Interesting insights

Recently I've noticed some of my acquaintance have been quite sneaky.

Person A is trying very hard all these while to undermine and overthrow and people have been deceived by the apparent facade.

Person B has been leeching on my negativity yet wayang-ing so that only I take the hit.

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Nevertheless im not much affected, I'm gonna go soon anyway xD

Also have realised that in recent turns I finally understand what it means to provide "customer service".

Mentioned that in my FB but thought i should elaborate it here to remind myself.

The passion that fuels my job interest should lie in the satisfaction that I get from being able to make a change in the customers' lives, not being praised/commended by supreriors/colleagues. The latter should only be a form of encouragement and not THE source of my passion.

lol im writing in riddles. oh well, till next time =]

Signing Off,
-Khai

Horrified and disappointed

Just found out that there's a possibility of me swapping out with another guy from other branch in my unit. Nothing is confirmed yet, but the possibility alone reminds me of the hard truth:

"Once product life cycle is ending and it's starting to give problems, start to think of how to throw it away."
- point of view from "ikada auntie"

Sad. Yet true.

Why did I even give my all in the first place? I wonder...


Signing Off,
-wk

4 months and counting down!

Good news! Soon I will end my stint in NS!

Can't wait to work for afew months before schooling again.... =]

Need to decide on which course I'll study. This time round must put in more effort into going to school LOL~

April 12 faster come, I really cannot tahan already~ T_T
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Work has been stagnant for months, need a change of environment soon~ X_X

Few regrets but I trust my heart to make the right decisions. What's done (or not done) will be so and I just want to ORD peacefully =]

Training vision here I come! =D

Miss the bunch of co-workers there >.<
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Resolutions for 2012

1. ORD.
2. ORD. Ok I guess everyone gets the point. lol.
3. Work hard in TV and study hard in SIM~
4. Upgrade comp/get Iphone?
5. Lvl 50 cap released for dragon nest! muahaha~
6. Find time to always be there for my family and friends<--- so difficult T_T
7. Get a driving license
8. Be happy! Most important of all =]

How bout you guys? =D

PS: realised all my previous posts all so emo. No longer bothered by work issues, already 看开了! =D  

Signing Off,
-wk

Reflections, nearing the end and feeling it :)

Over today's chit-chat and catching up with a few colleagues who im very close with, I've decided (again) to pen down my thoughts to remember the past and plan for the future by remembering how mistakes are made and how not to commit them again.


 3 theories of people management:

1. Observe your boss. Learning and understanding your boss's personality is extremely vital to your future. A good boss promotes sharing in an encouraging environment where EVERYONE is involved and WANTS to perform even better. He acknowledges his workers' efforts and attitude at work with regard to both people and matters. He generously rewards the deserving and further motivates the rest to be like them. He embraces change (since it is inevitable anyway) and is pro-active in allowing his workers to take charge and learn from the changes (good or bad).

 Inversely, an inflexible boss equates to less productivity, motivation, creativity and willing-ness to share.


 2. Observe your colleagues. Do they stop discussion once you draw near? Are they willing or even pro-active in sharing work and/or personal life issues with you? Do they approach you for help? Do they thank you?

If the answer is "no" to all of the above, you might be facing issues with your colleagues. I'm glad I can say that these signs are spotted at my workplace, and I'm glad to have a awesome working/friend relationship with them (most, anyway).

Understanding how your colleague feels about you is important at work as it means how people see you as a person, whether is it your personality or work efficiency, and this can be translated into both tangible (think bonus) and intangible assets (think favours and friendship and respect and many more gained).

-Underlined text is quoted from a ex-boss i respect.


 3. Observe yourself! I guess this forms the basis of your performance in life! Many neglect this important self-reflection that should happen constantly. Be honest with yourself. What strengths and weaknesses do you think you have? Do the strengths and weaknesses you possess coincide with what others perceive you to have? Are you value-adding yourself to others?

If "yes", then good for you! You're on the road to success. A person who is well-liked by his colleagues and bosses will be on his/her way up the corporate ladder really quickly!

If "no", you gotta start reviewing the reasons why it is not so =/

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 Just had the mood to pen these thoughts down as I see people (myself included) making mistakes so every often. I shall quote again from my favourite basketball player of all times, Michael Jordan:

1. “The minute you get away from fundamentals – whether its proper technique, work ethic or mental preparation – the bottom can fall out of your game, your schoolwork, your job, whatever you’re doing.”

2. “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying.”


Some decent food for thought I hope!


Signing Off,
-Khai

Ramblings~

wanted to write a super long post about ethics and stuff but decided otherwise.

My time will come soon, yours will too. But NOWHERE AS SOON. HAH!

=]

Bad times

Busy at work....

So many issues to solve and so little motivation to do it...

Day by day im becoming more sick and tired of trying my best and yet i cannot solve the imminent problems...
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Friends....havent seen a certain group of friends for awhile already...feels like im not committing any time for them...
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At home..my grandma is sick. She's giving everything away.


Im bracing for the worst =(

Bosses

Sometimes people get so frustrated over their bosses at work..so kaypo me went to find an article on how NOT to be an annoying boss.. here goes.

The Vague One

Ravi Kathuria, president of the Houston consulting firm Cohegic Corp, says that he once worked for a cagey character who never made his desires clear. "He would say that he likes to keep things ambiguous for his management team," say Kathuria. "His belief was, that way, they would develop better solutions." In real life, however, the strategy was a failure: "It created confusion in the management ranks. His team never knew where they stood with him."

To focus a flighty leader, you'll need to pin him down and get details. "If he says, 'I just want us to be successful,' ask, 'What would success look like?'" suggests Scott. Ask for as many specifics as possible: how many units you'd need to sell or what profit target you should hit, for instance, or if the deadline you're working on will meet his goals.

Don't be shy about touching base early and often. If your boss is sending you off on a fishing expedition, at least know what you're supposed to catch.

The Micromanager

It can be infuriating to have someone watching your every move. For your own sanity, never forget what motivates micromanagers: "They're concerned about their own reputation and really care about the final product," says Scott.

The best way to manage micromanagers is to get out from under them occasionally: Navigate your way onto cross-functional teams, for instance, so you're dealing with other leaders. Since that's not always possible, Scott also suggests offering your expertise in an area in which your boss is weak, because he won't feel like he knows more than you and, if you're lucky, he'll come to see your expertise as a benefit to him. "Realize you won't get him to stop being a micromanager, but try to redirect his attention," says Scott.

Still getting the feeling there are eyes on you at all times? Ask if he's willing to agree on specific check-in points for a particular project when you will talk about any issues or concerns. This should make him feel more secure that nothing will slip through the cracks -- and allow you to slip out of his vise-like management grip.

The Bully

A bullying boss won't steal your lunch, but may steal any vestige of joy you get out of your job -- which, in turn, will make it hard for you to perform well enough to get a better offer. One PR specialist from Salt Lake City -- we'll call her Gina -- says a former boss made feedback personal.

"She treated everyone around her like they were stupid or incompetent. She was extremely negative, rolling her eyes and saying things like 'Oh my God, what a boring idea,'" Gina recalls. "The assistant account person was scared to death of her, frequently avoiding asking any questions because she would just insult her. It made for a terrible work environment."

The first step to beating a bully is doing good work that you can stand behind, and then standing your ground. "The bullying boss is very focused on results and wants things done now," says behavioral analyst Gayle Abbott, CEO of Strategic Alignment Partners in Virginia, who has worked with companies ranging from law firms to Lockheed Martin. "Identify what they want, what they value, and take action. These [types of] people also want you to come to them confident and tell them the truth -- even if they don't like it. Don't give made-up answers or platitudes."

One way to handle them: Whenever you're at a turning point, delegate up by giving them a few options; then let them make the choice. "This works because bullies like to make their own decisions. They don't want to be dictated to," says Abbott.

Of course, if you're being personally pummeled, you can always ask if you've done something wrong. A level-headed yet over-stressed boss may not realize how he sounds. And finally, if your manager is just a jerk with a capital J, you may need to start polishing up your resume. Life's too short.

The Narcissist

With some managers, it's all about me, me, me. "They design the processes around themselves. They network for themselves. They change the rules because they want to," says Gonzague Dufour, director of executive recruitment and development at Bacardi-Martini and author of "Managing Your Manager: How to Get Ahead with Any Type of Boss." While working for a narcissist can be frustrating, they're actually incredibly easy to figure out and please, says Dufour: "If you're smart, you're presenting everything from his perspective."

Tell her how your new software program will save her time; show how your new sales successes will boost her year-end numbers, or simply ask her how you can help her do her job better. And use your boss's vanity to your advantage: If you make her look good, you'll be more valuable to her -- and she'll be more inclined to help you perform.

The BFF

Being buddy-buddy with your boss isn't necessarily a bad thing: The more your manager likes being around you, the more likely he is to keep you on his team as he moves up the corporate ladder. But beware when the friendly small talk turns to personal gossip. Your new best friend may be using you to spy on other members of the staff -- and if he's talking trash about your colleagues, you can bet your next paycheck he's also bad-mouthing you behind your back.

The first thing to do is figure out your manager's motivation. "Some people just want to be liked," says Abbott. But if you suspect spying or even back-stabbing, beware.

"If you gossip, [your manager] can use that against you, because [he or she] won't trust you," says Abbott. Whenever the conversation turns to, say, who's flirting with the intern or having problems with their kids, change the topic to something more benign, like last night's episode of "Mad Men," and leave the drama on-screen.

So peeps, please remember to minimize the above mentioned traits! =]

*Reminds self to minimize gossiping LOL >.<*

How to be a better man (Guide + self reflection)

As title suggests...

I've been thinking about something that's been bothering me for awhile.

Decided to come up with some steps for myself on how to be a better man. (And also for whoever that still bothers to read this blog)

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1. Decide what traits a 'good' person has. One can do this by observing people that he/she loves or respects. Realizing their best qualities and admirable traits and implementing them upon one's personality.

2. Don't force others into things you do. This involves religion, work, beliefs, culture, etc. Most people are happy with who they are, and won't necessarily respond positively to shoving.

3. Think before you speak. A good listener often is a "good" person. Subsequently, trust from others will follow. When you have the power of someones trust, do not take it for granted. Use this trust, to help people better themselves.

4. Empathize with others' plights or circumstances. Listening to your heart and following it instead of being judgmental contributes to your being a better person. Being honest in your dealings with others also promotes positive relationships. Problems arise when the truth is not spoken or twisted to suit one's motives. Choose your words carefully and precisely. Express yourself kindly.

5. Choose to grow. Rather than staying put where you are, choose to be a better person day by day.


I promise to reflect on what others say about me and try my very best to change for the better. Please let me know where i fall short... =/


Signing Off,
-Khai

-RANT POST-

Was in a good mood considering i managed to meet-up with quite afew of my friends today.


but i ABSOLUTELY HATE IT WHEN I COME BACK HOME AND THINGS ARE SCREWED UP.

many a time people do things while im not around, normally out of kindness.

BUT LITTLE DID THEY KNOW THAT THEY WOULD SCREW UP SOMETHING SOMEWAY OR ANOTHER.

my monitor stand is spoilt now because of technical reasons that someone in my house did not know of while "tidying up" my room.

i acknowledge and is grateful for the fact that they help me tidy my room and stuff whilst im outside.

but PLEASE CHECK WITH ME BEFORE DOING ANYTHING BEFORE YOU CAN JUST SCREW SOMETHING UP.


ARGH IM FRUSTRATED AND ANGSTY NOW AND I PROBABLY CANT GET TO SLEEP AND IT'LL AFFECT MY WORK TOMORROW ALL BECAUSE SOMEONE SPOILT MY MONITOR STAND...

crap. im getting so petty and out-of-control-emotional.

i guess i hate coming home and see-ing things degrade and not being the way they're supposed to be.

sigh...now i have to fix my monitor instead of chillax-ing before i sleep....

>.>


anyway... moral of the story learnt : always check with others/owner before doing something to their belongings if you're not sure how its done.

Friendship

I've been missing out on some stuff lately.

Took me awhile to realise that friendship is like a relationship. In fact, its a FORM of relationship.

All relationships need effort to maintain and foster well.

I guess i've not been doing my part =/

Will bear in mind that in the future!


Signing Off,
-Khai

Tired.

What can I say?

It's so tiring to put on a facade and pretend all's fine and dandy when its not.

Sigh, how much longer can I keep this up?

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Some people tell me that putting on facades is to be insecure.

I may not agree, but it is sure as hell tiring to do it all the time.

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I guess I just need some time to reassert myself and to start living life for myself and not others.

But on the other hand, 我不入地獄,誰入地獄.

Cliche sounding, but so damn true =/



Signing Off,
-Khai

掉了 - Rendition

1st Rendition ever posted. Yes it sucks. no editing with softwares, extremely raw attempt... just my handphone and backing music...

Song rightly recites my feelings right now... =/


http://www.jukeboxalive.com/audio_play_offsite.php?mid=3087171

Life as a NSF

-NS-
I'm extremely glad that I'm in where I am now, regardless of the occasional disappointments.

-Friends and Family-
Pretty okay, nothing major but contented nevertheless.

-Future-
Unknownn >.> have not decided what really to do in teh future...

-Overall-
Not bad, could be better, glad that its not worse.


Hmm, its almost midnight and I know I've a long day tomorrow so shall keep this 1st post on this "new" blog short.

To be updated regularly in the future! *note to myself*


Take care people, and keep in contact.


Signing Off,
-Khai