my life.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

i wanna bring everything like back home. and it into like a workshop kinda thing?. how cool. yu DReam... i wanna take pictures that ruthlessly document what the world is.. that has a character of its own. =) make clothes that fit me so well.. paint stuff that blows my own breath away.. but do art for the sake of art and merge art and my life into one whole. and show that its not s specialised area but rather a way of life =)

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Monday, December 15, 2008

letting other people suffer the consequences of your own matters is not cool.. always treat your friends with respect even if its at your expense

shyt happens. its how yu deal with it. and then yu live and learn.

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The Demise of Dating
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By CHARLES M. BLOW
Published: December 13, 2008
The paradigm has shifted. Dating is dated. Hooking up is here to stay.

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(For those over 30 years old: hooking up is a casual sexual encounter with no expectation of future emotional commitment. Think of it as a one-night stand with someone you know.)

According to a report released this spring by Child Trends, a Washington research group, there are now more high school seniors saying that they never date than seniors who say that they date frequently. Apparently, it’s all about the hookup.

When I first heard about hooking up years ago, I figured that it was a fad that would soon fizzle. I was wrong. It seems to be becoming the norm.

I should point out that just because more young people seem to be hooking up instead of dating doesn’t mean that they’re having more sex (they’ve been having less, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) or having sex with strangers (they’re more likely to hook up with a friend, according to a 2006 paper in the Journal of Adolescent Research).

To help me understand this phenomenon, I called Kathleen Bogle, a professor at La Salle University in Philadelphia who has studied hooking up among college students and is the author of the 2008 book, “Hooking Up: Sex, Dating and Relationships on Campus.”

It turns out that everything is the opposite of what I remember. Under the old model, you dated a few times and, if you really liked the person, you might consider having sex. Under the new model, you hook up a few times and, if you really like the person, you might consider going on a date.

I asked her to explain the pros and cons of this strange culture. According to her, the pros are that hooking up emphasizes group friendships over the one-pair model of dating, and, therefore, removes the negative stigma from those who can’t get a date. As she put it, “It used to be that if you couldn’t get a date, you were a loser.” Now, she said, you just hang out with your friends and hope that something happens.

The cons center on the issues of gender inequity. Girls get tired of hooking up because they want it to lead to a relationship (the guys don’t), and, as they get older, they start to realize that it’s not a good way to find a spouse. Also, there’s an increased likelihood of sexual assaults because hooking up is often fueled by alcohol.

That’s not good. So why is there an increase in hooking up? According to Professor Bogle, it’s: the collapse of advanced planning, lopsided gender ratios on campus, delaying marriage, relaxing values and sheer momentum.

It used to be that “you were trained your whole life to date,” said Ms. Bogle. “Now we’ve lost that ability — the ability to just ask someone out and get to know them.”

Now that’s sad.

E-mail chblow@nytimes.com

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Saturday, December 06, 2008

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and this is why i dun remember what most of my posts are bout!

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Sunday, November 30, 2008

Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers. ~Mary Tyler Moore
Othertimes yu jus knew yu were strangers the whole time.

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Monday, November 03, 2008

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Thursday, February 28, 2008

i just came (well kinda just) came back from valencia! took a weekend break thing with elysia and we had SO MUCH fun! hee. so much! well got so much attention that we decided that if one day no one wanted us, we'll go back there. someone will def take us. haha. in other words that jus means they are damn hum sup pple!!!! really hum sup. hahaha. not the main point. met so many people there. the hostel pple were amazing cept maybe for that girl. racist! we had french roomies and they were decent and nice! aww. haha on the second night they went out and camae back and 9! the funnest part was the meeting pple part im sure.

hee. we did the touristy things of coz- cathedral, museum, central market!!! (in order of least fav). haha. loved the market- the fruits were so pretty, vegetables as well and i bought nuts dried kiwi coconut and all. lol i sound like a married mum. oh well. the museum- din go in to the proper one.. instead went to watch a titanic exhibition.. like the real ship, not the film. some parts were really touching made ur nose go wierd and bit teary. nice. and cathedral aha nth much about it. took some pics and thats that. oh yes of coz how can i forget! the beach! wonderful. hahahaha we saw a man in thongs walking around in sports shoe?! it wasnt even that hot!

came back, and its time to study really hard

the thought of going hme drives me mad - i cant wait.

for the eyes!