You know what, if your boyfriend's "flirting" (let's put in a context that he's flirting) with another girl and happen that the girl entertains him, you can't blame the girl entirely. It is both their wrongs. The guy, knowing that he's attached, he shouldn't go around betraying the girlfriend's trust. Well just his girlfriend trusts him that he won't cheat on her doesn't mean he should take advantage on the trust she has given him. He should prove to the girl that he will never hurt her and cheat on her.

As for the girl, knowing that the guy is attached, she should KEEP AWAY. It's like, the guy started off wrecking his relationship unintentionally and the girl, leading him on, adds on to wrecking of the relationship even worse.

This goes likewise for girls flirting around while being in a relationship.

I just don't get it. I'm sure everyone decides on being in a relationship for a reason, yeah? Like probably both have long term goals - to settle down. There should be more to a relationship than just going physical, shouldn't there? And why flirt when you are in a relationship? Don't you ALREADY have your boy/girlfriend you could flirt with?

Oh well. Heartbreakers.

I try to picture the girl
Through a looking glass
And see her as a carbon atom
See her eyes and stare back at them
See that girl
As her own new world
Though a home is on the surface, she is still a universe

Glory God, oh God is peeking through the blinds
Are we all here standing naked
Taking guesses at the actual date and time
Oh my, justifying reasons why
Is an absolutely insane resolution to live by

Live high
Live mighty
Live righteously
Takin' it easy
Live high
Live mighty
Live righteously

And try to picture the man
To always have an open hand
And see him as a giving tree
See him as matter
Matter fact he's not a beast
No not the devil either
Always a good deed doer
And it's laughter that we're making after all

The call of the wild is still an ordination why
And the order of the primates
All our politics are too late
Oh my, the congregation in my mind
Is an assembly sellin gratitude
Practicing their lovin' of you

Live high
Live mighty
Live righteously
Takin' it easy
Live high
Live mighty
Live righteously

And singing out
And just take it easy
And celebrate the malleable reality
You see nothing is ever as it seems
Yeah this life is but a dream

Apparently I've been reminiscing a lot lately and I'm unsure myself if I'm alright. Perhaps a little paranoid. Could also be a little too paranoid. Either way, I guess I'm just paranoid. I have no idea why I've been feeling this way. Then again, probably I do. I've been, in fact, recalling the days I first met him. I went to the extent of listening to songs which will remind me of him too.

Apart from the paranoia, I've been emotionally sensitive. I lose strength along the way. I thought I was strong to overcome every hurdles that I am destined to face. Evidently, I am not. I was, but gradually I no longer am. I get defeated by my own weaknesses. Fear, that is. I can no longer pretend that I don't care because fact is, I do. I do real much but I may not show it. I pretended to be strong, to be ignorant to things going on around me, but pretence apparently doesn't do good to me. At the end of the day, I am at the losing end. Or maybe I'm just blaming myself. Or it's truly solely my mistakes.




To me, I am right. To the other, they're right. So what's the ending? What's the solution to this? I wish I could speak this up but I'll again get defeated for I am no good at letting out hence I've been bottling everything up. This entirely explains why I've been the way I am now.

There should be one or more ways. First step, have faith.

Boy: I broke up with her.

His Best Friend: What happened?

Boy: She’s just too much for me.

His Best Friend: What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?

Boy: Well, for one.. She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good, always took forever to get dressed!

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her? She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see..

Boy: Oh.. Well.. She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she cares about your well being? Because she cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see..

Boy: But.. Uhh.. Well, she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean. She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just wanted to hear you say you love her? I see..

Boy: I.. Well! You know, she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so annoying! I had to hide it from her so she wouldn’t bitch about it.

His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her? She thought you were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see..

Boy: Well, she..

His Best Friend: You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?

Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?

His Best Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened.

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Think about it, when she’s too much for you.. She just wants the best for you. Because to her YOU’RE the best. If you don’t like something, talk to her about it. You mean so much to her. Don’t just give up. Don’t just leave because you want the easy way out. Ya’ Dig?

Do know I'll always love you.

xxxxxooo

So two days back we were in the bus to Kakak's place. He caught me being lost in thoughts. He asked what's wrong but I replied with merely "Nothing". I can't recall what was I thinking about either. Then, my phone vibrated. He texted me a song lyric. Upon reading, I smiled.

He knew how easy it is to keep me happy.

Loves!

I choose to believe that our love is being put to a tough test. Shattered hearts, tears, negativity. Everything was bad. And wrong.

However, we managed to bring ourselves back to the right track. Both of us never fail to pray hard that we'll never be separated, ever.

<3

Whether you’re in love or not, I think this could be applicable to any kind of relationship: family, friends, significant other. It’s a good read.

TRUST

Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, “Public Utilities Board.” There was silence. She repeated, “PUB.” There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady’s voice, “Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband’s pocket but I do not know whose number it is.”

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just “hello” instead of “PUB”…

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?” The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.”

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.

This is the start of a war.

We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested “I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.” The SDU officer said, “Your requirements, please.” “Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home, during my leisure hour & if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.”

The officer listened carefully and replied, “I understand you need television.”

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.

Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses.

The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.

Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.” It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.

RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.”

Many relationships break off because of wrong speech.

When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.

A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, “Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered, “You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you.”

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison.

A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, “Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? “Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.

Later, an old man saw it and commented, “The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?” Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, “How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.” The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.

Then, they met a young man. He commented, “Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.” Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled.

They lost their balance and fell into the river.

You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.

BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment.

When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, “Daddy, I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?”

The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge.

Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love.

Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can’t. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

I love seeing him happy. He was beaming from ear to ear from the moment I got him the Blackberry.

Oh how much I love him. :)

"Fight for love if it's worth fighting for"

We tried and tried and cried and cried. Many times before we got on the verge of letting go but we still continue fighting for this love. Our relationship has gotten better, I can say. Better than when we're just starting off. We developed understanding towards each other, which is the most important in a relationship. Right from the start, we've been through ups and downs together. Well, every couple has to go through the rough patch, don't they? We fell and stood back up. Glad we're still going strong.

I believe everyone deserves chances. Explains why we're still together. I forgave him anyway.
He is really sorry and I am just being angelic. HAHA. HA.

It's just how much I love him. Forgive and let bygones be bygones. Besides, he is really sorry and convinced me it won't happen again. Sure it's hard to trust his words now but how does he prove that he could change if I don't give him my trust. And when I forgive, I should also forgive fully. Definitely I'm not gonna be the gullible me again this time round, I've learnt my lesson. And so has he.

A new chapter yet again.

Shit happened. AGAIN. Well, that's inevitable isn't it.

But the one truth is in my heart, all these while.

More than words could ever describe.

Thank God for bringing us back together.