j . a . m . k . m . b: June 2011

Pres. Thomas S. Monson, Oct 2008

"This is our one and only chance at mortal life—here and now. The longer we live, the greater is our realization that it is brief. Opportunities come, and then they are gone. I believe that among the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not. I plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by as you plan for that illusive and non-existent future when you will have time to do all that you want to do. Instead, find joy in the journey—now.

... Professor Harold Hill, one of the principal characters in [The Music Man], voices a caution that I share with you. Says he, “You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you’ve collected a lot of empty yesterdays.”

f you have children who are grown and gone, in all likelihood you have occasionally felt pangs of loss and the recognition that you didn’t appreciate that time of life as much as you should have. Of course, there is no going back, but only forward. Rather than dwelling on the past, we should make the most of today, of the here and now, doing all we can to provide pleasant memories for the future.

Stresses in our lives come regardless of our circumstances. We must deal with them the best we can. But we should not let them get in the way of what is most important—and what is most important almost always involves the people around us. Often we assume that they must know how much we love them. But we should never assume; we should let them know. Wrote William Shakespeare, “They do not love that do not show their love.”³ We will never regret the kind words spoken or the affection shown. Rather, our regrets will come if such things are omitted from our relationships with those who mean the most to us.

Send that note to the friend you’ve been neglecting; give your child a hug; give your parents a hug; say “I love you” more; always express your thanks. Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved. Friends move away, children grow up, loved ones pass on. It’s so easy to take others for granted, until that day when they’re gone from our lives and we are left with feelings of “what if” and “if only.” Said author Harriet Beecher Stowe, “The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.”

In the 1960s, during the Vietnam War, Church member Jay Hess, an airman, was shot down over North Vietnam. For two years his family had no idea whether he was dead or alive. His captors in Hanoi eventually allowed him to write home but limited his message to less than 25 words. What would you and I say to our families if we were in the same situation—not having seen them for over two years and not knowing if we would ever see them again? Wanting to provide something his family could recognize as having come from him and also wanting to give them valuable counsel, Brother Hess wrote—and I quote: “These things are important: temple marriage, mission, college. Press on, set goals, write history, take pictures twice a year.”

Said one well-known author: “Both abundance and lack [of abundance] exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend . . . when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present—love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature, and personal pursuits that bring us [happiness]—the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth.”

Said the Lord in a revelation given through the Prophet Joseph Smith, “In nothing doth man offend God, or against none is his wrath kindled, save those who confess not his hand in all things.”¹⁰ May we be found among those who give our thanks to our Heavenly Father. If ingratitude be numbered among the serious sins, then gratitude takes its place among the noblest of virtues.

Brothers and sisters, my sincere prayer is that we may adapt to the changes in our lives, that we may realize what is most important, that we may express our gratitude always and thus find joy in the journey."

Monday, June 27, 2011

Couple Good Books and a Decent Table

I recently finished reading an amazing book: Unbroken, by Laura Hillenbrand. It's a biography of former Olympic Athlete, WWII bombadier, and Japanese POW, and I couldn't put it down. I was blown away by the unbelievable experiences he had in his life, and I HIGHLY recommend the read. Very well written, which just added to the incredible story of Louie Zamparini's life.

Another fascinating book that I'm currently reading is called The Boy Who Harnessed The Wind, by William Kamkwamba. It's an autobiographical account of growing up in Malawi, and how this boy learned how to do things that changed his life and culture. Some of the most interesting things to me thus far in the book were relating to the African superstitions prevalent in underdeveloped countries - often things that could be explained easily, but once they latch onto supernatural explanations it's hard for them to see logic or common sense in the explanations. Also incredible to me was the devastation that one bad season can have on a country that exists solely on the back of growing crops... and the ingenuity this boy showed once he internalized the drive to pull his family out of the primitive crop cycle.

And finally, in an admitted moment of self-congratulations, I would like to announce the completion of our kitchen table. Lest I get ahead of myself, Matt Maxfield was very, very helpful with this project and deserves most of the credit (along with my Dad), but I'm still very proud of the final result and the work I had to do to finish it. Of course it's not perfect, and it does have blemishes, but it's still a pretty good product, and it's just nice to have a kitchen table! Now on to the beds...

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Summer

Well let's see... In the three weeks since I last wrote, we've had some great things going on. In as summary form as possible, here are the highlights:

--Our 17 year anniversary, which passed with little fanfare, to be celebrated properly later this summer when we can catch our breath
--Micah and Kennan did awesome in their dance recital - super amazing dancers especially considering they haven't had too much formal training
--Dave and I competed in the Ironman Boise 70.3 race. We both did better than we expected, and were super thrilled with our times. Dave beat me by 2 minutes, which was fine by me because we both did well. I was very pleased with my swim and bike, but extensive leg cramps sort of impeded my ability to finish strongly like I had wanted. All in all, awesome to do it with Dave, to spend time with he and Mere, to have Ang and the kids come support me and set an amazing standard for loud cheering every time they saw me, and great staying with our friends Greg and DaNel and their great family - their three boys were amazing with Brig!
--Micah went on Trek with our stake and loved it
--Ang, Micah, Morgan, and Brig drove to California for the week (currently there). Kennan stayed with me to then go to a week school camp up by Sundance.

So I've been home this week, and I've used the time to try and finish some of the furniture I started months ago. I've got the dining table stained and ready for clear coat - the goal is to have it upstairs and ready to go when the fam gets home from their trip Saturday night... couple more days of work should do it.

I'm going to a black-tie dinner tonight up in SLC. It's an awards gala dinner where our CEO is a finalist for Entrepreneur of the Year. I picked up a tux yesterday and it should be interesting... Thought I'd take a couple hours beforehand and squeeze in a round of golf with my brothers in the afternoon - looking forward to that!

I've been grateful to our CA friends for their continued friendship to all of us. Each time Angela calls me from her trip she sounds very happy, which makes me happy. I've also been grateful for our new Utah friends - they've already made our lives better in being here.

Monday, June 6, 2011

Happy Birthday Angela!!!

This is always a great day to me every year - June 6th. Yeah, it's Angela's birthday, and yeah, it's a happy day of celebration. But really it's all about the fact that on this day each year, Angela pulls within one year of my age, so when people ask how old we both are, she's just one year behind instead of two. Yep, I have a completely objecting and non-selfish way of looking at things...

Seriously, Angela's the best! I'm so grateful for her in every way. Even when she's not perfect, she's great. I've been taken aback recently about how proud I am of her. I'll be watching her in public - while she doesn't know I'm watching - and just marveling at how amazing she is. I'm one lucky guy.

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