Saturday, October 24, 2009
Logged on, tuned out.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Collectivist alike, Culture unlike.
Myanmar (formerly called Burma) is known to the world as the Golden Land. This is so because Myanmars love gold and as a result of that, gold is basically found everywhere in Myanmar from the pagoda to the monasteries as well as the accessories of nobles. In short, everywhere you turn to in Myanmar, everything seemed golden. It was an eye-opening sight for me!
From the visit, I learnt that these boys learn the scriptures, chant prayers, had plain meals, go around collecting alms and many more. Through this experience of monkhood, it acts as a medium for these young boys to understand what the poor goes through so that they will learn to show empathy to them. Being a collectivist country, every boy in the country obeys and conforms to these regulations set by the government. This portrays the characteristics of a collectivist society, specifically conformity, readiness to be influenced by others as well as high interdependence. In addition to that, time orientation plays a role in the culture of monkhood as well, where the monks were taught that time is monochronic and they are required to be punctual for all their monastery lessons. 
Some photos taken when my family visited the Golden Rock:
So if you are interested and do not wish to miss the golden opportunity to this golden sight, visit Myanmar! (:
What's your call on culture? Are you a individualist or a collectivist? Tell me more about it! (:
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Team achieves more than one's own effort.
Source: http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking+News/Sport/Story/STIStory_439633.html http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking2BNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_440827.html
As reported, the 60-year-old soccer star collapsed by the sidelines of the field after being substituted ten minutes into the game. He was said to have suffered a heart attack and his heart stopped for almost ten minutes. This well-known soccer figure of the past is currently in a coma, fighting for his life in the hospital and worried fans (both in Singapore and Malaysia) are praying fervently for his recovery. Dollah Kassim was one of the 15 soccer players who were known to be the heroes of the malaysia cup after winning the cup title in 1977. From boys who played as a childhood activity, they blossomed into Singapore soccer stars in history.
They can be represented as a group since they became interdependent on one another upon interaction and are known to the public as a collcective identity - The Heroes of the Malaysia Cup. Being made up by 15 individuals of different characters and thinking, they learnt to bond together as one so as to represent Singapore in such leagues.
According to William Schutz, a group is established to meet the inidividual member's personal needs such as the need for inclusion, control as well as affection. In a game of soccer where it is not based solely on individual efforts, rather, teamwork is the main focus in order for players to score goals. There are many challenges that come in group communication since it involves the thinkings of different individuals of the group. Conflicts might result due to different in individual needs and mindsets. For example, since the group of Singapore Veterans are made up of players of different races and cultures, we need to accept one another's differences. Hence, what makes a group communication an effective one would be to strike a balance between the group and the individuals of the group.
Bruce Tuckman's Five-Stage Model teaches us more about the flow of group development. From forming to storming where conflicts start to occur, to norming where disagreements are ironed out followed by the performing of the task which in this case, the soccer match. Lastly, it is good to adjourn and do a peer evaluation on one another so that everyone knows their strengths and weaknesses as observed by their fellow team-mates. It was probably the success of having a teamwork in the team that led them to winning the title and finally to be well-respected even until today.
Personally, I feel the importance of effective group communication in the world we live in these days. We are all individuals surrounded by other individuals, more often than not,we are required to form into groups. Be it at school or at work, where we have classmates and colleagues respectively, we have to be careful not to blend the friendship together as this particular group might be of different interests than the other. Thus, different groups of friends can be formed at different stages of your life. In order to achieve effective communication as mentioned by Max Depree in the quote at the start, we should learn to deal with change and conflict and reach for our potential do that the needs of the team are best met when the needs of the individuals are met.
Do you agree on that? Do drop your comments! (: (and let's keep Dollah Kassim in prayers!)
Saturday, October 3, 2009
Affair survival, Marriage revival.
Upon reading this article, it made me ponder about interpersonal communication, a quantitative approach whereby a series of exchanges between two person slowly progressed into a point where they become a part of a unit which means to say a couple.
Communication in relationships is an interesting topic to venture in since it is part of our daily lives. In the case of this article, the couple seemed to be at the relational dissolution stage whereby different hurdles start to appear in the marriage to threaten the relationship. Betrayal like what Peter had committed is only one out of the many such hurdles. Like most girls, betrayal would probably be the top on the list of what I cannot accept in a relationship. In my view, betrayal can cause trust to be lost almost immediately and finding back that trust will be a challenge.
The green portion of the article talks about the view of counsellors on such situations, whether or not the marriage is worth saving after an affair. From the interview of one counsellors, she said this, “The couple needs to be transparent and open with each other when they decide whether they’re still committed to the marriage.”
I personally feel that it is only right that we know what communication in relationship is all about, from the relational formation and development to the relationship maintenance process. It is only when we understand that we learn how to battle relational dissolution. Relational dissolution is not something that we can easily prevent and it is not a bad thing, it is about how we work on it and make the better out of it!
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Gender race.
Every advertisement makes use of different ways to get the message across to their targeted audience. In order to catch the attention of the audience, the advertisement has to be creative and impactful so as to make the audience want to go on watching.
Non-verbal communication is one of the most effective methods commonly engaged in advertisements.
One of the advertisements that keeps me constantly thinking is the Nike Commercial, Men vs. Women.
Non-verbal communication makes use of non-verbal behaviours intentionally sent and perceived where the audience recognise as having a consensual meaning. This Nike commercial promotes the Nike products by the use of a race between the two genders. It is illustrated by how women can actually challenge themselves to win the men in the race even though they are not as physically fit as men.There are many different types of non-verbal communications of which I feel, this commercial has made use of most of them especially the body language and facial expressions.
The start of the advertisement shows a scene whereby the woman chanced upon the challenge and decided to join it. Application of body movement (kinesics) is first used when the guy acted nonchalant about the race, perhaps to show he knows he is physically tougher than girls?
Since the advertisement focuses on a race, time and distance play a part, hence, chronemics and proxemics are used and action scenes where the women and men are running and all clothed in Nike apparels. This makes use of objectics of where objects are used to portray the message, in this case the Nike apparels. A particular scene in the lift shows a distinct facial expressions of the way the women stared at the man, a way to prove they can perform as good as men. To further emphasize on their products, the Nike shoes is intentionally zoomed in. I thought that it is a good way to bring the focus back to promoting Nike.
We can consider haptics being used by how they delayed one another by pulling the ear-piece off from guy of which since physical touch is involved. More kinesics are applied when the guys gave high-fives as they ran past each other, and how a guy made use of hand gestures to provoke the girl (at 0:44 of the video). A blend of kinesics, eye contact (oculesics) as well as physical appearance are used at the gym scene where the woman attempted to provoke the guy by splasing the water at him and the guy reacted back with a facial expression by rolling his eyes. In addition, the scene of which the woman smiling to herself after overtaking the man, made use of this combination of non-verbal communication as well.
As the advertisement proceeds, it shows the different treatments in both genders. For example, how the lady threw the guy's shoes and the part where the guy who ran past just took the glass of water that was supposedly meant for the female customer. A tinge of humour was also employed when the lady changed "Go Men" to "Go Women". Furthermore, the advertisement featured famous sport celebrities like Roger Federer and Fernando Torres so as to create impact to it.
I personally like the parts where they show the increase in distance each time each gender catches up with one another as well as how the advertisement ended in a simple way with "nikeplus.com". In just a short advertisement like this, it is able to keep us thinking and relating to what it is all about. This is how amazing non-verbal communication can be, isn't it?
Saturday, September 19, 2009
The real Miss Singapore.
This resulted in two different views observed.
The video shown on RazorTV had received many comments filled with criticism while the newspaper article last Sunday spoke in defence of Ris Low.
Just by watching the video, we made our own perceptions where we select, organise, make our own interpretation and give our personal meaning to it. Some mocked at her way of speaking and condemmed her while others branded her as a poor example of a young educated person and deemed her unfit to represent Singapore at the Miss World finals. But for the majority of us, it could be a misinterpretation that we do not realise is actually reflecting us as Singaporeans.
With the initial thought like most others, I have to admit that I too felt that she would be a disgrace if she were to represent Singapore with that standard of English. She mispronounced words like "preens" for prints, "rad" for red, "hospitaterlity" for hospitality and many others which i thought was a bad reflection on our country.
However, upon reading the article where the heads of the Speak Good English Movement came to her defence, I began to change my views about this whole issue.
* Source: The Sunday Times, Lifestyle, 13th September 2009 (pg.4)
In the article, the heads of the Speak Good English Movement defended Ris Low by bringing up a point, that Singaporeans are not speaking good english so who are we to condemn her? To support this stand, Ms Jennifer Yin, head secretariat of the movement said this, "Lots of Singaporeans speak this way. She is not unusual." Doesn't this statement makes us ponder and reflect on ourselves or the people around us. There are indeed many people out there who are using Singlish much more than English. It makes me wonder if the Speak Good English campaign is actually effective and we should as Singaporeans start working on our own way of speaking.
Singapore, being a multi-racial country, we used to have a communication barrier among races where each has their own language. In order for us to communicate between races, different languages have been mixed up for us to get the message across, so much so that it became the language we created - Singlish. Unknowingly, Singlish has become a culture in our sunny island.
Although Singlish is easily understood in our country, it would be a barrier when we communicate beyond Singapore because of the cultural differences among countries. Miss World is a beauty paegent which involves participants from all over the world. Hence, Singlish would not be understood it might even back-fire with the thought of it as bad English. A difference in culture affects the way we interpret.
Language, being a tool for direct communication is used to convey different meanings and it reflects us users. We evaluate a person by the way they speak just like how most evaluated Ris Low as a bad representative of Singapore. In addition, there are many language-based barriers to communication such as bypassing which leads us to misunderstanding due to misinterpretation. To further complicate communication, Ris Low uses slangs and jargons which make this barrier a harder one to overcome. With all these reasons stated, we should all look forward to constantly improve ourselves and forbid from using slangs and jargons. Once we are able to feel comfortable with language, we would then not have to feel afraid to be judged as a bad example.
The reason why I decided to name this post this way is because of what an English teacher mentioned. She said, " It's good that she has become Miss Singapore World. Her language abilities are representative of the population." Yes, we might all feel offended but if we were to look at the bigger picture of Singapore, this is indeed where our language actually lies. Thus, we should admit to this and try to do something about it.
Personally, I see myself sitting on the fence of this issue. Although I still feel that Ris Low is not good enough to represent Singapore in the Miss World finals, I feel that we should not condemn her as well. Different individuals have different way of speaking and language capacity. Perhaps that is just the way she talks? However, if she really has to represent our country, I feel that there is a need for her to attend English workshops so as to improve and brush up on her language skills. In this way, she would not be seen as a bad reflection of Singapore.
Do you stand in the side of criticism or the side of defence?
It is something we should all think about.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Blinded by games, shadowed from reality.
* Source: http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking2BNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_426680.html
It talks about how a group of eight teenage boys made a suicide pact in the belief that they would be resurrected as slayers to save the world. This started off with one of the boys who was claimed to be a medium convincing his friends that the world was coming to an end and that they needed to offer themselves as a sacrifice in order to save the world. As I went on reading the article, I read about how these boys were engaged in weekly rituals where they looked up to the medium as an influential and their respected leader. Perhaps this was the reason why they agreed to the pact even at the expense of their lives. However, six of them came to their senses just in time upon the gruesome sight of the first pair of the group who jumped groaning in pain.
It made me ponder on this shocking case, on how scary it can actually be when one gets over-influenced by their surroundings, totally unaware of the consequences it can bring about.
I continued following on this case, wanting to understand more about what was concluded about the case and what actually led them into believing it.
Just this morning, I read another article in relation to this case and it brought me into another level of analysis. This particular article brings the attention to how these teenage boys could have been over-addicted to online games that caused them to be shadowed from the reality of life. I realised that this is pragmatic perspective, something that I had just learnt during my lecture this week.
*Source: The New Paper, Saturday 12th September 2009 (Page 14)
Pragmatic perspective is a communication that consists of a system of interlocking, interdependent behaviours that become patterned over time, which in this case, how online games became an addiction for these teenagers. Due to this prolonged gaming lifestyle, they have developed the inability to differentiate the virtual world from reality. In this virtual world, they forged strong friendships where they team up to slay demons and become really bonded.
Social constructionist perspective could also be brought into this context where the online games become a culture for these teenagers. In their groups, they start to create their collective representations of reality using what is provided by their culture.
Teenagers being interviewed in the article mentioned how communication plays the vital role in the online games and that most of them communicated daily to keep in touch, ask for advice and so on.
As a result of this, they seemed to be easily influenced by their virtual peers. One of them even mentioned how his online friends influenced his decision to apply to a polytechnic instead of junior college. This could be further evident by what a teenager who was interviewed said, "But if my group of friends who are like brothers to me all believe that and tell me that every day, I may eventually agree with them even though it sounds ridiculous." This could be the reason why the boys were convinced by their leader of the group.
Very often, our judgement comes from what we hear from others and it influences us. We exist within our society and perceive ourselves through the communication practices of our cultures. However, these preceptions can sometimes be deceptive. Therefore, i personally feel that we should be individuals who create communication and not allow communication to create us especially in scenarios like this.



