Thursday, June 26, 2008

advanced gift-giving plans.

cabal is on server maintenance right now, so might as well write something here to kill time.

this payday, i'm planning to start my christmas shopping (2 or 3 persons at a time) so that i'll have my 13th month pay all by myself come december.Ü gifts for my immediate family will be quite pricey so i have to start saving na. i still don't know what to give mom, super mahal naman kasi ng gusto nya (hot/cold water dispenser) -- roughly 25k, i don't think i can afford it. pag wala na talaga kong maisip na kitchen appliance, baka cellphone nalang. for kim and keith, im thinking of getting them a gadget that can be used for school. sana kayanin ng budget ko yung UMPC, considering keith's tuition fee by finals. for my sister, hmmmm... actually sa kanya ako nahihirapan, pero baka clothes or accessories nalang since i'll be getting her son/my inaanak nothing but the best for christmas.Ü i still don't know what to give dad as well, but i'm sure i'll come up with something.

when it comes to gift-giving, especially for my family, i make sure that its something that they will enjoy. they know hindi ako kuripot when it comes to that.Ü sulitin na nila habang single pako. hehe.Ü

for relatives and friends, i'll start shopping probably by october, when i get the chance to go to divisoria.Ü i have finished creating my list, sana talaga magawa ko sya by october. ayoko na kasi maulit yung nangyari last year na super nagcram ako sa christmas shopping ko at wala talagang natira sa 13th month pay ko. basta i vowed to finish all the gifts by november 18. last sweldo na gagamitin ko is nov.15.

on a different note:
i super miss kiann. biglang tahimik/lungkot ng house pag-alis nya. saturday pa daw ibabalik ng parents nya eh. hahaha.Ü last night my sister called my mom, iyak ng iyak tapos nung kinausap ni mommy parang nagsusumbong! haaaayy... nalungkot tuloy kami lalo.

anong oras na ba? 9:02am, isang oras pa bago mag-up ang server ng cabal!
ang tagal!

Saturday, June 21, 2008

how to get over it!

Whoever wrote this, she/he must've gone through a good dose of pain and dealt with it well.

1. Examine what happened and ask yourself why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this may not be entirely your fault - or not your fault at all. Really thinking about the reasons it ended can make it clearer to you that it takes two people to start a relationship, but one discordant person is enough to end it. It may also help you avoid missteps in the future if you can
identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship.

2. Accept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt, feel alone, and feel like you have messed up. Accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy, but you must also accept that you are a good person, and this is not all one-sided. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to begin to move on.

3. Keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no e-mails, no Instant Messaging, and most importantly, no sex - not necessarily as a permanent measure (except where sex is concerned), but until you feel that you can converse with him/her like a normal person, without an ulterior motive (and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive).

4. Think through everything in your head. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason. Consider all the reasons you two broke up. There had to have been a reason for it all to end, right? If there was a reason, but it wasn't a "good one," then understand that you enjoyed one another for a while, but if that was enough to be a determining factor in continuing with the relationship, then clearly, there was something else wrong.

5. Deal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the split was, how it occurred (was there infidelity? That makes it worse), and how long it took to make the break. There may be feelings of resentment at your ex for wasting your time. You may realize the breakup was inevitable (hindsight will reveal clues you failed to notice at the time). You may even feel like you hate yourself, but let go of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change.

6. Talk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance. You want people around you that love you and who will help you see that you should love yourself too. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, loving friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile, worthy person again, and you'll find it easier to get steady on your feet again with your loved ones around you in a comforting net.

7. Write all your feelings down. Write in a journal or write poems. Most of all, be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring out your thoughts onto paper. Patterns may become clearer, and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to "get" valuable life lessons from the whole experience if you've been writing your way through it. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you're meant to be. Allow at least the learning part to enrich your life.

8. Clean up! A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come. A mess can be overwhelming and depressing, and will just add to your stress level. The added bonus is that keeping busy with tidying your space doesn't require a lot of brain power, but does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling pain. Occupying yourself with these tasks designed to make your life better and easier will also occupy your mind enough to help you through the residual pain.

9. Keep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. Well, instead of feeling that way, turn the station and move on.

10. Find happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take, or reading every book on the New York Times bestseller list, remind yourself that there's more to life than being in a relationship. Indulge in those things. As they say, the best revenge is living well.

11. Stay active. It's scientifically confirmed that exercise improves your mood, and the distraction will help keep your mind off the situation. Go running outside, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step.

12. Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and harboring hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways, congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.

13. Take Time. Find a place where you feel comfortable, relaxed, and which is far away from your ex. Take a moment to listen, and to be alone or with someone you trust. Remind yourself that it is better to be on your own than to continue in a relationship that was not right for one or both of you.

14. Think Positively. Now that you're not with your ex, you can date other people - go ahead, this is okay. You're free - only your actions and thoughts free you from what you cannot control. Change your behaviors; that will help change your thinking. Of course, don't forget about respecting other peoples' thoughts and feelings while feeling released and free, and always remember to be true to yourself.

15. Don't rethink your decision. If you keep thinking about all the good times you have you will forget the reason for why you are actually breaking up. This is not good because you will just go back to square one especially if you regret it (after) the breakup.

It is better to break one's heart than to do nothing with it. – Margaret Kennedy

Thursday, June 19, 2008

ten random facts/habits about me.

i. malakas ang kiliti ko, kahit saan. kaya as a child super no-no sa house namin ang kilitiin si kathleen.ü if you do that, im not gonna laugh. i will cry and scream for my mom. saktan nyo nako wag lang kilitiin.

ii. hindi pwedeng matapos ang isang araw ng hindi ako humaharap sa monitor at nagttype sa keyboard ko. hindi ako mapakali hanggat hindi ako nakakapag-online kahit saglit lang. there's something fulfilling about being in cyberspace. ewan ko. basta adik ako sa net.

iii. mahilig ako sa gadgets, kaso i don't have the funds to purchase several of them! next in line ko is ipod touch or psp (oo wala pakong psp!!), pero bka october nako makabili kasi mahal ng tuition ng utol ko eh. as of now kuntento muna ko sa sony cybershot t2. by december bibili ako ng UMPC (ultra mobile personal computer), pinagpipilian ko pa ang Asus EEE PC, Redfox Wizbook at MSI Wind.

iv. dalawa lang ang tv series na sinusubaybayan ko: desperate housewives at grey's anatomy. pero since ang bagal ng progress nung dalawa, dina-download ko ngayon sa torrent ang gilmore girls at prison break. pero pag nainip ako bka maghanap nalang ako ng dvd.

v. isang bagay lang ang pumupuyat sakin ngayon: cabal online. hindi ako papayag na napag-iwanan nako ng mga kalaro kong adik din sa online games.

vi. isa akong certified ebayer. halos karamihan ng stuff ko ngayon eh binili ko online. bags, cellphone, digicam, lingerie, perfume, puro sa ebay lahat galing. super cheap kasi as compared to malls, thankful naman ako kasi hindi ako naloloko, hehe. i guess kabisado ko na how to purchase items online.

vii. mahina akong uminom especially pag beer. mga 2-3 bottles of san mig light, bagsak nako. pero pag hard, mga until 6-8 shots ako bago tumumba. magssmoke nalang ako kesa uminom.

viii. mga sampung beses ko ng nirereformat tong pc ko this year. kung anu-ano kasing tweaks ang pinagagagawa ko kaya nagccrash. tapos pinagpipilitan ko pang mag-install ng MMORPG gaya ng RAN, Audition at Cabal kahit integrated video lang naman to. kaya nung last format ko, hinati ko na yung partition para dun ako sa kabila magssave ng files. ang daming pictures ang nabubura eh.

ix. kung may isang tao na hindi ako magsasawang kasama araw-araw, si kiann yun. my beloved pamangkin/inaanak. so so cute.Ü

x. inaaliw ko lang ang sarili ko kaya ako gumagawa ng 10 random facts na ito. thanks for the idea daine!Ü

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

screw it.

Team GA last night at Gilligans Festi, we had fun.
Dhan arrived late so some of us went to Marbles (in front of SM Southmall) and hang out.
My phone battery went dead so I can't text anyone.
When I got home at around 11pm, texts began pouring in.

He said he couldn't do it anymore.
And that I should keep ignoring him bec that's what he's going to do.

I asked, "R u breaking up wd me?"

No response.

My first time to go out at night with my team as compared to his countless inuman sessions with his team,
and he's breaking up with me.

Screw it.

Sunday, June 15, 2008

techie stuff.

I just upgraded my PC to 1GB. Yey! Ü
My system is 4X faster now.
No more LAG times with CABAL. Ü
Love it love it.



While buying my 1GB memory in Festival Mall, I found out that Dell systems are already being sold here! So totoo nga yung mga weblogs about Dell Retail finally hitting the Philippines. Anyways, the Inspiron 1420 at Octagon Comp. Authority is at 37k which is really cheap na, I don't care if it comes w/ XP since I can get Vista CDs naman at work. Ü I'd definitely get one by the end of the year. I'd really like a Dell laptop since I know my around Dell computers, what just concerns me before is its warranty. If a part needs to be replaced, super hirap maghanap ng parts coz di pa naman sha binebenta dito. But now warranty is not an issue coz they do have a service center na raw in Makati, then I'll definitely lay my hands on the 1420 soon.Ü

Friday, June 13, 2008

txt & cabal.ü

I have been snapped at by an ex's gf.
Oh well the ex is my friend since forever (or so I thought).
I sent a forwarded quote two days ago (I think) on the guy's mobile
(twas actually sent to most people on my contacts), and she replied just now asking me who I am.

Here's how it goes: (VERBATIM, even the characters & punctuations)
**Names were deleted to confuse everyone. Haha.Ü**

She: Hus dis?

Me: Katz A.

She: Ah. . Bnura k na kc numbr m. .

Me: Gn0n? Yabang naman.. Sori po, geh i wont txt u na.. Gudnyt nlang po..

She: Dats g0od. . Ders no ris0n 2 do so anyway. . Ok gudnyt

Me: Um, (ex's name)/(ex's gf's name), u dnt have 2 b mean. I may b friends wd *** nd *** but i just th0t (ex's name) nd i were ok. Anyways, im sory 4 dsturbing u guys nd stay happy.. Tnx 4 ur tym. Gnyt!

She: We hav nothing against u 2 but i think it wud b btr 2 b dat way s0 things w0nt get complc8d. . Wer jst pr0tctng r relxnshp h0pe u undrstand. .

Me: Ok. No problem. U cud hav said it in a nice way though. But i understand, u guys r inlove nd happy nd every1 can see dat. More power 2u both. Gnyt!

La lang, I'm not really shocked. Mildly surprised perhaps?
Oh well...
They're in-love and just "protecting" their relationship,
So I'm just gonna keep mum.
Hey, I'm a nice girl. ^_^

I have more pressing things to attend to than this. Ü

Like CABAL. ^_^
Naunahan pako ni Dhan!
I so F**KIN HATE my über slow PC.

Thursday, June 12, 2008

bwiset.

We're supposed to have dinner tonight.
As in right now.
But he chickened out.
We haven't seen each other for 5 days and counting.
He's not texting either.
Says he was asleep.
For the entire day???

Hay. I don't know what to do.

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

im not alone.

I just finished texting with my friend Kay, and we're in the same boat right now.
I'm not gonna go into details because I'm planning of making this blog public sooner or later.
Although I feel bad about "OUR" dilemma, its relieving to know that someone actually understands me.
As in TOTALLY. Without much question.
She can perfectly relate daw kasi, and the scenario is almost the same...

Its midnight of June 12, and I never left the house the whole day.
Not exactly how I pictured it.

Bored. Sad. Disappointed.

Hay. Tulog lang katapat nito. Ü

leaving on a jetplane.

My dear friend Lhen just left for Norway yesterday. We haven't even seen each other before she left. Ngayon palang I miss her na.. But of course I'm happy for her because I know she's been dreaming about it for years already. She's one of my most trusted friends on Earth, ganon pala talaga pag sobrang importante sayo biglang lalayo noh? Haaay.

Given the chance of going abroad, I'd take it..
If and only if I'm not alone.
I have to have my family with me, or trusted friends.
Because if I really want to, I probably should be long gone.
Its just that, I feel that to be successful I have to be happy with not just my salary but with the people I work with.
I cant cope up with loneliness perhaps.
Feeling ko kasi, I'm doing fine naman with my work.
My family is eating 3 meals a day, my brother is studying at his preferred school,
and I can buy all of my needs and some of my wants.
I was telling mg brother-in-law nga, the pay that he'd gonna get abroad is almost the same as an IT-related job here, preferably call center, mas toxic but the point is, he'd go home everyday with his family with him.
And that should count a lot right?

Especially considering that its KIANN we're talking about.
Ako nga di ko matiis di makita yun everyday eh.... Ü

Sunday, June 8, 2008

leader material?

I just finished coaching with TL Nat.
My metrics are good and he complimented me for that. **applause**
He also said he appreciated my proactiveness with regards to admin task for the team.

Anyways, he said that should there be an opening for a TOIC, he'd groom me along with Jodie for a support position.
I am glad that for the first time someone actually noticed my capabilities not just as an agent but as a person as well.

Happiness.

I hope that in a year's time, I'm already exactly where I want to be.
Still at eTelecare, but doing admin tasks.
There's hope. Much much hope. ♥

Friday, June 6, 2008

LOVE @ 1st sight.

That's what I felt when I started playing CABAL ONLINE.



Not everyone knows that I'm a gamer, and I've been a Ragnarok addict back in college, and RAN Online and Audition just last year. That's why when Loki introduced me to this new MMORPG, I got hooked instantly. I know he was surprised, having his girlfriend play online games like him, I caught him glancing at me mosto f the time while playing. Oh well, all I know is I see myself getting hooked into this game.

Weird though, when I got home after more than 6 hours of playing, I went ahead to Kiann and I actually felt guilty for not spending time with my superlove pamangkin.

I have to have a better PC asap!