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Sunday, September 28, 2008

Labels

So much to blog about and so little time! Well, perhaps I will actually manage to blog more this week, as there are some things I would like to share with my 'loyal readers'. ( :
To be fair, this post is really not entirely about labels, but that is what I am starting out with. We have all had experience with labels, right? Maybe you're the jock, or the academic, the molly mormon or the jack mormon. You're frugal or freespending, democratic or republican, liberal or conservative. Although these labels have a place, they are widely overused. For, the reality is, none of us human beings are that simple or tidy. I may be considered a liberal in some contexts, and yet identify strongly with the occasional conservative. I have leaned towards both the Democratic and the Republican parties at different times in my life, depending on their state at the time, as well as mine.

John and I had the privilege of learning of a fascinating 'academic' the other day. His name is Andrew Bacevich and he was interviewed by Bill Moyers in Mid-August. They showed the interview last Friday and John and I were sucked in, and subsequently fell completely for this man and his opinions. It felt like he was articulating everything I feel to be wrong with our nation and economy and politics, in a way that I have not been quite cognizant enough to do (I'll blame it on all of these babies ( : ). Bacevich is is considered a conservative historian and political scientist, but has been published in both conservative and liberal venues. He is faculty at Boston University. He seems to draw interest and respect from others across the political spectrum. He is a retired Army Col, graduated from West point, and spent 23 years in during the Vietnam era. Just last year, he lost his son, a 1st Lt, in Iraq. So, if anybody is in a place to say what he says, he is.

His most recent publication is titled: Limits of Power: The End of American Exceptionalism. In his discussion with Moyers he talks about the book and his perspective. He ties in our crazy consumer-driven culture with our foreign policy, a connection that I had never really made before, but it makes perfect sense. I am still sickened by the fact that shortly following 9/11 the President didn't say "Let's join together and make the nation stronger, let's volunteer, sacrifice, be better citizens" but instead said something along the lines of "Do your part, go to Disney World, go shopping, be good American consumers." Bacevich stated in the interview:

Our foreign policy is something that is concocted in Washington, DC, but it reflects the perceptions of our political elite about what we the people want," he told Moyers. "And what we want, by and large is ... this continuing flow of very cheap consumer goods. We want to be able to pump gas into our cars regardless of how big they may happen to be. And we want to be able to do these things without having to think about whether or not the books are balanced at the end of the month, or the end of the fiscal year.

One of the ways we avoid confronting our refusal to balance the books is to rely increasingly on the projection of American military power around the world to try to maintain this dysfunctional system or set of arrangements that have evolved over the last 30 or 40 years.

He also discusses all the talk of supporting our troops, helping the nation, but the truth that the nation as a whole is not invested in the war. It has not affected their lives, they are not sending THEIR sons/husbands/sisters, etc. They are not scrimping and saving in order to spare more resources for the MONUMENTAL bill that we are footing. Here is an excerpt from his interview:

There are many people who say they support the troops, and they really mean it. But when it comes, really, down to understanding what does it mean to support the troops? It needs to mean more than putting a sticker on the back of your car. I don't think we actually support the troops. We the people. What we the people do is we contract out the business of national security to approximately 0.5 percent of the population. About a million and a half people that are on active duty. And then we really turn away. We don't want to look when they go back for two or three or four or five combat tours. That's not supporting the troops. That's an abdication of civic responsibility. And I do think it - there's something fundamentally immoral about that.

Amen Brother. Amen.

He continues in the interview to discuss how we developed such grand imperial illusions, why we undertook what he termed "a fool's errand" to reshape the world in our image. At the end of the interview he states:

How did we come to be a nation in which we really thought that we could transform the greater Middle East with our army?
What have been the costs that have been imposed on this country? Hundreds of billions of dollars. Some projections, two to three trillion dollars. Where is that money coming from? How else could it have been spent? For what? Who bears the burden?
Who died? Who suffered loss? Who's in hospitals? Who's suffering from PTSD? And was it worth it? Now, there will be plenty of people who are going to say, "Absolutely, it was worth it. We overthrew this dictator." But I hope and pray that there will be many others who will make the argument that it wasn't worth it.
It was a fundamental mistake. It never should have been undertaking. And we're never going to do this kind of thing again. And that might be the moment when we look ourselves in the mirror. And we see what we have become. And perhaps undertake an effort to make those changes in the American way of life that will enable us to preserve for future generations that which we value most about the American way of life.



Perhaps there is hope. Perhaps we will wake up to our predicament before the economy or the nation collapses around us. Perhaps we can make a better world for our children. I encourage each of you, Republican or Democrat, liberal or conservative to read this book. John and I certainly will be. And perhaps then, we can make a difference.

Pirates! Aaurgh












































Ahoy Mateys! I just wanted to share some pictures from Theodore Pirate birthday party yesterday. He turned 3! (Technically not until Oct. 2, but Daddy's going TDY for a few days then). He had a lovely time celebrating in pirate style with some of his friends. They played 'Pin the treasure chest on the X', decorated spyglasses (cardboard tubes), and colored. Of course, they also enjoyed a sugar high and presents, and running around like banshees ( : What fun! And boy, I was so tired last night, I can't figure out why? ( :

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Random

Oh my goodness, has it been a week already since I last wrote? I don't understand how the days crawl by sometimes, and yet the weeks just fly.

Everything with the Kapeleris clan is pretty hunky dory. I am gradually beginning to do a lot more. I am still 'technically' on modified bedrest, but have not had any spotting for a couple weeks, and am finally regaining some energy. So, I hope I'm not pushing the limits, but it feels good to be doing things, even if I am not exactly hiking or moving furniture. John and I looked at the Chinese gender calendar the other day, which was accurate with my other children, and it said we are having a GIRL! I hope that is right. But, we will be waiting until April to find out. Think pink- but blue would be nice too ( :

I am finally settling into a routine with getting Christopher's schoolwork done everyday, as well as mine. He is really progressing well, and can read dozens and dozens of simple short vowel words! I am so proud of him. Math is fun too, it incorporates a little bit of science, and manipulative activities, and weather and calendar discussion. We enjoy the time together. My schoolwork is a little more difficult at times, just because I still have trouble keeping my eyes open in the quiet afternoons ( ; But, it is reading about a topic I enjoy and just 1 class, so it's not as difficult as I was afraid it might be.


We went swimming for family night on Monday, to switch up our boring lesson routine. I planned to take pictures and blog about it, but we were having so much fun that I didn't get any pictures taken! For once, all of the children had a pretty good time. Christopher swam independently for the first time (with a life jacket) and was so proud of himself. We swam crawl, and floated on our backs, it was nice. Sophia was a little daredevil, wanting to go down the slide. She went down once, and was addicted. She was always whining to go to the side of the pool and get out so she could go again. She was braver than the boys, who just went down a few times! I tell you, that girl has adventure in her blood- she is afraid of nothing, and strong. Oh boy. What fun, we may actually try it again sometime!

Well, I could blabber on and on, but I really ought to do some tidying up before Sophia wakes up.

Susie

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

1st Paper

I just had to say Yeah!!, I just turned in my first paper for my last class in working towards my MA today! After this semester I will just have my thesis proposal and Master's Thesis!

Good News

Although I find National and International news to be a little disheartening lately, there is a lot of good news to share around our household.

1- I am still pregnant! I really wasn't sure if this little one would stick, but so far so good. We are at 10 1/2 weeks right now, and as far as I know he/she is developing okay. I am starting to do more, even though I'm still not supposed to do much. It is hard not to push the limits!

2- John talked to the Battalion XO this week, and will be turning in his resignation paperwork on Oct. 1! I am just giddy about this, we are so excited about what the future holds, and so ready to be done with our Army adventure. I am counting down the days until we leave.

3- We found out a few weeks ago that the last payment for the Loan repayment program on John's student loans should finally go through! We have been playing bureaucratic games for over a year now, and are ready to have it taken care of. Keep your fingers crossed that it will be taken care of by/in October. Once that goes through we will be almost entirely debt-free, with just a few thousand dollars remaining from John's loans! And that is from a starting graduate school debt balance of over 55K! Woohoo.

4- Although we are waiting for final confirmation, John should have a part time position teaching Modern Chinese History and/or Modern Japanese History for Columbia College here at the Education Center in January! That will be a great opportunity. Also, it looks like he will get the position at the Office of Naval Intelligence. It will be quite a while before it is confirmed, as the hiring process can take 6-12 months, but they liked him and we are hoping and praying for this opportunity. We really feel like we are 'supposed' to be there, and the pay and benefits wouldn't be much different than what we have right now. That would be a big relief in this uncertain economy we are facing.

Well, I just wanted to share some of our good news, to counter balance the terrible world woes.

Depressing News

Has anyone else been totally unnerved by all the crazy stuff in the news lately? I know there is always crazy stuff in the news, but lately it just seems particularly insane to me.

1- Messing around with military missions into Pakistan. What in the world are we thinking? Are the leaders in the military and government really that STUPID? Oh, but maybe people will be too busy listening to hot winded Palin or Obama to take notice. Actually, that may be true.

2- Hurricane related devastation. Of course, this is not human error, but is so sad. I can't imagine losing everything like some of these people and should go double check our renters insurance, 72 hour kit stuff, and other emergency essentials. Also, I should (although I may not) donate to the humanitarian fund through church or the Red Cross in order to help.

3- All the insane government/economic insanity. Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac being bailed out by the government to the tune of how much $? And where is this government money coming from? Mega corporations going under, or like AIG, threatening to go under and being bailed out at the last minute by the Federal Reserve. Oh my, what a lovely state the economy is in right now. Unemployment is hovering below super crazy rates, but is a little high (about 6%?) and inflation is downright crazy, I think The McLaughlin Group quoted it at around 5.9%. That means the price of things is increasing a heck of a lot more quickly than salaries are. The little 3% government pay raises certainly can't keep up with that, and most private companies are probably in the same boat. Frankly, I find the economic situation downright gloomy.

4- Military leaders in Afghanistan have just asked for 10,000 more troops there next year. Where are those troops going to come from? Oh yeah, the overstretched, overextended troops that are already on 2nd, 3rd, 4th deployments. Aye Carumba.

I just wanted to share my view on some of the most disturbing recent news developments. Does anybody care to share their points of view on these? I'd totally be game for some good discussion.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Family Thoughts

This is just a quick update for the purpose of sharing some pics and the craziness of our weekend. John and I decided yesterday that the car was in desperate need of oil, so we went to Walmart. Of course, I decided to come along, because Walmart is a super place for buying random things. We goofed around for quite a while, grabbing some mums, Theodore's birthday gifts, and a number of other random things. After the fun, we decided to pick up the car. Little did we realize, but the adventure was only beginning. The box containing the bunk bed we wanted was damaged. Unfortunately, everybody decided to get their car at the same time, and quite a line was forming. Long story short, with getting help and trying to make the new register do what they wanted it to, the wait dragged on and on. Then after the bed was figured out, we waited and waited because the employees could not figure out the stupid register! We waited almost an hour from when we started checking out to getting out of there! And, to top it off, customers were giving us 'looks' like all the register issues were our fault! This pregnant woman wanted to make some choice comments. Then, on the way home, the gate guards were inspecting almost every other car, and we were one of the lucky ones. So, we waited another 20-30 minutes with tired, hungry little ones. Ick! It was just one of those mornings.





Sophia had her first pigtails this weekend, and I was so excited! Isn't she cute? She didn't want me to get a decent shot of them, so this is the best I could do. And, of course, they only lasted about 5-10 minutes, because she was working so hard to get them out. I included the picture of our handsome preschooler, because he didn't want to be left out! Cute guy.


Recent food discoveries

I recently discovered some yummy food tricks, and because I am all about food (as evidenced by my snuggly soft self) I thought I would share. Like most Americans, I enjoy lasagna. I have made many different versions, with many different noodles, and boil or no boil. The other day, while making egg rolls, I noticed something interesting. The insert suggested using the egg roll wrappers as lasagna noodles. I figured I didn't have anything to lose, because I still had half a package of wrappers that needed used, so I used them in a recipe of my own devising. It was delicious! They were so easy to use, you just laid them down like any fresh pasta, and it tasted great. And, to top it all off- the package of egg roll wrappers, which will make a big batch of egg rolls and a 9 x 13 of lasagna costs less than $1.75! (note- I can't guarantee the same for you, obviously). So, next time you're at the market, consider being brave and picking up Nasoya egg roll wrappers.

I also discovered yesterday that Sourdough bread makes awesome french toast. Cracker Barrel serves it, but I've always thought sourdough is a strange choice for the sweet type of french toast I enjoy. But, sometimes you just have to say, "What the heck, I'll give it a try." So, I used organic sourdough bread yesterday morning to make my traditional french toast, and it was yummy! Also, I've recently discovered the awesome advantages of keeping a big bag of frozen blueberries in the freezer. Love, love, love real blueberry muffins or waffles, and smoothies! There's my 2 cooking cents for the day.

For the Beauty of the Earth

I had the guilty pleasure of staying home from church today to take care of Theodore, who is ill. So, here I sit in clothes at least, but no makeup, hairy legs, and hair still damp from the shower. And the great part is, I am loving it ( : I have made some stew and cared for a sick child, so it hasn't been a COMPLETELY lazy day.

Whenever I stay home from church I have the opportunity to listen to Music and the Spoken Word. Classical and Choral music is a true passion of mine, as most of you know, and it is always a treat to listen to the Mormon Tabernacle Choir on a quiet Sunday morning. This morning they played one of my favorite hymns (out of a couple dozen): For the Beauty of the Earth. I was touched by the lyrics and felt that they expressed some of the gratitude I feel today, so I decided to share them.

For the beauty of the earth, for the beauty of the skies, for the love which from our birth over and around us lies, Lord of all, to thee we raise this our hymn of grateful praise.
For the beauty of each hour of the day and of the night, Hill and vale, and tree and flower, sun and moon, and stars of light, Lord of all to thee we raise this our hymn of grateful praise.
For the joy of human love, brother, sister, parent, child, friends on earth, and friends above, for all gentle thoughts and mild, Lord of all to thee we raise this our hymn of grateful praise.

Hope you all had a lovely Sabbath as well!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Real Education by Charles Murray- A review

I recently finished a book that changed my perspective on American education for the better. Never again will I react the same way when hearing a politician speak, or the latest hoopla on what can be done to fix our broken educational system. The author, Charles Murray, coauthored a very controversial book The Bell Curve many years ago. The introduction begins with this:

This book calls for a transformation of American education-- a transformation not just of means but of ends. We need to change the way schools do business. We also need to redefine educational success.

He continues on to address what he terms "the fog of wishful thinking, euphemisms, and well-intended egalitarianism (that) hangs over the discussion of education".

4 points are addressed in the book. These are
1. Ability varies
2. Half of the children are below average
3. Too many people are going to college
4. America's future depends on how we educate the academically gifted.

The impact of these statements right off the bat, at face value, is somewhat elitist and certainly surprising. Yet, there is so much truth in them. Does academic ability among children vary? Of course it does. When did we all become so sure that everyone should be on the same footing when Jack may not have the aptitude or ability to do well in a certain field? We all know people (like me) who lack athletic ability and coordination. Do we insist that every child has the potential to be a star athlete, or musician, or artist? Of course not! We all have varying abilities in fields, and children and academic ability are no different.

Point number 2 is glaringly obvious, and yet is something I had never really considered. If average is 50th percentile, HALF of children are going to have to fall below that line. That is just reality. He says "But if, for example, a student needs linguistic ability at the 26th percentile to have a fifty-fifty chance of making a basic reading score or better, then you have to expect that somewhere in the region of 26 percent of all students will fail to meet the basic standard even if the schools are successfully educating everyone up to their potential." So, we cannot know if the 26% failure rate is "a sign of success or failure". While we don't need to be pessimistic grinches or grumpy Eeyore's we must acknowledge that no matter how well we educate our children, there must always be a bottom 50%. There is no shame in that fact.

Truth number 3, too many children are going to college, can be viewed in a number of ways. Murray addresses a number of problems that arise in conjunction with the overinflation of the value of a college degree. First, he states that many individuals simply don't have the intellectual capacity to effectively cope with college level learning material. Second, he examines the role of colleges in providing a liberal education, and argues that this liberal education is a job that needs to be done in elementary and secondary schools. He advocates E. D. Hirsch's What your _______ needs to know as an effective tool to do this. Third, he argues that there are far more effective ways to obtain an education and training, such as classes and certification, rather than your typical 4 year college program. Fourth, he discusses the fact that college isn't all it's cracked up to be. He says that more individuals need to consider the intrinsic rewards of the job they would like, and if there is true wage gap, considering what their skill levels would be in the chosen field. Lastly, he discusses the divisive role a degree is taking in American society, and why it should not be that way.

Last but not least, the author discusses the importance of properly educating the academically gifted. Although this smacks of Plato's idea of a philosopher king class, he argues that the nation's future is already controlled by an elite, whether we like it or not, and it is of paramount importance to give them the education they need to lead. These elite include people in corporations, academia, politics, media, lawyers, engineers, clergy, teachers, even housewives who are active in their community (go me!). Murray mentions the need for rigor in verbal expression, forming judgements, thinking about virtue and the good, and more humility.

The author makes some suggestions in the last section of the book as to how some of these goals can be reached, and what can be done with the implications this knowledge brings. What can be done to properly improve the educational system? You'll have to read the book to find out. ( ;

Let me know what you think of these ideas, I would love to see some comments!

Sunday, September 7, 2008

Thoughts on the benefit of bedrest

I've been thinking an awful lot lately, and not doing much else. I am used to the normal nausea, fatigue and overall ickiness of the first trimester. Having 4 pregnancies in 5 or 6 years will do that to you. ( ; Although I am used to it, I am not particularly fond of it, and believe it is one of those things like labor, where if people really remembered what it was like, it would be a world full of only children. So, although I find this stage of pregnancy utterly miserable, I can deal with it, and still more or less function.

Having had 3 prior pregnancies that I sailed through, the little complication in this one has been especially difficult for me to adjust to. I've never viewed pregnancy as an illness, or problem, but as a natural and beautiful function of the female body. This pregnancy has been a little different, forcing me to step back and prioritize everything in my life. Like many others, although I am a stay at home mom, I don't actually do a lot of staying at home. I have been involved in MOPS, playgroups, library storytime, various church responsibilities, and all the miscellaneous errands involved with running a household. I always volunteer to help with enrichment activities, service opportunities, etc. I enjoy cooking and baking from scratch, working towards my degree, and teaching my children. But, the continued advice of modified bed rest has thrown all of these things aside.

Suddenly, this go, go, go is drastically slowing down. Being forced to evaluate what is really important in life is oh so hard, but strangely refreshing. I can go to Enrichment without planning half of it. I don't have to be involved in everything under the sun, or even get the kids out of the house every day, and the world still continues to revolve. Some days may not be particularly productive (certainly not blogworthy), but if I end the day with children who are clothed and fed, a little new knowledge in everyone's mind, and a fetus who is continuing to grow and develop- that qualifies as a good day. My health and the health of this unborn child are taking top priority. There is a time and a season for everything and I am beginning to see some benefits to this blasted 'modified bedrest'. When else can I enjoy a few hours of cartoons with the children everyday without guilt, or spend so much time focusing on what is most important in my life, instead of worrying about what dish I am bringing to the next potluck, where the kids need to be next, and stressing about the neverending mess at home.

PS- My OB recommended that I continue my very modified activity routine for the foreseeable future, until I have an ultrasound showing that the hematoma has resolved. So, the adventure will continue for a while, but I am determined to make the most of it, messy house and all ( :

Heart of America Marathon


John is a runner. He is built like a runner, he eats like a runner ( ; and he is pretty good at running. He is usually in the top groups for Physical Training, and enjoys running at least a few times a week. This year he decided that one of his goals was to run a marathon. That's all well and good, an admirable goal, right? Yes. But, getting to that point was an adventure. In preparation for the marathon he did a little 14 mile run 9 days prior to the race. All was well, and then a couple days later his chest was bothering him. He actually wondered if he was having a heart attack, and went into the clinic. He was diagnosed with an inflamed diaphragm, which I had never heard of before, but apparently it's a part of your body that can be inflamed. ( : So, up until a few days before the race we weren't sure if he would be up to running. He decided to just go for it, so last Sunday after church we drove up to Columbia for a quick stay. We actually had a very pleasant time, the hotel was nice, they had a military discount, swimming pool and fresh cookies. Looking over the race route, the map said that this marathon is one of the more challenging ones in America, with 6 major hills. Oh great, that is a good way to start. After a long night (the kids didn't sleep well in a new, exciting situation) John arose to set out on his adventure. I enjoyed a breakfast that I didn't have to cook with the children, and we just diddled around for a while, before he decided to go find Daddy and greet him at the end of the race. It was a lovely day for running. The race had started at 6 am and it was just beginning to get warmer. John finished well, and I was so proud to see him coming towards me in that picture. He just had about a mile left and finished strong. It took a while, but he did it, and actually placed 3rd for males in his age group. Yeah for John!

Thursday, September 4, 2008

More Information

I finally spoke with a nurse today, and she said the last ultrasound puts my EDD at April 12, so we'll have a lovely Easter present! She also said baby is looking great, but I do still have that sub chorionic hemmorhage. I'm so relieved to know baby is still growing and such, but I am kind of sad that the clot is sticking around. I haven't had any spotting for a week, and was hoping that meant. . . .oh well. So, she said it would be wise to still take it easy, do pelvic rest, yada yada.

This morning I did not want to get out of bed. Do you ever have mornings like that? Teddy woke up in the middle of the night with a nightmare, I stayed up too late reading a new library book, and Sophia woke up at 6 to nurse. Ick. It's been raining all day yesterday, all night, and still going. My dark cozy bed seemed like such a lovely place to stay this morning. Unfortunately the boys didn't feel the same way. ) : I love lying in bed and listening to the rain, I always feel so safe and sheltered in my warm home and soft bed. Aah.

Well, that's all for now, I want to share a pic from this weekend, and a book review, but must go work with the boys at the moment.

Susie

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Good News!

I just wanted to share our good news! I went in for an ultrasound this morning, and there was a little bean in there (just one, thank goodness!) with a lovely heart rate of 167 beats per minute. I am still waiting to hear from the Dr. about if the hemorrhage is resolved/resolving and to get the latest EDD. When the tech did the abdominal I was measuring for April 15, but she said the dates were ahead of that when she did the internal. So, I think I'm between 8-10 weeks. It was so exciting to see the little guy/gal, John and I were so relieved. Yeah! I already feel attached to this little stinker, who hopefully won't give Mom any more trouble (although it is not really it's fault ( ; ).