Misinterpretations :(

Wow, it's been agggeessss since I last posted a blog

It's been almost 4 years since I am back in Singapore, and in another 3 months time I will be heading back to where I call "second home" in Perth :)

Recently, I realised that my descriptive and explanation skills have been deteriorating. I can't seem to put across my ideas as well as I did last time.... or perhaps, it never got any better.

Instant messages and text, in my opinion, will never be able to replace actual conversation. You really cannot defer the tone of the message through text. The tone of the message absolutely changes the meaning of the speaker and the listener has a high chance of misinterpreting the message.

Why am I saying this?

Because I have been recently messaging an acquaintance through instant text and I somehow think that my message does not convey my intended meaning. Calling the person doesn't seem like a good idea either. What I can do is to wait for the next meeting and clarify all the misinterpretations face-to-face :(

Sigh, I really don't know what I am doing.

But I do know that God has plans that will prosper me and as long as I lean my trust unto him, I shouldn't be worried or anxious about any thing.

Amen!

I am so happy today. 2nd post of the year I reckon.
I took leave from work to have 'me time' and I am glad I did.
I typed a long email to my lecturer, went swimming and borrowed 4 books, out of which I have finished 2 books.
One book that I highly recommend is "Rain: What a paperboy learned about business" by Jeffrey J. Fox
A easy read with lots of meaning business and life principles.

Looking forward to tomorrow's leave. =)

New Year 2012 Resolution

New Year 2012 Resolution:

1) Love thyself more

2) Love thyself even more

:)

Keep finding what you love. Don't settle.

Steve Job said :

"

You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle."

I'm going to keep my mind and eyes open for what I love <3

I long for home

I am upset with staying in a shared house, especially with close friends

no one takes the initiative to clean the house

and always wait for the others to do so

and because you are close friends, you dun feel comfortable asking them to do their part

cos they are always saying how busy they are

sigh... i probably need to remember that good points
there are likely to be many, and hundreds
or else I would not have chosen to stay them

still,

I can't wait to go home and live with my family!

My Cooking =)

tonight's dinner: Couscous salad

Previous night dinner: chicken and corn soup

Previous dinner: Black pepper chicken pasta
Previous night salad: red butter lettuce, tomato and yellow bell pepper with honey mustard sauce
Previous night dinner: Egg noodle with braised egg and mushroom and xiaobaicai

time to tick off my to do list

Dear blog,

I woke up this morning feeling overwhelmed

I think the reason for that is that I have a long to do list

but I never managed to tick any thing off that list

that list gets accumulated and becomes longer

and with all of the to do items stuck at the back of my mind

my mind becomes like a clogged drainage, with more and more stuff piled up and little gets down the sewage pipe

I doubt my mind will ever feels clear and bright until I remove the clog from the drainage

Time to tick off items on my list =(

On another note,

Placement has been going pretty good so far

I never expect myself feeling so comfortable with my clients--> least to expect mental health clients

I feel confident doing group therapy and interacting with them and the staff

but I just hope that I will continue with my reflections and progress with my independent learning so that I can contribute more to this placement

I really really want to be an excellent occupational therapist

I have some housemates issues

but i feel that I shouldn't write about it

when I look back at my blog (which i often do)

I don't want to be reminded of the issues that I have with them

I rather remember the good memories. This is probably a avoidance issue, oh well

I shall procrastinate no more!!

And I said "I'm not a Christian".

I wonder what the outcome will be.

Viva =(

Tomorrow morning, at 830am, I will be having the most important viva exam in my whole of 4 years!

Urghhhh..... I don't know if I am well-prepared or not =(

I should be, everyone says that we should

after all, it's 4 years of occupational therapy studying for a reason

The art of courtship

Good morning! I started off my day reading this from http://jessicaisfalt.wordpress.com/ written from a person of this website: http://sonofsanfrancisco.com/ that doesn't exist anymore. But it's always good to acknowledge someone's work, especially when it's really interesting =)

The Art of Courtship

What does it mean to court someone? Does it mean you vie for their love. Does it mean you try to gain their attention. Does it mean you try to get them to love you.

Courtship has long been going on since the beginning of mankind. It has been something since the beginning of time used to garner the attention of another. Courtship is known as the traditional dating before love and before marriage. Courtship today is more lost than ever.

So what does it mean today to court someone or to date someone? They say that dating someone is going out on many dates, talking on the phone, texting or some sort of communication to get to know the person whom your interested in. Courting someone has evolved over the years from what it once was, losing some of its essence along the way.

The Art of Courtship started off back in the European days where they would arrange structured meetings between two people who had mutual interest with one another. In many societies the person who’s being set up has been chosen through a fairly detailed process leaving no stone unturned. Potential mates in the olden days used to be chosen by high ranking officials or someone who held great merit within the community or tribe.

Today however, the Art of Courtship has transformed itself into what can be the most grueling task imaginable. It’s become such a unlikeable task that many choose to not go through the process and just let life and fate dictate their partner.

But what about those who choose to do it themselves?

Today we often choose our partner on a variety of factors. We base our connection on things such as money, looks, personality, family, and even religion. Sometimes its all of them, and sometimes its one or none of them. Whatever the reason why we choose a particular partner, there are underlying reasons as to why that person sparked our interest.

Many studies have been conducted over centuries to figure out exactly what are the reason why we are driven toward someone. Scientist say that we are driven by subconscious factor that we can’t control. Those factors being our innate sense of smell, our sense of touch, taste and sound. They credit our deepest thoughts as the reason why we are attracted to certain people. Some scientist believe that we can’t control who we are attracted to, only manipulate it to what we see fit. So how many of you can honestly say you were attracted to someone subconsciously?

In the 21st century, The Art of Courtship and Dating has become more dynamic than ever.

Today we try to go above and beyond our means in order to impress the person we truly feel is worth our time. The amount of preparation that goes into attracting the person we see fit knows no boundaries or limits. In our minds there is no such thing as No when it comes to getting the person we want. We go out of our way to show them things that we can offer, things that we feel are the best way to get them to be with us.

Sometimes it involves buying expensive gifts, going on lavish vacations, taking them to upscale restaurants, etc. etc. Or sometimes it involves the minor things that are often overlooked and unappreciated, such as buying flowers, writing little notes that show them how we feel and that we really do care.

In the game of courtship we are more aware than ever. When we first meet someone our senses are so in tune that we pick up on even the slightest things. We pay attention to minor details such as hair color, eye color, shoes, clothes, their smell, their smile and even the way they say our name. We listen to the descriptions they give of past relationships and the pain they may have caused. So we promise them that with us things will be “Different”.

Some people choose their partner based on all of these factors and more. The deeper factors that go into our choosing of a specific partner are often times inherited and trained. From the time we are young to the time we mature into adults we are constantly bombarded with ideas, concepts, opinions and rules as to how we should go about selecting the perfect person.

As a child growing up we are taught by our parents to date someone who will love us for who we are and what we are, not for what we have. So as kids we do this, we date around the school yard bouncing around in puppy love not knowing any better. But it’s in each one of these experiences or lack their of that the Art of Courtship takes place. The older we get we often say the wiser we get. But is this really true?

For some reason the older we get we seem to lose focus on exactly what it is we want. Maybe it’s because of the fact we’re constantly bombarded by family, friends, television, music, the internet, etc.. As we go through our teen years courting different people we learn exactly what works on some people and what doesn’t work on others. This is usually learned by trial and error. Some of us experience heartache and pain, while others experience sheer joy and exhilaration. Whichever it is, it has affected your outlook on how to go about dating and the way you play the game.

That’s exactly what Courtship and dating has become, a GAME.

In the old days, it wasn’t about playing the field and seeing which option was best. No, it was about setting your sights on someone who you saw as an equal, someone who you saw as a person who could complete you and help you find out what true love is all about.

Today in modern times, courtship and dating has become a game to see how many you can conquer and which one will finally submit to exactly what you want. Today we subject the person of interest to rigorous test, mental games, emotional roller-coasters and psychological warfare. Today our ability to court someone has been greatly affected by what has happened before us, to us, to those around us and to what we see. Today we are so emotionally and physically fragile that we have forgotten what it means to court someone and what it means to date.

They say chivilary is dead, why, who killed it? I’ll tell you who, WE DID.

We always say that we want someone who will be there for us. We want someone who will make us happy in ways we see in the movies, in books and in fairytales. Those are all attainable if your willing to make the necessary sacrifices to get there.

We have to learn to stop putting rules on people, stop administering deadlines and guidelines. We have to stop doing things we see on tv and in fantasies and come to reality. We have to learn that everyone is different and that it’s okay to be heartbroken. The heart grown fonder in times of love and anticipation. The heart and mind knows what it wants, trust and believe in it.

Today our ability to date has become so time constrained that it makes us miss the opportunities right in front of our eyes and under our noses. We use time as a crutch for everything. We believe that times heals all wounds. In some cases it does and in many cases it doesn’t. Time is what you make of it. You must learn that in order for you to properly court someone time is of the essence. We all know that time is so valuable and that life passes us at any given moment. So why do we constantly subject those who want to be in our lives to the Time Test. Why do we wait weeks, months, sometimes years to figure out if this person is right or wrong for us? Time doesn’t tell us these things, our Mind, Body and Spirit do. Time allows us to grow together, to learn from each other and one another. It doesn’t tell us how they will love and care for us.

In the game of dating you must realize that no outsiders will ever be able to experience the joy you feel inside when your with someone you care about. The joy that you feel for that special person when you see them can’t be put into words. It’s all about the emotions that arise from inside. Those should be the true factors that determine whether or not someone is right for you. Not aunt Suzy, or Uncle Billy, or your best friend, or sister or anyone for that matter. No we must begin to trust ourselves and what we feel. Yeah we can take the advice from others because our mind can be cloudy and our judgement can falter.

But…

When you care for someone don’t be afraid to tell them exactly how you feel. Don’t be afraid to let them know that with them your as happy as ever. When you see or meet someone you like don’t be afraid to put yourself out there because you never know if this person may be the one you spend the rest of your life with. Tell them how you feel and find out if the feelings truly are mutual. Be forward.

The Art of Courtship and Dating is a hard thing to understand and to do. But if your afraid to truly understand what it is you want then you’ll never truly be complete within yourself. Trust yourself and trust that you know what’s real. Eliminate all of the games and distractions that may arise and focus on what’s in front of you. Who knows that next person who tells you that you look Beautiful or you look handsome, may be genuine and ready to give their heart to you.

“Believe in Yourself and Believe in Your Heart, time is of the Essence”

-JD (John Davis)