Wednesday, December 24, 2025

Unraveled Wednesday: 12/24/25

I’m happily joining Kat and the Unravelers on Christmas Eve, with all of my Christmas gift knitting completed, and some mittens for me in progress. The last thing I had to finish was a hat for John. I hope it's acceptable to him and that it's "warm but not too tight" so he will wear something besides the Bankhead hat I knit for him four years ago. 

The gifts are all bagged and ready, including some catnip toys I sewed for my Grandcats.
 


I'm knitting The World's Simplest Mittens for myself and enjoying them so far. I've got enough Malabrigo left over from John's hat and Justin's slippers that I might even make some mis-matched Frankenmittens to use it up. But I'm also hearing my Hitchhikers calling to me, so they'll soon be back in my knitting rotation. 
 
 
I reread some L.M. Montgomery short Christmas stories  but they were just some Christmas-flavored filler so I won't comment here. I also finally finished The Antidote for our Read With Us discussion in January, but I'll save my thoughts for that. I did read a decidedly non-Christmas related book, 99 Ways to Die: And How to Avoid Them. It's a darkly funny, fast-paced tour through the many alarming ways the human body can fail and how to avoid becoming an ER cautionary tale. Written by an emergency medicine physician who has truly seen it all, this book blends gallows humor, practical safety advice, and just enough medical detail to be both informative and unsettling.

Each short chapter focuses on a specific danger, ranging from the bizarre to the painfully ordinary, and is anchored by patient stories or professional anecdotes. Alker has a knack for making serious material accessible: she explains complex medical risks clearly, keeps the tone light without being flippant, and often manages to make you laugh just as you’re realizing you may never look at everyday activities the same way again.

That said, the sheer volume of scenarios can feel repetitive over time, and some entries are more compelling than others. Readers looking for deep dives into physiology or systemic medical issues may find the treatment a bit surface-level, while anxious readers might want to pace themselves. The episodic structure makes it easy to dip in and out, but it doesn’t always build momentum.

Still, 99 Ways to Die succeeds at what it sets out to do: entertain, educate, and make you just a little more aware of how fragile, and also surprisingly resilient, the human body can be. It’s an enjoyable, eye-opening read for fans of popular medical nonfiction and anyone with a strong sense of humor about mortality.

Thank you to NetGalley and St. Martin's Press for providing me with a copy of this book. It will be published on January 13, 2026.

I hope you are enjoying a lovely and peaceful Christmas season, love and light if you celebrated Hanukkah, or a very pleasant Wednesday if that's what today is for you. I'll be back next week with a few year-end posts about making and reading. 

What are you making and reading this week? 


Monday, December 22, 2025

The World May Be Imploding ...

 ... but the bread still rises. My SiL (let's call her Phyllis) and I write each other weekly newsy emails and she told me about her plans for a dinner party she was going to be hosting for friends. Phyllis was making bone broth to use in preparing beef stew and listed the various dishes that friends were making. These included stuffed mushrooms, a salad with winter vegetables, cheesecake, and one friend would be bringing whatever bread she had baked that week. Phyllis said that this friend had started baking bread in January and kept baking as things got worse and worse. She told Phyllis that "The world may be imploding, but the bread still rises."


I was struck by this and felt compelled to start a loaf of cinnamon raisin bread, especially because I hadn't baked any bread in quite a while. It was done baking later at night, so it was dark and the pictures aren't terrific, but it was one of the nicest looking loaves I've made.  
 
 
It looked just as good when I cut a few pieces the next morning, and tasted wonderful. 
 
 
Everybody has to find the coping mechanisms that work for them, whether they involve voodoo dolls, reading, knitting, appreciating nature, music, or baking bread. Just thinking about what my next loaf will be makes me feel better because even though the world may be imploding, the bread still rises. 
 

 

Thursday, December 18, 2025

A Gathering of Poetry: December 2025

It’s the third Thursday of the month, which means it’s time for A Gathering of Poetry - welcome!

I just came across this poem and it evoked such a lovely picture in my mind that I thought it was one worth sharing.

Christmas Mail
by Ted Kooser  

Cards in each mailbox,
angel, manger, star and lamb,
as the rural carrier,
driving the snowy roads,
hears from her bundles
the plaintive bleating of sheep,
the shuffle of sandals,
the clopping of camels.
At stop after stop,
she opens the little tin door
and places deep in the shadows
the shepherds and wise men,
the donkeys lank and weary,
the cow who chews and muses.
And from her Styrofoam cup,
white as a star and perched
on the dashboard, leading her
ever into the distance,
there is a hint of hazelnut,
and then a touch of myrrh.
 

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Kooser, Ted. "Christmas Mail". Together, Brooding Heron Press, 2012. 
 
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Wednesday, December 17, 2025

Unraveled Wednesday: 12/17/25

I’m happily joining Kat and the Unravelers today, with completed slippers, Hitchhikers in progress, and a barely begun hat. I realized that I hadn't knit John a hat this year and since it's a Christmas tradition, I looked around for a pattern, ordered yarn, and then worked on the gray Hitchhiker while I waited (impatiently) for the yarn to arrive.

Deciding on a hat pattern was slightly difficult because John always wears the one I knit four years ago, Bankhead. I finally asked him what he liked about it and he said it was warm but not too tight. I chose the Bulky Waffle Hat for this year because I enjoyed knitting Justin's slippers with Malabrigo Chunky and wanted to continue the enjoyable experience. Once the yarn arrived yesterday, I was a little dismayed to find that I didn't have the recommended size 10 needles. I decided to use Justin's slippers as a swatch, and ended up using size 8 needles and casting on four extra stitches. Right now it's just ribbing but it will hopefully go quickly. If it doesn't work, I can always frog it after Christmas and make adjustments (or maybe it will fit me). I also ordered more of the Malabrigo for mittens for me, but they will have to wait.  

And since they're officially an FO and will soon be wrapped, here are Justin's slippers. I do hope he wears them sometimes, or maybe his cats will sleep on them since they are so soft and warm. 
 
 
I only finished one book this week. I'm sorry it is an ARC and won't be published until June, but it was so good I'm going to share my thoughts here in December. Ann Patchett has always had a gift for writing about the quiet, powerful moments that shape us, but Whistler feels like something even more tender and resonant, a novel that hums with memory, regret, and the kind of love that never fully lets go. From the very first pages, I was completely absorbed.

The story begins with a chance encounter at the Metropolitan Museum of Art, where Daphne Fuller and her husband notice an older man trailing behind them. It turns out to be Eddie Triplett, Daphne’s former stepfather from decades earlier. What unfolds from that moment is a luminous, deeply human exploration of time, connection, and the strange ways our past selves remain alive inside us. Patchett writes their reunion with such grace that it feels both miraculous and inevitable.

This is a novel about the choices we make and the ones made for us, about how small events can redirect entire lives, and how love, unexpected, unconventional, or fleeting, can echo for years. Patchett captures the fragility of memory and the incredible feeling of simply being known by someone else. The book is understated but emotionally expansive, filled with those sharp little truths the author inserts so delicately you don’t realize how deeply they’ve settled until you feel the tug in your chest. 

Whistler will absolutely be one of my top books of 2025. In fact, finishing it has left me with the distinct (and slightly comical) worry that there may not be much to look forward to (book-wise) in 2026 because I may have already read the best book that will be published during that year. It’s that moving, that beautifully crafted, and that unforgettable. A quiet masterpiece that I will re-read several times before publication on June 2, 2026.

Thank you to Edelweiss and Harper for providing me with a copy of this stellar book.

What are you making and reading this week? 

 

Monday, December 15, 2025

It's A Little Tarnished ...

 ... but I still like my angel chimes in spite of their slightly bedraggled appearance. 

I got this 33 years ago at Ryan's insistence. We were at a little 5 & 10 store (which has sadly closed) and they had one on the counter with the candles lit and the angels whirling around. Because he was two, Ryan was fascinated by the candles but also by the angels and chimes. I think it was $2.99, so of course I bought it.
 

 The base has some spots of rust on it, 
 

and the angels have also dulled over time and have their own areas of wear. But I enjoy watching the angels whirl around and dinging the chimes for a few minutes each year. It always reminds me of good memories, like the kids promising to be good if I would light the candles and laughing hysterically when I accidentally installed the angels the wrong way and they flew around backwards.
 
 
I've thought about replacing it for several years, but I haven't found another red one like this. Now it seems as if they are all shiny brass and cost about 10 times what I paid. More importantly, they also don't come complete with sweet memories, so a little bit of rust and tarnish is just fine with me. 

Friday, December 12, 2025

Look What I Got!

Some family members were visiting last weekend so I had brunch on Sunday for John's sister, her husband, their oldest daughter, and her son. They are always wonderful people to visit with and I wish we could have spent even more time together. 

We were having so much fun talking to each other that I didn't take any pictures but I do want to show you the very special gift that my SiL made for me. 


My very own voodoo doll! I love everything about it - the colors she used, the hair, the tie, the tiny hands, and that expression. I have wondered many times how I was going to cope over the next three years, and I think this might actually help. When I read the news about the destruction of the White House, deportations, Venezuela, the demise of the CDC and vaccine policy, and everything else, there is very little I can actually do. But it's surprising how poking a few pins in strategic places can help. 

My SiL has made four of these voodoo dolls so far and gifted them to friends in New Mexico, Sweden, PA, and NJ. We even joked about coordinating and poking our pins at the same time just to see what might happen.

At the end of the day, after we’ve done what we can to make our voices heard in real and constructive ways, I think it’s healthy to laugh together. There’s no reason we can’t also laugh at the absurdity coming at us from every direction these days. Honestly, I think we need laughter more than ever.

Let me know if you’d like me to place any pins for you!

 


Wednesday, December 10, 2025

Unraveled Wednesday: 12/10/25

I’m happily joining Kat and the Unravelers today, with an almost-completed second slipper and a few rows on my Hitchhikers. 

I had hoped to be done with the slippers, but I've still got 18 rows of ribbing left to go on the fold-over cuff. The winter light was fading fast on Tuesday afternoon, so I took the photo but I'll have them completed by next week. I have a full skein of the soft green Malabrigo Chunky and I'd like to make myself a pair of mittens, but I don't think one skein is enough. I just might have to do some Christmas yarn shopping for myself. 

I did a few more rows on the blue Hitchhiker and cast on (again) for the soft gray one. I've only knit six teeth on the gray one but I'm glad to have it back on the needles. Sometimes I'm in a gray mood and sometimes I feel more like working on something in a cheerier bright blue.

I haven't finished any books this week but I've been reading our current Read With Us book, The Antidote, and several excellent advance reader copies. The ARC s are so good that I want to take my time and savor them, while also reading quickly to see how they turn out. This is a good dilemma to have.  

What are you making and reading this week? 

 

Monday, December 8, 2025

Counting Down to Christmas



I don't decorate for Christmas nearly as much as I used to, but earlier this year I thought about what decorations I really liked and enjoyed. The answer was Advent calendars. We always had them when I was growing up, and they were simple old-fashioned paper ones with little doors numbered 1 through 24. You were meant to open a door each day and a picture would be revealed, often of a cute animal, ornament, or some other Christmas-y scene.

I got Advent calendars for my boys one year, but they weren’t all that impressed with sweet, simple pictures. The next year I tried Playmobil and Lego Advent calendars. They liked the toys much better, but delayed gratification wasn’t really their thing. By the second day, they had opened every box on both calendars, but at least they had a great time playing with the figures and Legos afterward.  

 
I looked around the internet for an Advent calendar that was similar to what I was imagining, but so many of them revolved around "stuff" - jam, tea, wine, beauty products, even fishing lures and rubber duckies. But eventually I ended up at Bronner's Christmas Wonderland. They had just what I was looking for, in fact, so many Advent calendars that I had a hard time making a choice. I ended up getting two of them, Neuschwanstein Castle and Woodland Friends. 
 
 
They have been perfect. I’ve really enjoyed opening the little doors each day. I even remembered a tiny hedgehog from one of my childhood calendars, and sure enough, there it was waiting for me on the very first day.
 
 
It’s not often that something under $20 brings me this much joy, but these Advent calendars certainly have. I hope that you've got some favorite seasonal or holiday decorations that bring you as much enjoyment as my Advent calendars do for me!
 

 

Friday, December 5, 2025

Maybe a Bit Too Much

John has been away for much of the week visiting his cousin in northern PA. I didn't have any desire to go along; it's cold (4° F last night), there's no heat in the upstairs bedrooms in the old farm house, and the family stories are a bit boring to me. All of this means that I've been here at home to mostly do what I want. I've been eating grilled cheese or yogurt for dinner, I cleaned a little bit, decorated a little bit, caught up on laundry, and knitted. I also felt like baking something and settled on chocolate zucchini bread. John isn't a big fan of chocolate, so I saw this as my chance to make something that I wanted. 

I browsed a bunch of recipes and finally settled on smitten kitchen's version. I should have paid more attention to the fact that it was called "double chocolate" but I went ahead and prepared it as written, except I used 1/3 cup fewer chocolate chips and didn't sprinkle any on top.
 
 
I baked the bread for 75 minutes and even then, it barely tested as done. But I took it out, cooled it in the pan and on a rack, and tried a piece once it was completely cool. Whoa, this stuff is seriously chocolatey, in fact, maybe a bit too much if that's possible. 

I know John won’t eat much, if any, because of all the chocolate. Some family members are coming for brunch on Sunday, so maybe I can give most of it away. If not, I briefly considered sharing it with the neighborhood wildlife, until I googled it and learned that “chocolate harms raccoons, opossums, squirrels, and foxes because the theobromine and caffeine it contains are toxic to them, similar to how they affect dogs. Ingestion can cause vomiting, diarrhea, increased heart rate, seizures, and potentially death.” I definitely don’t want to be responsible for that.
 

Maybe next time I’ll make a nice, healthy zucchini quiche. I’ve been trying to align my eating with an anti-inflammatory diet, and that definitely doesn’t include anything labeled “double chocolate.”

Wednesday, December 3, 2025

Unraveled Wednesday: 12/3/25

I’m happily joining Kat and the Unravelers today, with some slipper progress. It feels as if time has been speeding up this fall, and once I turned the calendar page to December, and realized that there are only 22 days left until Christmas, I knew I needed to get knitting in earnest on Justin's slippers. (Ravelry link)


I've finished the first one and started on the sole of the second. It's relatively simple construction so I'm sure I can get the second one done in plenty of time. I was concerned that they might not be big enough while I was knitting, but they are actually quite large. 

You can't tell exactly from this picture on my size 8 feet but they should definitely fit Justin's gigantic feet. It remains to be seen whether he'll wear them but they should keep him warm if he does.
 
I haven't knit on the blue Hitchhiker for a week, but I did get the soft gray Silk Road Light back out of the stash, thinking that I might actually cast on a second Hitchhiker. I haven't done it yet but two Hitchhikers are better than one. 

We've got wintry weather and I had a wintry theme in my reading this week. The Land in Winter is a beautifully written, quietly observed novel that feels less like a traditional narrative and almost like a series of finely rendered snapshots. Set during the brutal winter of 1962 in England, Andrew Miller brings two neighboring couples, Eric and Irene, Bill and Rita, into sharp focus just as the world around them freezes into stillness. Their lives, already shaped by unspoken disappointments and the quieter strains of marriage, become even more exposed once the snow isolates them from the outside world.

I’ll admit that early on, I wondered where the novel was going once it opened with an isolated incident that I soon forgot about and the characters were introduced. After finishing the book, I’m still not entirely sure whether Miller was more interested in crafting these exquisitely written moments than in building a larger arc around them. The timeline feels secondary to the vividness of each scene, sunlight on snow, a half-heard conversation, the subtle shift of a relationship. And yet, that choice has its own quiet appeal.

What the novel avoids is melodrama. Even when old tensions rise or unexpected discoveries come to the surface, the tone remains understated, almost hushed, as if the cold has muted everything but the essentials. The result is a story that moves gently but with intention, rewarding readers who appreciate mood, atmosphere, and emotional nuance more than plot-driven momentum.

Miller’s prose is undeniably gorgeous, and his attention to the minutiae of daily life is often mesmerizing. While the book didn’t fully sweep me away, its delicate restraint and beautifully textured writing make it a memorable winter read. Three and a half stars rounded up.

Winter: The Story of a Season is a warm, contemplative wander through the season’s landscapes, both literal and emotional. Val McDermid proves she’s just as compelling in creative nonfiction as she is in crime fiction. This slim volume feels like settling in beside a fire: quiet, cozy, and full of small delights.

McDermid moves seamlessly between present-day reflections and childhood memories, capturing everything from the frosty streets of Edinburgh to the bracing Scottish coast, from Bonfire Night to Up Helly Aa. Along the way, I learned a surprising amount, like the fact that snowdrops come in more than two hundred varieties, something I had absolutely no idea about. I also picked up some great Scottish vocabulary: dreich (dreary weather), rouille (sauce made from garlic, olive oil, and cayenne or chili pepper), and shoogly (wobbly or unsteady). These little linguistic gems added charm and texture to her storytelling.

What stands out most is McDermid’s affection for winter’s rituals, some fading, some evolving, and her gentle reminder that this season can be a time of rest and creativity rather than simply endurance. The book never rushes; it invites you to pause, breathe, and appreciate the small mysteries of cold, dark months.

While Winter is a quieter book than some readers might expect, it’s a deeply engaging one, and it left me hoping McDermid will publish more nonfiction. She clearly has a gift for it.

A lovely, thoughtful read, perfect for anyone who enjoys reflective seasonal writing or simply wants to hunker down with something comforting on a cold night. Four and a half stars rounded up.

Thank you to NetGalley and Grove Atlantic for providing me with a copy of this book. It will be published on January 13, 2026.
 Just a bit of a wait until publication day and it will definitely still be winter!

What are you making and reading this week? 

 

Monday, December 1, 2025

I'll See in a Month or Two

I have bursitis in my hips and they have been aching, stiff, and sore for a long time (as in several years). I have been to two different orthopedic doctors, gotten cortisone shots three or four times, done physical therapy four different times, I do exercises at home, and figured out how to manage the pain on a daily basis (ibuprofen and Diclofenac gel). It's not ideal, but lots of people have chronic conditions, and there really isn't anything else to do. My current orthopod has said that hip replacements won't help, but he can manage the acute pain with cortisone shots and he will refer me to the chronic pain clinic if/when I feel like I need it.

A little while ago I saw an ad for Osteo Bi-Flex and wondered if it really did anything. I've read several studies on the efficacy and the results are honestly all over the map. It has helped in some studies (often patients with knee pain) but shown little to no effect in other studies. So I decided that I needed to order some and try it for myself. I have 60 capsules so I will take one a day and see if there is any difference in a couple months. I don't take any other supplements or vitamins, but decided that a multi-vitamin couldn't hurt. It was hard to find one that didn't have 300% of some vitamins because that's just too much, but this one is a bit more realistic. 

I'll admit that I'm a bit skeptical, but I also did some reading about the placebo effect. Dr. Ted J. Kaptchuk, a professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School and director of the Harvard-wide Program in Placebo Studies and the Therapeutic Encounter (PiPS) at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, has been studying placebos for more than 20 years. He says, "People can still get a placebo response, even though they know they are on a placebo. You don’t need deception or concealment for many conditions to get a significant and meaningful placebo effect, especially in conditions that are defined by self-observation symptoms like pain." 

That sounds promising to me and I'm giving it a try.  


Friday, November 28, 2025

Tradition

It's important to keep some traditions alive to help ensure feelings of continuity and groundedness. I have a piece of birthday cake for breakfast the day after my birthday and a piece of pumpkin pie with whipped cream is my breakfast the day after Thanksgiving. I’ll probably skip the news for a bit, just to hang onto this feeling of contentment a little longer.

I hope your long weekend is off to a delicious and relaxing start!

Thursday, November 27, 2025

Happy Thanksgiving!

Wishing all who are celebrating a very Happy Thanksgiving, and a very Happy Thursday to those that aren't! I'm grateful for you and that you take time out of your day to read my thoughts and share yours. Thank you!

(I post this same picture every year on Thanksgiving, but it's simply because I like it so much and it says exactly how I feel.)


Wednesday, November 26, 2025

Unraveled Wednesday: 11/26/25

I’m here (maybe, hopefully, joining Kat) with some actual unraveling for Unraveled Wednesday. After finishing Justin's socks, I knew I needed to finally cast on for a Hitchhiker. I went through my stash, culled and organized it a little bit, and thought these yarns might work nicely. 

I only have one skein of the black & white speckled yarn, but the gray is a delightfully soft blend of baby alpaca, camel hair, cashmere, and silk. I thought this would make something perfect to wear around my neck, but after I cast on and knit twelve teeth, I decided that I really needed more color. So there was a small bit of unraveling, more digging in the stash, and it produced three skeins I had completely forgotten about. They're Wollmeise; I think they go together perfectly, and are providing the color and comfort knitting I wanted. 
 
 
I wound the skeins for Justin's slippers and plan to cast on the day after Thanksgiving, right after I've enjoyed my leftover pie for breakfast. My plans for the weekend are simple and lovely: knitting, reading, and relaxing in my pajamas for a while. No shopping for me!

I read two books this week. I was really looking forward to Winter Stories, especially because I loved Rishøi’s Brightly Shining. She has a gift for writing about people on the margins with tenderness and precision. But while this collection showcases her talent for atmospheric, deeply humane storytelling, I struggled to make an emotional connection with the characters this time around.
Each of the three stories centers on people trying to make their way toward stability, an overwhelmed young mother, a father newly out of prison, and siblings running from a home that no longer feels safe. Rishøi captures their desperation and small hopes with her usual clarity, and in each story a stranger steps in with an act of kindness. Yet those gestures, while meaningful, only make things marginally better, underscoring how fragile and temporary relief can be.

There’s a quiet power in these pieces and moments of real emotional resonance, but for me they never fully added up to the immersive experience I found in Brightly Shining. Readers who appreciate bleak but compassionate realism may find more to hold on to. I admired the craft, but the connection I’d hoped for never quite landed.
This one was three stars for me. 

Thank you to NetGalley and Grove Press for providing me with a copy of this book. It will be published on December 2, 2025. There is a Goodreads giveaway if you're interested. 
 
Kat recommended this one and it was well worth reading. Run for the Hills is Kevin Wilson doing what he does best: taking a premise that sounds slightly absurd on the surface and turning it into something surprisingly heartfelt. The novel has his signature blend of offbeat humor, dysfunctional family dynamics, and characters who feel like they’re always one deep breath away from falling apart, but who somehow keep inching toward connection anyway.

The book’s energy is high from the start, almost chaotic at times, and while that momentum is part of its charm, it also makes some sections feel a bit scattered. There were moments when I wished for a little more grounding or emotional depth, especially compared to Wilson’s strongest work. Still, his dialogue snaps, his observations shine, and the way he captures the anxieties of modern life feels both sharp and forgiving.

What ultimately lingers is the tenderness underneath all the eccentricity; Wilson’s gentle insistence that even when everything feels unmanageable, people are worth loving and relationships are worth trying for. Run for the Hills may not be my favorite of his novels, but it’s a funny, affectionate, and consistently engaging read that will appeal to anyone who appreciates Wilson’s particular brand of oddball heart. Three and a half stars rounded up.
 
 
What are you making and reading this week? 

Monday, November 24, 2025

Sometimes Monday ...

 ... is a good day for another poem. Yes, it's another one by Barbara Crooker but it felt right to share it for Thanksgiving week. I promise I'll move on to other poets (someday). 

Praise Song
by Barbara Crooker 

Praise the light of late November,
the thin sunlight that goes deep in the bones.
Praise the crows chattering in the oak trees;
though they are clothed in night, they do not
despair. Praise what little there's left:
the small boats of milkweed pods, husks, hulls,
shells, the architecture of trees. Praise the meadow
of dried weeds: yarrow, goldenrod, chicory,
the remains of summer. Praise the blue sky
that hasn't cracked yet. Praise the sun slipping down
behind the beechnuts, praise the quilt of leaves
that covers the grass: Scarlet Oak, Sweet Gum,
Sugar Maple. Though darkness gathers, praise our crazy
fallen world; it's all we have, and it's never enough. 

 

Crooker, Barbara. "Praise Song". Radiance. Word Press, 2005. 

 

Here's hoping you can find a reason or two of your own to praise our "crazy fallen world".

Thursday, November 20, 2025

A Gathering of Poetry: November 2025

It’s the third Thursday of the month, which means it’s time for A Gathering of Poetry - welcome!

Last month I posted a poem by Barbara Crooker. She was a new poet to me then, but in the month since, I've been reading more of her poetry and I continue to be impressed. The poem I chose this month spoke so clearly of the landscape, what I've been seeing outdoors, and how I've been feeling that I had to choose Barbara Crooker again this month.  

 

Sometimes, I Am Startled Out of Myself
by Barbara Crooker
 
like this morning, when the wild geese came squawking,
flapping their rusty hinges, and something about their trek
across the sky made me think about my life, the places
of brokenness, the places of sorrow, the places where grief
has strung me out to dry.  And then the geese come calling,
the leader falling back when tired, another taking her place.
Hope is borne on wings.  Look at the trees.  They turn to gold
for a brief while, then lose it all each November.
Through the cold months, they stand, take the worst
weather has to offer.  And still, they put out shy green leaves
come April, come May.  The geese glide over the cornfields,
land on the pond with its sedges and reeds.
You do not have to be wise.  Even a goose knows how to find
shelter, where the corn still lies in the stubble and dried stalks.
All we do is pass through here, the best way we can.
They stitch up the sky, and it is whole again. 
 
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Crooker, Barbara. "Sometimes, I Am Startled Outside of Myself." Radiance. Word Press, 2005.
 
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Wednesday, November 19, 2025

Unraveled Wednesday: 11/19/25

I always look forward to Wednesdays, but after reading Kat's incredibly sad news yesterday, things are different. I'm still going to write about Justin's bigfoot socks and some books I read, but mainly I'm thinking about Kat, her son and daughter-in-law and wishing I had something more to offer than thoughts and prayers. But that's all I can do, so I will be thinking about the whole family, every day for a long time.

So I tried the darning egg to graft the toes on the socks, but I don't think it's the tool for me (for that job anyway). Maybe because it's new, I felt clumsy using it. I did one sock with the egg and the other one without it, and I think the one I did without looks slightly better. I will try to actually darn some threadbare sock heels with it at some point, but since I usually decrease my socks down to 12 stitches at the toe, grafting isn't really that big of a deal. I just need to put my head down and get on with it. 
 
 
 
So here are Justin's sock in all of their bigfooted glory.
 

I'll be starting on his slippers soon, but first I'm going to toss the stash and look for some Hitchhiker yarn. I hope I remember how to knit one! :-) 

I had another good reading week and finished two books. The Heart-Shaped Tin is a warm, contemplative blend of memoir and cultural history, and Bee Wilson shows her gift for uncovering the emotional lives of everyday objects and the people attached to them. The book begins with a quietly devastating moment: several months after Wilson’s husband abruptly walked away from their marriage, she stumbled upon the heart-shaped tin she had used to bake their wedding cake twenty-three years earlier. That discovery becomes the emotional spark for a book that manages to balance a scholar’s curiosity with a memoirist’s vulnerability, offering a reading experience that is both intellectual and profoundly heartfelt.

The author moves gracefully between her own post-marriage reflections and the stories of others whose wooden spoons, saltshakers, toast racks, and tongs become touchstones for grief, comfort, creativity, and connection. Some of the most memorable sections are the deep dives into objects with long histories: the 5,000-year-old Ecuadorian chocolate vessel, the stoneware inscribed with defiant poems by an enslaved potter, the ceremonial tools, the heirlooms passed down through families. These moments broaden the book’s scope beyond personal storytelling and remind the reader just how universal these attachments are.

This was four stars for me, but what kept this from being a five-star read for me is also part of its charm: the book meanders. While Wilson’s writing is consistently sharp and lovely, the structure can feel a bit diffuse, and some chapters linger longer than they need to. Still, the overall effect is soothing, curious, and unexpectedly moving.

If you enjoy reflective nonfiction, especially books that blend history, anthropology, and personal narrative, The Heart-Shaped Tin is a rewarding, empathetic read. The author has written a wide-ranging exploration of how kitchen tools hold memory, identity, and sometimes even a kind of quiet magic. It’s a reminder that the mundane objects we reach for every day often hold our most intimate stories.

Before I Forget is that rare novel that manages to be both warmly funny and quietly devastating, often in the same paragraph. Tory Henwood Hoen follows Cricket Campbell, stuck in neutral, grieving an old tragedy, and now reeling from her father’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis, as she abandons her running-away city life and returns to the family’s Adirondack lake house to care for her father Arthur. What unfolds is a late coming-of-age story that feels sharply contemporary yet deeply timeless.

Hoen writes beautifully about the disorientation of early adulthood, the slippery nature of memory, and the uneasy push-pull of family history. Cricket’s narration is wry and self-aware, but it’s her vulnerability that makes the novel so affecting. As she settles back into life at Catwood Pond, she has to confront the versions of herself she’s been avoiding and the ways grief quietly calcifies into habit.

Arthur, meanwhile, is a revelation. His Alzheimer’s is rendered with compassion and nuance, and the novel’s magical-realist twist, his growing ability to predict the future, is handled with surprising tenderness. Rather than feeling gimmicky, it becomes a thoughtful metaphor: as his past recedes, the future sharpens, and father and daughter meet each other in a liminal, often luminous space.

I loved how Hoen ties the emotional arc to place. The Adirondacks are drawn with crisp, lived-in detail, and the lake house and Catwood Pond become a site of both rupture and repair. Cricket’s slow reclaiming of memory, her own and her father’s, feels earned, moving, and often unexpectedly hopeful.

A funny, heartfelt, and insightfully crafted novel about what it takes to move forward when the past refuses to stay put. Four and a half stars rounded up. Thank you to NetGalley and St. Martin's Press for providing me with a copy of this book. It will be published on December 2, 2025.
 This was a good one, but thankfully, you won't have a long wait before publication day. There is also a Goodreads giveaway if you are interested. 

What are you making and reading this week? 

  

Monday, November 17, 2025

Sometimes Monday ...

 ... is a day for letting go. 

Ryan enjoys cooking and has been pestering politely asking me for several years if I thought maybe we could have Thanksgiving at his house. I've always said that it's my favorite holiday because it's just about good food and good company, with no extra pressure for gifts. I really do love Thanksgiving leftovers, even more than the meal itself, so I've always said, "That's okay, we'll just have Thanksgiving here."

But this is the year I've finally let it go. After a lively group text with Justin and Ryan, we decided that dinner will be at Ryan's. I will still be making a couple of pies, apple crisp, and crescent rolls, and Jess is bringing macaroni & cheese and Brussels sprouts. (Those are two different dishes!) Ryan is doing everything else, and I'm happy about it. I may have to bring home a piece of pie so I can have my traditional day-after-Thanksgiving pumpkin pie with too much whipped cream for breakfast, but I think Ryan will be okay with that. 

Sometimes it's good to let go and do something a bit different.


 

Friday, November 14, 2025

Thoughts on Some Books

I had a pretty good week in reading, and I'd like to tell you about the books I read. 

Some Bright Nowhere is a beautifully written, emotionally resonant novel about love, loss, and the quiet complexities of a long marriage. Ann Packer returns after more than a decade with a story that feels both intimate and universal, a portrait of two people facing the inevitable, and the way one shocking request reframes everything they thought they knew about each other.

Packer’s writing is as graceful and precise as ever. She captures the rhythms of a decades-long relationship with real honesty, including the small kindnesses, the familiar irritations, the enduring affection that deepens even as the body and spirit begin to fade. Eliot’s voice, in particular, is rendered with empathy and depth. His reflections on caregiving, love, and identity feel heartbreakingly true to life.

The novel’s pace is quiet, even meditative, which suits the subject matter but may feel slow to some readers. And while Claire’s “startling request” drives much of the emotional tension, it’s handled with restraint rather than melodrama and might be more an exploration of what love demands of us than a shocking twist. I really disliked Claire and her coven of friends and didn't understand what she wanted in her final days. Maybe I didn't understand her reasoning because I've been lucky enough not to be facing the end of my life, but I mainly felt sorry for her poor husband Eliot.

Ultimately, Some Bright Nowhere is a tender, thoughtful look at what it means to honor another person’s autonomy and to keep loving when love becomes hardest. Fans of Packer’s earlier work, like The Dive from Clausen’s Pier, will recognize her gift for emotional clarity and moral complexity. A moving, quietly powerful return from a writer who understands the human heart. Three and a half stars rounded up.

Thank you to Edelweiss and Harper for providing me with a copy of this book. It was published on November 11, 2025, and there is a Goodreads giveaway for it if you are interested. 


Julian Borger’s I Seek a Kind Person is a deeply moving and meticulously researched family memoir that bridges the personal and historical with impressive grace. What begins as a journalist’s investigation into a long-buried family secret becomes a powerful meditation on survival, silence, and the human capacity for both cruelty and compassion.

When Borger discovers the small newspaper ad that saved his father’s life in 1938 Vienna, he opens a door to a world of lost stories of children sent into exile by desperate parents, families torn apart, and the quiet heroism of strangers who answered those heartbreaking pleas. The author’s background as a journalist serves him well here; his research is exhaustive, and his attention to historical detail exacting. Yet what keeps the book from feeling overly documentary is its emotional core and the empathy Borger extends to both the remembered and the forgotten.

The book moves across continents and generations, weaving together accounts from Vienna, Britain, Shanghai, and beyond. At times, the sheer number of stories and names can feel overwhelming, but that may be true to the chaos of the time and a reflection of the fragmented lives left in the Holocaust’s wake. The passages about Borger’s father, Robert, and his lifelong silence are especially affecting, offering a sensitive portrait of inherited trauma and the difficulty of knowing those who survived by not speaking.
 

While occasionally dense and perhaps a bit too detailed in its later chapters, I Seek a Kind Person remains a remarkable act of remembrance, both personal and collective. It’s a testament to the power of archival research, but more importantly, to the persistence of kindness in a world that so often forgets it. This was four stars for me.

Brightly Shining by Ingvild H. Rishøi is exactly the kind of book I’ve been craving: a story filled with gentler, kinder characters even as it faces hard truths head-on.

Christmas is approaching, Ronja’s father is once again out of work, and the family’s stability feels as fragile as ever. When Ronja manages to get him a job selling Christmas trees, it looks like fortune might finally shift, until the pull of the local pub proves stronger than his responsibilities. With social services close to intervening, Ronja and her sister step in, determined to keep their small family intact by selling the trees themselves.

What could easily have been a bleak or overly saccharine story instead becomes something quietly luminous. Rishøi writes with such warmth, tenderness, and deep understanding of the ways children create hope out of even the most precarious situations. Ronja and her sister aren’t idealized; they’re simply good, loyal kids trying their best in a world that hasn’t given them much. And again and again, kindness shows up, sometimes unexpectedly, sometimes in small gestures that feel nothing less than life-saving.

Caroline Waight’s translation deserves special appreciation. Her rendering of Rishøi’s prose is clean and vivid, capturing both the humor and the heartbreak without tipping into sentimentality. The emotional truth of the story shines through in every scene.

Brightly Shining is a novella that carries surprising depth. It’s about addiction and responsibility, certainly, but even more about love, resilience, and the quiet generosity of strangers. For anyone seeking stories where goodness still has a place in the world, this four star book is a bright, moving gift.

Having just finished The Book of Guilt, I’m left with a strong sense of admiration for Catherine Chidgey. This book is ambitious, deftly written, and morally provocative. The author imagines an alternate Britain in 1979, with an unnerving under-current of institutional control and moral ambiguity. I found the world-building compelling; the three teenaged triplet boys in the Sycamore Homes, the daily routines of “The Book of Dreams”, “The Book of Knowledge” and “The Book of Guilt” work as powerful metaphors for surveillance, control and internalised shame.

Vincent’s voice (one of the triplets) is believable and his gradual awakening to the reality around him is quietly haunting. The way Chidgey layers the children’s trust in their "Mothers" with the creeping sense of something deeply wrong was, for me, the strongest part of the novel. Beyond that, the themes of dehumanization, complicity, science-ethical reckoning and what it means to be “other” in society feel both timely and deeply human. The prose, while at times understated, often glowed with small moments of vivid imagery: e.g., the description of the gazing ball “shimmering in the ferns like a great eye” was one of my favorite touches.

While Vincent’s sections were the most gripping, some of the other narrative threads (for example the Minister of Loneliness subplot) felt less emotionally grounded in comparison. The shift in perspective is clever, but I found that I was more invested in the boys’ story than the parallel ones. As a result, the latter parts of the novel, while thematically rich, didn’t quite land with the full force I was expecting.

If you enjoy literary-dystopian fiction with strong moral underpinnings, this four star book is one you’ll want to read. It has shocks, slowly-gathering dread, and characters you care about, and it leaves you with lingering questions about power, difference, and guilt. Both Remote Sympathy (the only other book I have read by Chidgey) and The Book of Guilt showcase her remarkable ability to explore moral complicity and the quiet, human face of institutional cruelty, but they do so in very different settings. Remote Sympathy is historical, set in and around a Nazi concentration camp, where Chidgey examines denial, guilt, and the uneasy intimacy between perpetrators and victims. The Book of Guilt moves into a near-future dystopia, an invented Britain where social control and moral judgment are systematized through eerie institutions. Together, they form a compelling diptych: one rooted in the atrocities of the past, the other in the moral dangers of the present and future.


I hope your weekend ahead includes some good reading!