During an informal poll conducted by yours truly, guide dog trainers were asked for the top skills they wanted puppy raisers to be focused on. Every single trainer mentioned house manners. (The other popular responses were: appropriate greeting behaviors and obedience around distractions... a topic for another time) Behavior in the house is something that we really can’t work on much on-campus, so we rely heavily on raisers to enforce manners at home.
It sounds like a simple concept, but what does it mean when we say a puppy has “good house manners”? It is easy to make a list of things we DON’T want the puppy to do:
- Don’t take food items off of the counters (“counter surfing”)
- Don’t steal tissues out of the wastebasket
- Don’t beg for food at the table
- Don’t steal the remote control and play a game of keep away with it
- Don’t ingest items (socks, books, towels, dog beds, etc)
- Don’t bolt out the door
- Don’t urinate or defecate in the house
So now we’ve established the “rules”. Except how do you communicate that to a puppy? What that list sounds like to me is a series of “NOs”. Issuing a correction to the puppy to every single one of those transgressions would be exhausting for both you and the puppy (and for what it’s worth, these are not hypothetical situations; golden retriever Kudzu at least attempted every single one of those things, and it’s a rare puppy who won’t have several checks on that list). I could tell a puppy NO to each one of those items, and she might not try it again; however, if she wasn’t given any alternative behavior, she may not actually know what she is being corrected for. For example, if she steals a tissue out of the wastebasket, she may carry it into the living room, settle onto a dog bed, and start shredding it. If I just then notice she is chewing a tissue, and I jump up and say “NO”, then take it out of her mouth, what did she learn? One thing I guarantee that she learned is that if I approach her when she has something in her mouth, I might be taking it away and scolding her. She did not associate my “NO” with the action of taking it out of the trashcan, because that happened three behaviors ago. She might eventually figure out what I mean, but it’s not particularly clear at that moment.
Any time I come up with a DON’T, my goal is to figure out what I would like the dog to do instead. It is much easier to teach behaviors you DO want. So here is my updated list:
- Down/stay on your bed when food is being prepared in the kitchen; alternatively, respect the boundary of the kitchen and go settle elsewhere when food is being prepared
- Choose your toys instead of the wastebasket, which will now be placed in more obvious places during playtime so I can offer immediate feedback
- Down/stay in a predetermined location during human meal times (can be at your feet if you’re practicing for future restaurant visits; can also be on a dog bed)
- Trade stolen items for treats or toys; making it a positive thing for a puppy to trade in “forbidden items” prevents guarding, keep away, and swallowing
- Regularly practice sit/stay at doors; sometimes you get to go through them, sometimes not
- Urinate and defecate outside
By focusing on the DOs instead of the DON’Ts, I now have a training plan starting to take shape. It is much better to be proactive with commands, strategic tie-down and crate placement, and set-ups than to wait for a bad behavior to happen and correct it.
So here is a sample training plan for a dog who steals socks (or who you think will steal socks in the future; that is the number one complaint, tied with tissue stealing).
Supplies needed:
- Treats
- The puppy’s regular toys that are out all of the time (Nylabones, Kongs, etc)
- Special soft toys that only come out for training sessions; I personally keep a Kong Wubba for such occasions
- An assortment of socks
- A short length of leash
Attach the leash to the puppy and allow it to drag. Have treats and the soft toy on a shelf out of the puppy’s reach. Spread out the puppy’s regular toys on the floor, then add some socks. Allow the puppy to make choices. If she picks up a sock, tell her it’s a beautiful sock, then thank her, and calmly take it away; then walk to the treat bag and get her a treat. Did you just teach her to pick up the sock? Isn’t that the behavior you DON’T want? What you taught her was that giving you objects is a good thing, and that you are willing to trade. This prevents swallowing and allows you to easily interrupt the behavior. If I catch a dog chewing on a sock, I would like to easily be able to call the dog to me to give me the sock, rather than having to chase her down and take it.
So back to our training session. The leash is there only to prevent her from playing a game of keep away; do NOT correct her with the leash. Instead, if she plays keep away, pick up the leash and ask her to walk with you. Walk over to the treat bag and give her a treat when she relinquishes the sock.
Bring the puppy back over to the approved toys and see if you can engage her into a play session with one of them instead. Toss a Kong or encourage her to chew on a Nylabone while you hold it. We are giving her an option to get some personal interaction with you by choosing the right toys. If her usual toys don’t have much allure and she is looking at the remaining socks (or staring up where she last saw the treat bag), bring out the special toy and see if you can get her to play with that. The goal is interactive play: wiggle the Wubba so that the little tails race across the ground, hide it behind your back, make it reappear and disappear again. Now there is a soft, vaguely sock-like toy, but it is a lot more fun than a sock that just lays there!
If the puppy is still gazing at the treats, then just do some treat-rewarded obedience with the socks spread out across the floor. After a 10 or 15 minute play/training session, pick the socks up and put them away.
Repeat this type of session frequently. Have socks make a regular appearance in daily playtime/training. This type of controlled exposure will help you identify your puppy’s favorite way to play/interact with you, and also gives you a chance to work on a “trade for a treat” in a low-pressure environment. As the sessions progress, just calmly take the sock away without a food reward and redirect him to a toy.
If you find the puppy with a sock outside of a training session, just react the same way you would in a training session. Don’t make it a big deal, just thank the puppy, tell her to “drop it”, and remove the item. If you have been working with the training sessions, she should give it up with ease. Do not dive for or snatch the item. If she’s looking dodgy, like she might run or swallow the sock, run to the treat jar and ask her for some obedience; then pick up the sock and give her a treat.
Teaching any dog, but especially a retriever, to not pick “your” items up takes time. It generally cannot be fixed in just a session or two. Approaching it with a perspective of understanding and acknowledging their instincts creates a less confrontational relationship. Puppies explore the world with their mouths more than anything else, so structured games like the one outlined above gradually teach the puppy to channel it appropriately. It also is much less work than having to be hyper-vigilant and ready to say “NO, DROP IT” 200 times a day.
When you have concerns with house manners, think of a way to set the puppy up for success instead of either correcting as it’s happening, or setting her up to fail. For housebreaking problems, such as busying inside 5 minutes after having been outside, bring the puppy inside and keep her on leash, play with her for a few minutes, then take her right back outside again. For begging, put the puppy on a tie-down (with a cozy dog bed) in view of the table; occasionally walk over and give her a piece of kibble when she is down and settled (if she gets up, put her back into a down before giving the treat). When she gets into the habit of settling on her bed whenever you are eating, wean off of the kibble. For rushing or barking at the door, practice sit/stays not only when you are taking the puppy out, but also randomly throughout the day: sit, stay, door opens, door closes, leash comes off and pup is still in the house.
The more we can establish manners in the home, the better chance of success the puppy has. Be as proactive as you can when problems arise, and do be prepared to manage the situation if necessary; my bathroom trashcan is positioned so that it is hard for a puppy to reach. My kitchen trashcan has a lid. My counters are extra spotless and laundry is put away quickly when a puppy is around. And I also make it a point to teach the puppy what I DO want, so that she learns the rules as clearly as possible.