- にっき パート4 -

Diary of a bangle

Part 4

Hello folks! Sorry for the hiatus! Month of May has been a crazy month for my owner and I! I've been keeping her company as and when she allows me to and I'm here to share my sights and her experiences in the month of May. Since May is coming to an end, I thought it quite apt to sum up the month. She has done quite a lot of catching up with friends this month and most events, especially on weeknights, do not come with pictures considering her peculiar circumstance.

On a side note, she has completely lost her voice after 2 full days of outdoor events and a crazy month of appointments and tight schedules. She's not complaining though! Because she has no voice. HAHA!

The pictures are not chronologically arranged because:

1) it's troublesome;

2) I can't really be bothered to remember which came first;

3) it doesn't matter since they were all taken in May -_-"'

Here's a pretty picture of the sunset after dinner...

Oh and my owner is now a proud member of ArtFriend -_-"' Yea, she got more stuff.

She went to the zoo and this is her and her typical jumping shot...

With imooto...

Her new camera which managed to capture the magnificent white tiger!

And the visit to NightSafari...hey! It seems like she was visiting a number of tourist attractions in May! I know she was bemoaning the fact that she didn't get to meet someone from HK who visited Singapore during May. She really wanted to meet him but somehow couldn't find time. Nuts. I wanted to see how he looks like too.
Oh my gosh this board was so smelly can! She put her head there for 2 secs, SNAP! and she quickly ran out fanning herself. She was shaking me so hard when she fanned I thought I would faint.

And her terribly colourful dessert one night after Seoul Garden...I don't know how she ate it. She was complaining about how full she was and she still went for ice-cream -_-"'

Oh and remember the previous time she bought lots of artsy stuff? This is the result of her first project.

Dinner at some Mediterranean Restaurant..

At a wedding anniversary dinner..obviously not theirs, you dingdong!

Another dinner at Changi Airport's Sakae Teppanyaki! おおいしそうね！

Check out the chawanmushi! The bowl is an onion! I would have loved to see her expression when she bit in to the bowl with the chawanmushi. Too bad she didn't -_-"'

Her Happypill who's getting too busy for her.

And can someone please tell her not to take pictures at this angle?

She looks even fatter.

And her eyes are so small.

She had a wonderful day that day despite what happened in the morning that day...I could tell :) I think she really likes her job. Because of all these perks!!

She gets to go up all these spectacular machines and talk to pilots. ROFL.

Though she has to work on weekends for most of May (even yesterday!), I think she enjoyed herself despite all the things that made her sad, angry and jaded in the same month.

So all you nasty people who made her angry, sad and demoralised, especially those who made her shed tears and lose sleep and what not,

please do her good deed and get out of her life.

Completely.

I hereby thank you in advance.

^-^

- バースからの景色 -

Do you have a favourite seat on the bus? Assuming that seat is empty, you'll definitely sit on it?

I do.

Most of the time in the morning when I take the bus to work, I get to sit at my favourite seat. However, someone else beat me to it this morning by a mere 5 seconds. I had to settle for the seat opposite my usual seat. The next best.

By sitting at this new seat, I saw different views, different sceneries that passed me. All these that have been there all the while but I missed it. Interestingly, this is the same bus that brings me to the same destination.

The new sights enlightened me about The Other Side of things that I failed to notice. It suddenly dawned on me to see things from the other person's perspective. From the other side. All the while, I have been seeing things from my side. Guessing. Doubting. Querying. But all of a sudden, I saw it from what might be the other person's point of view.

あたし煩いかもね。だから、やめます。あたしやめます。

悲しいときさ、泣かないで、友達とふざけたりわざと笑ったり、そいて別に何でもない良かったふりすることない？

- 一緒にとき、楽しんだよ -

Let the pictures do the talking ^-^

- ゆうき -

はい、わかりました。今まで、お世話になりました。

- ちゃんと考えてください -

很多事情不是谁说了就算

即使伤心结果还是自己担

多少次失望表示着多少次期盼

事实证明幸福很难

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- げんかす時、何をすればいい？ -

Today, I wish to talk about Conflict Avoidance.

I wanted to write about it a long time back but I never got down to doing it until something that happened recently that made me more determined to write about it.

I used to think avoiding conflicts is a good thing. There will be peace. Right? And when there's peace, everyone will be happy. Right??

Absolutely NOT.

Let me give you a scenario where a person, X, is trying to explain his thoughts and emotions to Person Y. So naturally, X voiced his displeasure of certain aspects of Y. Instead of addressing the issue and explaining himself, Y conveniently avoids/forgets/ignores that whole part of the conversation and introduces a new topic in to the conversation.

Resultant effect?

The problem is NOT solved. It's just swept under the carpet.

This will subsequently result in a snowballing effect. And how much stuff can you sweep under the carpet! Dang it!

So the displeasure and unhappiness grows. You might think it's ok. Just tolerate and things will blow over..but NO! That is not resolving the issue! Your displeasure, whether consciously or not, will start to bubble and boil which will ultimately lead to a fall-out.

TRUST ME.

I've witnessed this many times. The more extreme cases are stated below.

1) 2 of my girlfriends fell out because of their initial high tolerance of each other until one day, someone snapped and now the friendship is irreparable. They have been keeping in too much unhappiness with each other. General thinking at that point of time was -Good friends should give in to one another. I agree, but how much can you give in??? There has to be a basic trust and understanding between friends!

2) My girlfriend and her boyfriend broke up because she had a couple of displeasures that the guy ALWAYS conveniently avoids addressing the issues which led to a serious lack of communication and understanding between the 2. How to go on like that when there is not proper communication?

I have also encountered people like that. Ok fine! I admit, I avoid awkward situations and conflicts too. But I will not intentionally avoid the topic when the topic is brought up in my face!! So recently, when I tried to resolve an issue with someone and was subsequently introduced to a whole new conversation topic all of a sudden, I was irritated. Because the problem is not solved. And I don't want things to be left dangling like that.

Running away does not solve anything.

Face up to the problems and try to resolve them.

At the very least, you tried!

- 幸せは何？ -

お幸せに！

- (｀_´)ゞ -

がっかりした。