Friends & Me

Recently I have been heading down to ToaPayoh on Sundays to play street soccer with BoonTeck people. In general, I've known most of them for a few years and its rather depressing to see that there are splits and splinters forming within their close knitted group. Relations between them were like brothers when I first met them.

I realised that there are actually many different personalities and characters within this group. There are people who are self-sacrificing (can organise events but don't expect to gain credit but others don't appreciate), people who only take but don't give, people that blame everyone else but themselves and people who generally don't give a damn about anything.

I admit that I really don't know most of them very well except for a handfull, but I can definitely see the stress and strain recent events had caused.

What is the meaning of FRIEND to me? I think that a friend is someone that can be there for you when you need him/her. Like what the saying goes, "a friend in need is a friend indeed". My best friend once told me that friends are there to make use of each other. In a way, I find it very very true too. But there some bastards out there that only want to make use, but not be made used of. These are the types that really spoils friendship.

As a Chinese saying goes, "at home, depend on family; when out, depend on friends". In my view, of the 5 most important thing in my life: FAMILY, LOVE, FRIENDS, MONEY, CAREER, i think that all are equally important, so people, treasure those friends around you. DO NOT REGRET WHEN THEY ARE GONE.

Career...?

A friend, QiJian, recently asked me, what's my definition of "career"? I was really dumbfounded, because i really had no idea. Then i asked myself the same very question many times, what is a CAREER? The same answer popped up each time. Its just a way to earn money and to live my life comfortably. To me personally, CAREER = WORK + TIME = MONEY. Its just so simple. As i had mentioned earlier, I recently just began my working life and reality slapped me real hard on the face. I spend approximately around 10+ hours a day at work, another 2+ hours for travelling, another 2+ hours for food and smoke, 1+ hour for bathing and grooming (Shaving and such, I bathe twice a day), remaining 7 hour spent on sleeping and other recreational activities. Things just starting to be very routine and my conclusion as in why I am willing to do it, its solely because of the money. That's my one and only conclusion to it...

Work Work... ...

Currently I'm working for Schenker with Apple doing Return Materials Authorisation (RMA) as a Logistic Officer. Work is tough man, I can assure you that working life is very different from NS or school. Everyday I would reach home about 8pm feeling damn tired and sleepy. RMA is a job where I have to keep facing the computer screen all the while. LOL. My work place has a very strong 'YIN' atmosphere, meaning that there are more females than males. My group got 5 people, 4 girls plus me. HAHA. Starting I was rather 'disturbed', but lucky they are really very friendly and helped me fit in. My 'mentor' is a girl named Han Qian, a very lively person that is willing to patiently show me the trades. Jaclyn is a very funny woman who just gave birth to a very cute kid recently. Andrea is someone that can really change the mood in the office with her antics. Shirley might look fierce, but actually she is very helpful. HAHA. So all in all, I guess I'm very lucky to be able to have such colleagues. Tomorrow most probably might have to do OT...Tired, but rewarding in many ways.

Finally... Work!

I am due to start work tomorrow as a RMA Logistics Officer with Schenker (Apple). I am rather excited and scared at the same time, not because of work, but the workplace. I was told that it was a mostly female working environment, hence, I don't know if I can cope with all the PMS-es. HAHAHA. Jokes aside, some people have been asking me, why logistics? I have pondered and wondered myself why i chose logistics too and not continue to further my education in engineering, (I have a diploma in Aerospace Electronics). I believe that engineering is basically a very monotonous job, whereas logistics is a fast-paced and exciting one. Goods come and go daily, meaning that I would be kept busy all the time. Hence, to me, a better working environment. In fact I'm planning to study a degree course in logistics. Ok. Got to go! BYE!

A Dedication to My Parents

Today is my parents' wedding anniversary. They've been together for 29 years, and as their son, I have seen them stick through thick and thin, ups and downs. Take my Dad's failed business venture back in '02 as an example, my Mum stood by him and help him tide over all difficulties. Is this really the power of love?

I remember having a real good childhood. I had more toys than any of my peers, I had more clothes, basically, I had more of everything. My parents toiled to earn more money so as to provide better things for their 3 sons. However, when I was young, I would keep wondering, "why Dad and Mum cannot play with me?"Hence, from young, my brothers and I were taken care of by our Grandmother. This is the reason why I'm so close to her.

To me, my Mum is truly the greatest woman on earth. She is the most self-sacrificing woman that I known in my current 22 years of life. She is the kind of woman that would bottle up all her feelings and anger and just continue to soldier on with her life. Honestly, I never really felt much motherly love when i was young. That's really due to the fact that I was dumb then. My Mum loves all 3 of us. Now, whenever I see how she is taking care of my nephew, Asher, it rather nostalgic, as it reminded me of how my Grandmother took care of me when I was young. I swear to God that I could really feel the exact same feelings exuded by my Grandmother and my Mum, the feeling of maternal love. Thank you Mum, for everything you have done for me.

My Dad is almost like the real-life Homer Simpson, abeit not in terms of being retarded or stupid. My Dad is a joker, he can crack jokes out of nowhere and really bring smiles to everyone. Ask my girlfriend, she would tell you that my Dad is damn funny. He is the classical 'Lao Kock Kock', meaning old yet want to act trendy. HAHAHA. He would spike his hair, listen to MP3, have the latest handphones on the market, etc. Just yesterday I heard him listening to some Hip-Hop music! I almost fell to the floor in laughter. My Dad also likes keeping tabs on my life, he would ask me how is my girlfriend doing, when am I going to do this and that, etc. But I know, he is just simply concerned about me. Thanks Dad.

Parents are like jewels to the family, without them, we wouldn't be here. There is an old chinese proverb, "having an elder person at home is the same as having a priceless treasure." My parents have offered not only financial aid over the years, but also lessons on how to live my life. Hence, you people out there, please treasure your parents, no one lives forever. Don't regret when they are gone... .... ...

Q & A Time

Firstly, let me clarify one thing. I am afraid of rats. LoL. Everyone is telling me the same thing, that they can't believe I am afraid of something so tiny. Well, I am, and I believe everyone has their weakness. I might appear quite fearless in front of you guys, but actually I am scared of little 'Mickey Mouse'.

Secondly, I AM NOT A CHRISTIAN!! I am an pious Buddhist. The reason why I state God is for the general public, as not everyone believe in Buddhism. Its also for better understanding of what I wanted to say.

Thirdly, I do not want to disclose who my friend was, as in the one that went emotional. Its really private and I hope you people can respect his privacy. Not everyone wants their stories to be published.

I've said my piece. For further Questions and Answers, please refer to me in MSN. Thank you.

Mood Swings and PMS

PMS, short for Premenstrual Syndrome, is something that all females have to go through every month. This is the time where they start getting very emotional and stuffs. They would start thinking about stuffs that they wouldn't usually be thinking. They can be happy for one second and angry at the next. So be very wary......



Ok, this post is actually for us males. If you girlfriend is having, or about to have their PMS, its time to prepare for action. Note that it can start as early as two weeks before her menses start.

(P.S. Please try to take note of the previous time she had her menses, so its easier for you to gauge the timing of her next cycle.)


Things Not To Do:

• DO NOT go against her wishes. Try to accommodate her.
• DO NOT make any foul comments about her. (e.g. Looks or Size, etc)
• DO NOT make her jealous.

Do not get me wrong, I'm not saying that you should give in to her all the time. I also understand the fact that they can be very unreasonable during this period of time. What I'm trying to say is that we should be more understanding. I sincerely think that none of them want PMS to happen also. I believe that they would also be very appreciative if you could give some concession to them too. It would be best if you can accompany them more often during this period of time.

Hahaha, lucky for me, my girlfriend has a very mild problem of PMS. Thank God and thank you dear! You are the best girlfriend anyone can ask for. Good luck to all my male pals that have problems with PMS. Hope my post helped you guys to understand and cope better with PMS!