The first overnight in Hospital

I can’t sleep while I sit on the only chair.
I can’t sleep while the nurse said visitors are not allowed to take shower.
I can’t sleep while the next door Popo breathe very slow, hard and loud.
I can’t sleep while I need to say many prayers for Popo, the opposite young lady who has no visitors, and an old Popo who is taken care of by maid.
I can’t sleep while mum cough very hard and bloody.
I can’t sleep while the nurse dragging the medic equipment till everyone knows that she is coming!!
I can’t sleep while the families and relatives of Popo talk to her, console her and cry for her when she is gone.
I can’t sleep while others’ hand phone ring maliciously at night.
I can’t sleep while others painfully scream and mourn at night.
I can’t sleep while the nurse uses her maxi volume, high pitch and stern voice to order her subordinate to do another task at the middle of the night.
I can’t sleep while the families and relatives talk about casket and funeral and discuss between them in the room.
I can’t sleep while the opposite old Popo snore so long and loud.
And I start to admire her.
I should be able to sleep because of my selfish soul.
The nurse asks for the extra chair to be borrowed to the next door and my answer is yes but with a small request if I can borrow it when my brother is back.
I didn’t ask for it when my brother is around. He had run for the whole day and he deserved to sit and rest for a while.
I’m not tired because I can’t sleep. I’m just tired that I have no wisdom.
Popo, please don’t worry and God will be with you always.
And mum, I know that you can’t sleep too. But you need to have strength and fight for another day, so do I. Please get well soon and let’s fight together. Because this is just the first night.

What is real happiness?

Humanity can be divided into 3 types, the sleeping ones and the awakened ones - and of course, a small group in between.

Happiness will depend on where you are in your consciousness.

If you are asleep, pleasure is happiness. Pleasure means sensation, trying to achieve something through the body that is not possible to achieve or forcing the body to achieve something it is not capable of. The body can give you only momentary pleasure, and each pleasure is balance by pain in the same amount, to the same degree. Each pleasure is followed by its opposite because the body exists in the world of duality. Just as the day is followed by night and death is followed by life and life is followed by death, it is a vicious circle. Therefore your pleasure will be followed by pain, yur pain will be followed by pleasure.

If you are people who are in between, who are neither asleep nor awake, who are just in a limbo, a little bit asleep, a little bit awake. You sometimes have that experience in the early morning - still sleepy, but you cant say you are asleep because you can hear the noise in the house etc. These people enjoy nature, its beauty. They enjoy silence, they enjoy what they had ever enjoyed before, and that is far more lasting. For example while you dance, suddenly you forget your body, your body becomes weightless. The grip of gravity over you is lost, suddently you are in a different space. But this is also not the ultimate.

The ultimate happens only when you are fully awake, when all sleep is gone, when your whole being is full of light, when there is no darkness within you. All darkness has disappeared and with that darkness, the ego is gone. All tensions have disappeared, all anguish, all anxiety. You are in a state of total contentment. You live in the present; no past and no future anymore. This moment is all. Now is the only time and here is the only space. And then suddenly the whole sky drops into you. This is bliss. This is real happiness.

Therefore pleasure is animal, happiness is human, bliss is divine.

• Pleasure binds you, it is a bondage, it chains you. Happiness gives you a little more rope, a little bit of freedom. Bliss is absolute freedom.
• Pleasure is dependent on others. Happiness is not so dependent on others, but still it is separate from you. Bliss is not dependent, it is not separate either, it is your very being, it is your very nature.

Pleasure is physical, physiological. It can be sexual, it can be of other senses, it can become an obsession with food, but it is rooted in the body. The body is your periphery, your circumference; it is not your centre. and to live on the circumference is to live at the mercy of all kinds of things that go on happening around you.

Pleasure is dependent on the other. If you love a woman/man, if that is your pleasure, then you feel unhappy, in despair, sad without her/him - then you have created bondage for yourself. If you are seeking after money and power, then you will be dependent on money and power. The more you have the more you will become miserable. It is a double-edged sword. The more you demand, the more you desire, the more you feel youself lacking something - the more hollow, empty, you appear to yourself. If food is pleasure, just a taste for a moment, when the food passes across the taste buds on your tongue. If you go on eating the same food everyday your taste budgs will become unresponsive to it. Soon you will be fed up with it. That's how people become fed up - one day you are running after a man or a woman and the next day you are trying to find an excuse to get rid of the same person.

The Happiness that comes from within

Foreword

I was recommended by my colleague to read this book 3 months ago. I didnt border to touch and open the book because the white background cover is so boring. Only until recently, when I have one queit lunch time when everybody choose to go out of the office but I have my humble sandwich with me. With no free newspaper, I refused to look at computer and more work, I opened this book. And I can't stop reading even though everybody is back to the office. Just share with you some insight of happiness from this author, OSHO.

"Human beings can be tremendously happy and tremendously unhappy - and they are free to choose. This freedom is hazardous, this freedom is very dangerous because you become responsible."

Tree are simply happy because they cannot be unhappy. They dont know how to be unhappy. The birds chirping in the trees are happy not becuase they have chosen to be happy - they are simply happy because they dont know the other way to be. Their happiness is unconscious, it is simply natural. We, as a human being, have consciousness. Either we can become happy or we can become unhappy. Then it is our choice. So when we choose, we will be reponsible. If we choose the other way, we are not nature.

"Happiness happens when you fit with your life, when you fit so harmoniously that whatsoever you are doing is your joy."

Human beings have gone completely topsy-turvy. We have been distracted into unnatural preoccupations: money, prestige, power. Wherever we see power, prestige, money, we are no longer ourself. Immediately we forgot everything - we forgot the intrinsic value of our life, our happiness, our joy, our delight. We always choose something from the outside and we bargain for it with something from the inside. We gain the without and we lost the wisdom.

Remember it: Nobody else can decide for you. All their commandment, all their orders, all their moralities, serve to cripple you. You have to decide for yourself, you have to take your life in your own hands. Otherwise, life goes on knocking at your door and you are never there - you are always somewhere else.

Your destinay can find you in only one way, and that is your inner flowering, as existence wanted you to be. Unless you find your spontaneity, unless you find your element, you cannot be happy. You have to drop all those patterns that have forced on you, and you have to find your inner flame. so IT DEPENDS ON YOU.

And more :) Santa is coming to Town !!

I'm Back :)

Clearing my file and find some photos... which we took last year during Christmas time in KL.

Onigiri !!!!

Thanks to XL... she made the onigiri for us before our R&R class. We are so fortunated to join this class. I cant resist it and love the combination of rice, seaweed and sesame very much. It is delicious !!!!


The lunch box is so sweet .... !!!!! I can feel the Jap lunch box culture now.



And you cant believe it - Home-made Vegetarian Onigiri !!!!!


This is how we eat it that day- with mint leaves and more seaweed.

Thai Vegetarian

Refer to ML blog about this newly Thai Vegetarian in Aljunied.

We just want to try different vegetarian food and find out what is the Dragon seaweed.


This is yummy... the marinated Dragon Seaweed !!!! My very First time ... hehhee

And Thai famous Tom Yam soup !! It is really really hot and spicy and sour and Shiok !!!! We sweat more than it is after our jogging every week.


Luckily we ordered another stir fry simple veg... because it can help to reduce the "heat" of the above 2 dishes !!! But still my stomach was burning after we left the place till i closed my eyes to call if off for the rest of the day. I guess people will call this "hui wei" and it is worth remembrance.