relationship secret. Or he treats you like a queen when you’re a lone, but hardly acknowledges you in public. These would all be signs that he isn’t worthy of your trust. If this describes your relationship, you have reason to be weary. Tell him to change his act or you will be moving on. If he is not showing any signs of being untrustworthy, please continue reading.

First of all, good for you for taking the leap of faith and getting involved in a relationship again. That in itself is a hard step and takes a certain amount of trust to do so. You can choose to not trust and try to keep yourself safe from hurt. Or, you can allow yourself to be vulnerable and open up the doors to a whole new world as you begin truly sharing it with someone. I highly recommend the latter. Distrusting him will not protect you from getting hurt. By protecting yourself and distrusting, you will weaken and eventually ruin your relationship, which leads to heartache, the very thing you are trying to protect yourself against.

If you let go and begin trying to trust, your relationship will begin to grow. You will realize that each time you trust him and he proves you right, you will feel closer to him. One thing that you need to understand is there are no guarantees in life, including relationships. We can do many things to ensure happiness in a relationship, like finding a compatible partner, but that still doesn’t guarantee we won’t get hurt. He could be killed in a car crash tomorrow, or he still could hurt you. But the old adage, it is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all is very true when we have loved someone deeply and have had that love returned.

So, decide if this guy is a good match for you. If he is, let go and be vulnerable. It will enrich your life as you enjoy the journey with a true friend who knows you for all the good and bad and loves you just the same. There is nothing more satisfying and reassuring to know that you are unconditionally loved. This relationship will not happen overnight. It will take time and patience on both your parts. Let him know the importance of keeping your trust as you try to open up.

As you open up, focus on the good things that are happening as a result, not the fear that you may be experiencing from being vulnerable. Recognize where the feelings of jealousy are coming from. (Probably an ex-boyfriend) and direct those feelings toward those who caused it, not your new boyfriend who had nothing to do with it. You will be glad you did.

Trust: Reward or Heartbreak?

“She broke my heart; I thought I could trust her!”

“I can trust him with my life; I know that his word is good.”

What a totally different feeling each of these statements evokes. The first engenders pain, anger and channels our energy toward survival. The second instills peace, a sense of security, and an amazing freedom to direct our energy toward creative and productive personal and partnership tasks.

The foundation for any satisfying and enduring life or business partnership is TRUST. Think about your relationship right now, do you absolutely trust your partner in all things? Probably not 100% as none of us is perfect, but hopefully in those things that count.

Where is absolute trust mandatory to sustain either a life or business partnership?

• Does it matter that she calls another man on the phone?
• Is it okay for him to be late coming home?

It is all about boundaries. Boundaries are the limits or parameters established by the partnership, when these are adhered to [by both parties] trust reaps abundant rewards, when they are violated, heartbreak results.

The secret thus is to be fully aware of what these boundaries are. Sounds simple enough? On the surface it appears to be, but we all bring a variety of expectations to a partnership and it is critical to establish relationship ground rules.

If you haven’t already done so, start talking today. Where to begin? The most obvious needs are where the rubs in your relationship occur. We’re not talking about chores or fundamental tasks; we’re talking about boundary issues, for example:

• Is it okay for him to have single woman friends?
• Is it okay for her to have lunch with her ex?

Matters of trust generally revolve around issues of physical and emotional fidelity. For most it is blatantly obvious that physical intimacy with another is a violation of trust, while emailing or chatting on the internet with members of the opposite gender might be seen as perfectly okay. [An aside: This is a form of emotional cheating, more on this another time.]

So, to reap the rewards of Trust it is essential to establish mutually agreeable boundaries round that partnership of yours. Do this by having an open, honest, loving dialog. Remember, at the core is that desire to capture and sustain a sense of security, energy, and peace ~ one of the most coveted prizes of life.

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................ here's d bad news ................
my hairstylist involved in an accident and he hurt his hand..hence, he's unable to do his job for months... tat's reli a bad bad bad news for me!!! i'm stil wondering to hv a hair cut on jan!! yikessss... i gonna search for another new hairstylist which seems reli tough for me.. I'm those who cant let any hairstylist to touch my hair!!! i gonna b mad of tat larh!!!!

New Year Countdown Party

INVITATION
New Year Countdown Party
Hey dudes & babes!!
It's time for us to say bye-bye to 2008 & 2009 is approaching us soon!
2008 is another memorable year for every1 of us yet let's welcome 2009 together!
We're here to invite you guys to our 2009 NEW YEAR COUNTDOWN PARTY.
So guys, let's grab this opportunity to gather-gather with your friends as which many of us have not gather together for months.

The Party Information is as below :-

Date: 31st December 2008 ( Wednesday )

Time : 7.30pm till early morning of 010109

Venue: Bukit Tinggi 1- MH Childcare Centre ( Meng Yee's childcare centre )

Address: 3 Lorong Batu Nilam 9M, Bandar Bukit Tinggi 1, Klang.

Dresscode: Casual

Payment: - RM10 for food and drinks -need to buy a present minimum of RM5 for exchange present session.

Notes:
* The party will start at 7.30 pm till late night as we gonna countdown for 2009. For those who've transport problem to go back, you guys can stay there too.
** The party will be held at Mengyee's Mum Childcare Centre @ BBT 1. Map will be given later on.
*** The main aim of this party is for all of us to gather together & hence, I hope you guys able to contribute RM10 as we don't really have a lot of budget. We'll try our best to make a memorable party for u guys.I guess RM10 is reasonable right?
- For the present part, we're going to have an present exchange session. & there will be activities & enjoy yourself on that day!
**** PLEASE KINDLY INFORM US ON UR ATTENDANCE ON 20th OF DECEMBER D LATEST! PLEASE GET BACK TO US ASAP! THX FOR YOUR KINDLY ATTENTION!

For enquiry :-
Ng Mei Ying : mying1021@hotmail.com
Tan Meng Yee : my_swtheart_91@hotmail.com
Shereen Ong : puppy0711@yahoo.com

This party is FOR EVERYONE ! get what i mean? I mean everyone. We really hope those who received invitation mails or messages PLEASE COME! Please...You can bring along your friends,your family, anyone.Please confirm with me thru MSN, Email or you can leave your message in chatbox.