dear blog..
time flies..
i noe i haven been bloggin 4 094784379483943799395793795739783273628426874 years..
n although i noe i will b rather busy 2 blog in future..
but still i will nt 4get u..
tis yr is comin 2 an end..
n i m glad tt it was realli a great yr 4 me..
i hav a bunch of 50 wonderful classmates (AF09) frm SEED..
i hav a bunch of wonderful colleagues..
i hav a wonderul family (as usual)..
but wads more is tt..
i will b havin another wonderful big family n lifetime partner in 4 days' time =)
thx god 4 all these wonderful times..
**Random**
Below are some stuff tt i believe is rather impt..
Rules For A Happy Marriage
• Never both be angry at the same time.
• Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
• If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
• If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
• Never bring up mistakes of the past.
• Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
• Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
• At least once everyday try to say one kind or
complimentary thing to your life's partner.
• When you have done something wrong, be
ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
• It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one
in the wrong is the one who does the most talking.
Monday, January 31, 2011 | 10:14 AM
time flies.. n i noe i hardly blog le.. but i tink tis might oso b a gd ting.. cause i hardly blog abt happi stuff though i alwaes try 2.. n 4 now.. i jus wanna sae tt i'm a contented n happi gal.. n all thx 2 him =D xoxo thx god 4 him..
Friday, November 05, 2010 | 10:27 PM
oh well~ poor blog.. been mths since i last update here.. somehow i've alrd lost the habit of bloggin.. i used 2 make it a pt 2 blog everydae as a form of update 2 my frens.. but it somehow seemed tt i blogged 4 myself 2 read onli.. n now tt i m alrd workin n has someone 2 hav my attention on.. i gt lesser time 4 myself.. wich i kind of ly it too.. cause whenever i'm on my own.. my emotions will stir negatively.. n i noe i've become more n more sensitive.. i used 2 b tt kind of cant b bothered abt aniting.. n no matter wad other ppl sae abt me.. i wouldn get affected.. but now.. i can even get affected by a msg on fone.. probably tings jus change as time goes by.. i was oso told tt cause of my sensitiveness.. i become more n more protective of myself.. haixx~ now i jus wished tt my course can start soon n mayb i'll b back 2 the old me ba..
i'm still thankful 4 everyting i hav now..
loves~
Sunday, September 12, 2010 | 5:59 PM
i was told tt i had been neglectin my dear blog.. well~ i oso doubt tt anione out dere is payin attention 2 tis blog.. n as usual.. busy wif work n family n frens n soon will hav additional part on sch.. paternal grandpa passed awae ard a mth ago.. n realli appreciated those who came down or dropped msgs.. new job startin in mid oct..
ytd went underwater world, dolphin lagoon n wated songs of the sea.. had super lots of fun n almost bought a dolphin plushie hm as a sovenier.. is alwaes sweeter 2 receive than 2 buy it 4 urself, isnt it?? haha~ =P went 2 hav dinner in some restaurants near the beach beside the wavehse.. den went 2 watch songs of the sea.. gr8 dae, gr8 company.. wad else more can i ask 4??
2dae.. hm all dae.. feelin moody abt sumting tt i was actualli lookin 4ward 2.. cause it was somewhere tt i've nvr been 2.. though he's been askin abt y m i lookin so moody.. i kept quiet abt it.. cause i don wanna bring it up 2 stir up all my emotions even more.. n neither will i wan him 2 feel bad n change plans or wadsoever cause of tis.. haixx~ if he can guess it den i'll tok.. if nt.. it'll jus bury it into the corner of my heart keep 'my bdae' company.. haixx~ hate my emotions 2 the core~
Wednesday, June 23, 2010 | 9:41 PM
well~ the last time i blogged was one mth ago n i'm back again.. it seems ly is nvr gd whenever my blog.. all my posts r ly angry or emo.. n it still remains..
tis wk is ly freakin screwed up.. esp these daes.. i'm beginnin 2 feel sick 2 stay in tis place alrd.. tis workin environment is gd.. but w/o SOME PPL.. n the ting i hate the most is.. I'M BEIN TREATED LY A BALL.. n nt bein thankful at all.. i can even get her havin 2 sae me shldnt do tis n tt.. everyting i do is freakin wrong.. wads wrong wif her????!!!!!!!!!!!!!! m i an eyesore 2 her or wad?? y muz she alwaes come down on me.. i'm ly the onli one tt keep gettin all these stuff la.. n y muz it b me?!!!! she saes my attitude has changed.. but she shld do some reflection on y oso.. so freakin pissed tt i wan 2 cry.. yes~ pissed n cry.. tts it~
why must they do this 2 me.. especially when i've even thought of staying here.. why why why?!!!! why must they make me start 2 hate tis place..\ when i'm getting fonder of it.. why............
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Thursday, May 20, 2010 | 8:07 PM
din blog 4 2wks le.. busy wif my work n life is as usual of course.. n reason tt i'm here.. IS MY BDAE~!!!!!!!!!!!!! well~ tings wasnt as gd as i xpected.. esp when tis yr's bdae is a super special one.. cause i tot i don nd 2 spend it alone.. but in the end.. i m still spendin it alone at hm jus ly the past yrs.. i had ppl askin me y m i online on my bdae.. y m i at hm n etc.. n i jus reply a simple reason -- 2 rest.. but actual fact is nt tt i din hav anione 2 spend wif.. is jus tt i stubborn-ly wan 2 spend it either wif tt person or alone.. wich tt person is so so so so so so so so so so so busy tt we din even hav time 2 sit down 4 a proper meal.. though we alwaes see each other dae n nite.. haixx~ quite pathetic hor?? oh well~ dere isnt a choice 4 either of us.. so i jus hav 2 countdown 2 another 4hrs or less n it will end my bdae le..
i only have a simple wish.. but i know.. it'll never come true..
Thursday, May 06, 2010 | 8:04 PM
What is Self Esteem?
Self-esteem is best described as the degree to which we view our ‘worthiness’ as a person. The foundation of our self-image is first developed during childhood and continues throughout life. If you have low self-esteem, these earlier experiences have simply overshadowed you and have come to represent the sum total of who believe you are. Regardless of whom you are, or where you have been, there is real hope for living a life of renewed purpose, meaning, and discovery. You do not have to stay here any longer. Lets first talk a little bit about low self worth and then discuss how you can find help, and what to do to find new life again.
Low Self Esteem Is More Common Than You May Think
According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), approximately one out of every 4 adults will suffer from a psychological disorder in any given year, the majority of for which low self-esteem is an underlying factor. In relation to a 2004 population poll conducted by the Census Bureau, that translates to a staggering 57.7 million people in the US, and nearly 8 million in Canada. Poor self-image puts us at risk for eating disorders, teenage pregnancy, depression, suicide, criminal or violent behavior, bullying, victimization, drug and alcohol abuse, spousal abuse, poor job performance, divorce, and disastrous relationships to name only a few. The good news however, is that just as self-esteem is developed during childhood, as an adult, you can learn to counter self-defeating behavior. With self-esteem counseling and support, you can discover how to release your negative self-image and accept a more positive sense of self.
What Are the Symptoms of Low Self Esteem?
Low self esteem is not something that simply appears one morning. It is developed and nurtured over time. Every day we experience situations that either boost our self-confidence or tear it apart. The challenge for those of us who lack a strong identity is that once a poor self-image is accepted, we tend to make choices in our lives to support those beliefs. Or to put simply, once you have accepted the idea that you are worthless, most, if not all of your choices in life will be in harmony with that belief. Choices such as an abusive partner, disrespectful friends, or a dead-end job only serve to validate and compound an already fragile sense of worth. Suffering from low self esteem can become a vicious, never-ending cycle.
Some of the classic signs of low self-esteem are: consistent anxiety and emotional turmoil, always accentuating the negative, unable to accept compliments, overly concerned about what others think, don’t trust one’s own opinions, constantly depressed, socially withdraw, self-neglect, eating disorders, unable to take on challenges, always quitting and resigning, controlling, needy, success driven, arrogant, extremely self-defensive (someone who retaliates far worse than what would normally be expected), exaggerated perfectionism, and a constant need for validation and recognition. Someone may throw a lot of "pity parties" as their unyielding thirst for validation, spotlight, and recognition helps them feel better. A person suffering from low self esteem may feel constantly worthless, and feel completely helpless to do anything to make his or her life better. They often feel defeated to think they can change other people for the better, let alone themselves, hence their personalities are driven inward, rather than outward.
Low self esteem is frequently seen in several different, and often serious conditions such as major depression, anorexia, body dysmorphic issues, "cutting", anti-social behavior, domestic violence, hoarding, borderline, and numerous types of addictions- just to name a few. This means that the presence of extreme low self worth can be a sign of another serious condition in someone's life, and should always be taken seriously and not ignored.
What Causes Low Self Worth?
As a child, parents are the biggest influence on self-esteem. Children who are consistently criticized, berated, yelled at or beaten by a parent quickly learn they are worthless. If a child is continually ignored, teased or ridiculed or if they are expected to be perfect all the time in order to be accepted, they eventually develop a poor self-image. If a child constantly fails at school or does poorly in sports, they will experience identity issues, especially when they reach their teens. How a parent deals with the situation is what directly impacts whether or not a child will develop a healthy self-image. Low self esteem can often occur as a result of a harsh or neglectful parent.
If you have feelings of worthlessness, it has probably manifested in one of the following ways. You may have taken on the role of the constant loser, the person who is always waiting for the other shoe to drop and is helpless to do anything about it. Self-pity provides an excuse to avoid taking responsibility for your life. You lack assertiveness and feel you must be in a relationship to be worthy. You are the typical underachiever.
You could also try to mask your low self-esteem by over compensating. You are the person who always appears happy. You are the highly competitive perfectionist who continually reminds others of your successes. Underneath however, you live in terror, worrying your true identity will be unmasked. You suffer from intense identity issues and tend to “burn out”.
Possibly, you go to the other extreme and act as though you simply “don’t care”. You tend to be angry and nothing anyone does for you is ever enough. You feel you are “unworthy” so you blame everyone else for your problems. You are controlling, the rule breaker and you have issues with authority, something that rarely ends well.
How To Improve Low Self Esteem and Negative Self Image
A healthy self esteem is developed during childhood, underscoring the great need in our society to ensure children are raised in a loving, yet sturdy environment guided by strong moral values. By your teens you will have already decided whether or not you are a “worthy” person. Identity issues are hard enough during this tumultuous time without the added burden of low self-image. So, it’s no wonder so many adults grow up to feel they simply aren’t good enough. Sometimes all it takes is one incident, in which you adapt an exaggerated and incorrect belief about yourself, to set off a lifetime of problems. Our choices are the biggest factor in how we lead our lives and to change our choices, we must first change the way we think about ourselves. This is no easy task, but with support and guidance from a self-esteem counselor, you can learn how to create a new self-image. You don’t have to become your negative beliefs.
article is taken frm http://www.theravive.com/services/self-esteem.htm
i tink tis article is ly tokin abt the current me.. don u tink so??
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| 6:19 PM
gav myself a break frm work.. went 2 take mc 4 ytd n 2dae.. nt sick but jus wanna rest.. 休息是为了走更长远的路。。 i alwaes agree 2 tis line..
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Wednesday, May 05, 2010 | 8:34 PM
well well~ haven been bloggin but my life is still the same.. other than gettin sian of my job.. cause i'm ly the onli one bein thrown ard in the centre.. n of course i hav wonderful ppl evolvin ard me ly en, lydia, ben n of course johnny.. as 4 the rest.. onli manage 2 meet xd 4 dinner at times.. other than tt.. guess hav 2 wait 4 them 2 ask le ba.. cause dey r all so much busier than me.. tts all 4 now..
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Tuesday, April 20, 2010 | 8:05 AM
lesser sms.. lesser meet ups.. lesser fone calls.. will the feelings get stronger?? i realli wonder.. mayb is of no big deal 2 mani n probably dere will b ppl who tink i'm bein ridiculous.. but 2 me.. is a super big deal..
i donno y but i alwaes hav 2 learn the hard wae.. the wae tt i don ly at all.. but i've gt no choice.. the onli wae i can do is 2 stop myself frm doin tings 2 irritate ppl.. esp him..
i used 2 look 4ward 2 wake up early or end of my dae cause tts when i can meet my special one.. i used 2 b in super gd mood everydae goin 2 work.. cause is either i will hav a super nice n sweet breakfast or i'm goin 2 hav a simple dinner wif my love..
but now.. no more.. nth 2 look 4ward le.. cause accordin 2 him.. tt will b better 4 us..
if u ask me if i can take it.. honestly.. i cant.. u can sae tt i'm useless or wadsoever.. but i jus cant handle.. n i don wan 2 make both of us unhappi.. strugglin alone is better than havin 2 to struggle n both suffer tgt, rite??
n 2 peeps who r readin my blog (if there r any).. i'll b bloggin almost everydae again.. back 2 the borin n emo me.. n b prepared 4 more emo posts =) cause i'll probably b cryin 2 slp n wake up cryin again.. tink tt will b my daily routine other than work 4 now.. n mayb more cab rides on top of tt.. cause tts how i will travel whenever i'm feelin down.. n 2dae i will b takin cab.. though i don ly.. but sadly.. i m realli nt motivated 2 leave my hse at all.. haixx~ jus hope tt i wouldn get depression on the long run..
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Monday, April 19, 2010 | 10:35 PM
jus gt back 2 work after a super long break.. went langkawi 4 2 daes n it was a realli gr8 trip =DD den 2dae.. well~ met up wif johnny 4 breakfast at his place.. egg mayo sandwich n is made by him =DD den headed 2 work my superior had a talk wif me 2dae.. n i gt even more stressful after the talk.. haixx~ sian lohxx~ i donno wad 2 do man~
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Tuesday, April 06, 2010 | 10:15 PM
now on stomp.. gt a lot of juicy articles 2 read.. hahaha~ tirin job but still i love it.. esp when i can see my 'son'.. hahaha~!!!
stomp stomp stomp~~
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Saturday, April 03, 2010 | 11:33 PM
at johnny's place now.. had a 3D movie marathon 2dae..
HOW TO TRAIN YOUR DRAGON n CLASH OF THE TITANS.. well~ the first show is actualli nt sumting tt either of us will wan 2 watch.. but the fact is tt the review of it is ly super duper gd la.. tts y we went 2 catch it.. n clash of the titans.. is nt realli tt fantastic la.. if u were 2 ask me whether is it worth watchin.. i would sae is so-so onli lohxx..
is PPS time~!!
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Thursday, April 01, 2010 | 7:59 PM
2dae is april fool's dae~!!!!!!! hope u din get ani pranks frm anione.. went 2 greenridge 4 my seminar again.. 2dae is on etiquette n it was super dry.. but luckily our seminar ended on time.. so reached hm ard 5+.. showered n packed my stuff den now waitin 4 johnny 2 knock off lohxx.. but he's still workin.. sian~ but i'm oso lookin 4ward 2 the movie marathon on sat.. n is ly 3D movie marathon la.. hmmmm~ wonder how it is 2 watch 2 3D movies in one dae..
n till now.. my ankle is still nt fully recovered~!! how irritatin can tt b.. haixx~ tink i nd 2 see doc tml..
i wan 2 faster go out pls~~~
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Wednesday, March 31, 2010 | 10:12 PM
weee~ no nd 2 work 4 2dae n tml.. but hav 2 go 4 seminars at jelapang.. super sian.. but at least is nt as tirin as compared 2 normal workin.. N TML I'M GOIN 2 WATCH MOVIE~!!! weeee~ haven watch movie 4 a long time le.. heex~
long wkends tis wk.. yeah~!!!
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Monday, March 29, 2010 | 7:55 PM
jus gt hm nt long.. ytd was super shiok la.. 2 rds of mj n i was the sole winner of both rds.. song man~ hahaha~ wich mr. johnny complained over tt la.. hahaha~ den 2dae.. went 2 work n straight hm after work.. my ankle still dam pain la.. sian lohxx.. is still swollen =(
don feel ly eatin dinner..
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Tuesday, March 23, 2010 | 9:22 PM
mornin meet johnny 4 breakfast den bus-ed 2 work.. afternoon practiced dance.. tirin sia.. n tis wk seems 2 b passin v.slowly la..
i wan my wkends 2 come~~~~
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Monday, March 22, 2010 | 8:51 PM
tired man~ mornin meet johnny 4 breakfast den i still gt time 4 a 15mins nap.. haha~ came hm straight after work.. jus finished practisin my dance.. omg~ i feel ly a woodblock dancin man~ cant even master the steps properly la.. n is ly hav 2 learn n perform by nex wed.. wth man~ aniwae.. if u wan 2 noe wad dance m i practisin.. tis is the video..
try it 4 urself~!!
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Wednesday, March 17, 2010 | 10:25 PM
well~ first of all.. happi bdae 2 my xin gan seehui..
mornin went gombak 2 meet johnny 4 breakfast.. den headed 2 work after tt.. 2dae's work was tirin la.. short of 2 teachers so was super busy lohxx.. din even hav much time 2 rest.. but luckily is sch holis.. so no lessons 2 conduct.. wich is much easier 2 tc.. cause jus hav 2 let them play toys n nt all will come 2 sch.. but other than tt.. is tedious.. haha~ playin, takin care of them, disturbin them.. though dey can b rather annoyin at times.. but above all.. i still love the children.. haha~
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Monday, March 15, 2010 | 11:53 PM
jus settled down after walkin hm frm tradehub21.. wich is near chevrons lohxx.. n it took me abt an hr plus.. N I WALKED ALONE OK?!!!! was actualli feelin emo den decided 2 walk de.. but in the end.. it was worst.. cause i gt the chance 2 tink abt a lot of tings..
haixx~ i jus tink tt i'm a burden 2 tt special one.. HAIXX~!!!!!!!!! will life b better off alone??
all i wan 2 sae is tt diff forms of communication gives a diff form of feelin.. b it meetups, fone calls, stayovers or wadsoever..
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THE ONE♥
Cheng ♥
20th May.
Taurus.
THOUGHTS♥
1 Cor 13:7
Love never gives up,never loses faith,is always hopeful,and endures through every circumstances.
