Love the girl in your heart, not in your
mind. If you
base your relationship on feelings, it will fail
for
there are ups & downs in feelings. Girls are
there
to be loved, not toyed around.

Love her for who she is. Don't even think about
changing any bit about her. 6 billion people in
this
world & 6 billion different personalities. She's
special & she will stay that way. You change any
part of her, you'll change her forever. Don't
substitute her for anyone else, they are just
unique
in their own ways.

Love whole-heartedly. She sacrificed a lot for
you
so you'd better really treasure her. She could
have just got up & date a so much more dashing
guy in town but she chose you instead all because
of love. So love her guys, not play with her.

Don't just get the girl to beg you to stay or
whatsoever. If you're with her, love her. Don't
cause
a strain in the relationship, you'll end up
loving
each other out of pity or charity, that's not
respecting love at all. Respect love the way it
is &
everything will be the best it can be.

Don't expect perfection from her. She's the only
one in the world & she's done the best she could.

Like another girl while you're in a relationship?
Then I think it's time you remain single for a
while.
Don't go around breaking girls' hearts, it's the
most
tragic thing to do.

Tell the truth, never hide anything from her. If
you
want her to tell you everything, do the same.
Don't
go calling other girls "honey" or "darling", how
would it feel if your girl calls other guys the
same
way? Be faithful, enough is enough.

Socialise only when you're single. You socialise
&
flirt around is to get the girl of your dreams.
Get it
over when she's already yours, don't ask for
more.

It never kills to be romantic. Think, be
flexible.
Getting that diamond ring isn't the only gift
for her.
Be realistic, she's human & she lives life just
like
you. Something sweet & simple always get the job
done. Money doesn't exist between couples, it's
the love.

Never promise her that you'll love her forever
because your forever might end the next day. Love
her as if each day is the last.

Sweet talks only apply for singles, not for
attached
guys. Do that & you'll really break your girl's
heart.
Isn't good being too well-known too, it'll give
her a
sense of insecurity. Remember, INSECURITY.

Promise her & make sure you never break it.
Swear to her & make sure you keep it. Pledge
your love to her & her alone.

Loving her is giving her your heart to break it
but
trusting her not to. Instead, she'll cherish it &
protect it. That's love. Give her your heart,
your
life,
your everything.

Lay down your life & prepare to die for her when
the need arises. But stay strong & live through
another day, she can never live without you.

Never, ever walk out of her life. She won't just
cry
her heart out & carry on living as per normal,
she'd
die. It her heart that you've broken, how would
you
ever know how she feels?

Winning a girl's heart isn't the final victory.
Don't
leave her once you've won her love. Love her all
the
way till the end of time, love her till
marriage, love
her till old age, love her till death. If you
can love
her till the end of time, you've earned the
honor &
respect for you've truly loved her.

She chose you because she believes that you can
fulfil your promise. Win her heart & love her
over.
Remember, the girl isn't a trophy for display,
she's
someone to love, not to show off to
your "friends".
Stay humble yet proud that she's the one for you.
Respect her for the way she is, never despise her
& never mistreat her, never even think of toying
with her...

Should give firefox a chance. Hmm...so far so good. Maybe IE really sux.

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Enlightenment

Probably one of the fundamental existential questions we ask once we are conscious of our being is "Where did I come from?" Since it is a question, it is obvious that it arose out of ignorance. As I do not know where I came from, this very state of unknowing is my ignorance. If so, I came from "what I am ignorant of"; I came from "the lack of wisdom" (wisdom being the opposite of ignorance). In short, I came from "my ignorance". Though I do not know where I came from due to ignorance, I realise I can increase my wisdom, which will eventually peak and eradicate all my ignorance of the nature of reality, also answering the question of "Where did I come from?" Most of us are simply too ignorant at the moment to fathom our origin, and the Buddha probably sees this - which is why He simply taught that we arose from ignorance.

To dwell on the question of our origins from ignorance without wanting to increase wisdom is like trying to light a fire (symbolic of shedding light of wisdom on the darkness of ignorance) with a damp matchstick (symbolic of our ignorant mind). We should dry the match first first, or it wouldn't work. Interestingly, in the process of heating the match to dry it, it will burst into flames when it is hot enough, igniting itself. Likewise, just as darkness gives way in the presence of light, ignorance will progressively diminish via the presence and increase of wisdom. Ignorance and wisdom are mutually-exclusive in the same moment, just as light and darkness cannot share the same space.

Since nothing can arises out of nowhere without causes and conditions, I must have had a preceding existence in some form, or the above titled question would not make any sense. Ignorance must then be a quality carried over from a previous life. Even so, our truly fundamental ignorance is not "not knowing where we came form"; it is the assumption that there is an "I" who comes and goes, since there is no unchanging "self" (a fixed entity which can pointed to as "I"). There is instead a temporal "collection" of constantly changing physical and mental elements, which we mistakenly label together as our "selves". This misconception is sustained by our lack of clarity in perceiving the truth of impermanence of mind and matter.

Perhaps then, the question of "Where am I going to?" is much more relevant than "Where did I come from". It sure beats the impossible tracing of our origins through countless past lives using an ignorant mind. "Where am I going to?" I am going to seek liberation from all ignorance (delusion), which is what gives rise to my attachment (greed/craving) and aversion (hatred/anger), which cause all my unhappiness in life, which gives others unhappiness too. This liberation, or Enlightenment, has to come from the attainment of wisdom. This is where I am going - to be free, to be truly happy, and to help others be the same. There is no worthier goal as the ultimate purpose will always be to seek True Happiness for all, which is possible only when we cultivate ultimate compassion and wisdom to help oneself and others - this is the noblest Buddhist path and purpose to Buddhahood.

Life is short - we have to ask the wise existential questions, because chances are, if we keep asking "Where did I come from?", we might still be asking it in our many future lives. But if we start asking "Where am I going to?", we would have just embarked on the journey to freedom. -Shen Shi'an

I am sooooooooo happy

Yes! i am delirious with joy. The sense of mirth radiates from me.

1) there would be a trombone outing this sunday!!!wooohooo. can meet snr and jnr and woohooo!! HOSEI!!!

2) been spending time with brothers. playing balls, makaning, mugging. Time is short. muz treasure these times

3) went to this brain awareness talk at RJ. but that is besides the point :)
we talked about a lot of things. Future plan, family members ...
one of the most memorable rides i have in life for sure :D

joy is such simple with you around :) :) :) :) :)

Enlightening

Once upon a time, when the Buddha was still Prince Siddhartha, He had all that most would had wanted in His time. When He ventured beyond the palace walls, He encountered an old man, a sick man and a dead man. To His dismay, He realised that the world lives in the constant shadow of suffering. Returning to the palace with this disturbing burden of reality, He discovered He could not no longer be happy - despite having all the luxuries in the world.

It wasn't because he was afraid of the inevitable suffering He would face, but it pained Him that all have to endure the vicissitudes of living and dying. Thus, He chose to renounce His princely life, to seek the solution for universal liberation, to end suffering for one and all. By attaining Enlightenment, He succeeded in finding the path to True Happiness. That was how He became the Buddha - one with perfect Compassion and Wisdom.

But enough, for I digressed.
The story I really want to tell... is about YOU.




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Imagine now, more than 2,500 years after the Buddha's time - You are the richest person ever and own the tallest and most magnificent mansion in the world. It has all the luxury facilities you ever dreamt of - a personal pool, spa, gym, theatre, bar... whatever your heart desires. Welcome to your modern day paradise palace.

One day, you hear cries beyond the walls of your estate. You look out of the penthouse window and to your utmost surprise, you see a "sea" of suffering people - old, sick, dying, both the physically and mentally distressed. There are so many of them that they cover all of the land up to the horizon.

My first important question for you - Can you ever be truly happy again? Are you able to turn your back on the suffering you see and live your life as before? Be honest. I don't think you can. I don't think anyone can, unless one does not comprehend the suffering one sees.

Would you not try your best to help these suffering people? You will realise that true and complete happiness for yourself is possible only when those around you are free from suffering, or when you know you have tried your best to help free them from suffering. If you are to reflect deeply, you will see that it is simply not in human nature to ignore the pain of others. Whether you succeed helping all in your lifetime is beside the issue; trying your best in the moment is the main issue.

You might think it was extreme to use the analogy of a mass of suffering people - but is it? There are indeed more than enough suffering beings in our world to overflow the horizon. Perhaps our Compassion is not as strong and readily aroused as Prince Siddhartha's, who only needed to see three in suffering to realise its prevalance and implications. Perhaps we need a drastic experience of reality in person to awaken our Compassion, instead of seeing only fleeting images of suffering in the papers or on TV.

Next, imagine having helped all the suffering people. With a job well done, you feel glad and content. One day, you receive news that there is one person left in suffering, miles away from you... a total stranger, just like the rest you helped.

My second important question - Can you ever be truly happy again? Are you able to turn your back on this stranger and live your life as before? Be honest. I don't think you can. You would naturally want to reach out and help this one person, whoever and wherever he or she is, no matter how difficult it is. Why?

Because the truth is... You cannot stand even the suffering of one single being, much more to say, the suffering of many. Your innate Compassion is thus all-encompassing, embracing one and all unconditionally. It is so perfect that it is even concerned about a small ant in distress. We all have this perfect Compassion within - Compassion that is not different from the Buddha's. It is from this Compassion that springs forth Bodhicitta - the aspiration to help all beings attain True Happiness by becoming Buddhas, by being Bodhisattvas (Buddhas-to-be in training). Here, we learn to stand in the shoes of the great Bodhisattvas, to understand how they can make awe-inspiring vows to guide every single being to liberation, no matter how many obstacles they face and how long it takes. Deep down, this is what we wish to do too! And we can because we have the potential.

This potential to become Bodhisattvas and Buddhas is called Buddha-Nature - our true nature, which is the same as that of all enlightened ones'. We "have" various other natures too - the nature of attachment (greed), aversion (hatred) and delusion (ignorance). However, these natures surface and fade away now and then like dark clouds passing in the sky. Our Buddha-Nature, however, is always there. It is like the bright full moon that shines forth whenever unhindered by the clouds of our defilements. To become a Buddha is to clear the clouds once and for all, and to let this heart of perfect Compassion shine always. Whether you know it or not, our Compassion is already perfect. All we have to do is recognise it... more and more, till Buddha-Nature becomes our "second nature", our only nature. As much as it is natural to answer the call of our Buddha-Nature to awaken our Compassion and Wisdom, it is actually unnatural to ignore it. This is because answering this call will lead to True Happiness, which is what we really want.

Back to the Buddha's story... The Truth that leads to True Happiness, which the Buddha discovered, is Wisdom. Compassion was His primary motivating force. He was moved by Compassion when He saw suffering, to seek the Wisdom necessary for everyone's liberation. The moment we answer our Compassion, we are like Prince Siddhartha, being true to ourselves, being true to all. The Buddha never forgot His intention to help all beings. All beings might not be perfectly helped yet, but having realised perfect Compassion, none of the countless Buddhas will give up. Will you not aspire to be one of them?

However, first things first. Never forget that you deserve as much Compassion as anyone else. Only when you take care of yourself well enough, only when you have enough Compassion for yourself, can it overflow to others. Remember - you cannot even stand the suffering of one single being - be kind to yourself then. The flowering of Compassion starts from feeling it arise for a single being - from not being able to stand your very own suffering.

Answer the call of universal Compassion today - be good to yourself, for it is also part of the path of being good to everyone else. In the Treatise on the Great Perfection of Wisdom, Nagarjuna Bodhisattva taught us that "Compassion is the root of the Buddhist path." As Buddhists who are aspiring Bodhisattvas and Buddhas, let us remember to take root in Compassion. Let us remember the roots of Buddhism, of how our precious connection with the Triple Gem arose from Prince Siddhartha's Compassion for all beings, including you and me. May we be grateful to the Buddha's Compassion, and repay it with Compassion to others. With this in mind, let us reflect on the following prayer, as we offer our thought, word and deed to the well-being of all...


May all mother sentient beings, boundless as the sky,
(all have been our countless dear mothers in our past lives)
have happiness and the causes of happiness.
May they be liberated from suffering and the causes of suffering.
May they never be separated from the happiness which is free from sorrow.
May they rest in equanimity, free from attachment and aversion.

On the behalf of all beings, thank you for your Compassion

Chasing After the Wind



Chasing after the wind,
I get close enough sometimes.
But even in the midst of it,
I can never grab hold it.

I can either hate myself
for being unable to hold the wind,
or hate the wind for its elusiveness...
or just enjoy the wind...

...before it disappears.
No need to have and to hold what cannot be had and held.
Just be one with it.
Be wind, be "wind-ed", be "wind-ishness".

Chasing after this mind,
which chases things like the wind,
I see cravings rising and falling,
thoughts flitting through like the wind.

Even in the midst of minding my mind,
I can never grab hold of anything in it.
Stop, just watch every passing thought...
Suddenly, peace.

quizzes

Your Brain is 66.67% Female, 33.33% Male

Your brain leans female You think with your heart, not your head Sweet and considerate, you are a giver But you're tough enough not to let anyone take advantage of you!

What Gender Is Your Brain?

Your Love Number is

2 Of all the numbers, you are the most caring and empathetic lover. Unselfish and humble, you find it easy to forgive your sweetie's mistakes. At times, your need to please can be come a bit too needy. As long as you remain somewhat independent, your relationships are perfectly balanced.

What Is Your Love Number?

You Are 30% Left Brained, 70% Right Brained

The left side of your brain controls verbal ability, attention to detail, and reasoning. Left brained people are good at communication and persuading others. If you're left brained, you are likely good at math and logic. Your left brain prefers dogs, reading, and quiet. The right side of your brain is all about creativity and flexibility. Daring and intuitive, right brained people see the world in their unique way. If you're right brained, you likely have a talent for creative writing and art. Your right brain prefers day dreaming, philosophy, and sports.

Are You Right or Left Brained?

Your Seduction Style: The Coquette

You are a pro at playing the age old game of hard to get. Your flirting style runs hot and cold, giving just enough to keep them chasing you. Independent and self-sufficient, you don't need any one person to make you compelte. And that independence is exactly what makes people pursue you.

What Is Your Seduction Style?