Crying

a stupid survey on "cry"

: : Do you often cry in front of people or alone:
>> alone

:: Have your friends ever seen you cry:
>> yes

:: Have you cried today:
>> no

:: Do you usually cry for a long time: .
>> depends

:: Do you get really red when you cry:
>> a bit

:: Have you ever cried because you were
happy:
>> no. only tears of joy

:: Have you ever been someone's crying
shoulder:
>> yes

:: Have you ever hugged someone because
they were crying?
>> yes

:: Have you ever had a shoulder to cry on:
>> no

:: Have you been hugged when you cried?
>> once. when my grandma passed away, a lot of relatives hug me while i was crying

:: Do you cry when watching sad movies?
>> yes. but usually is on the brink of tear

:: Do you cry while reading books:
>> only on the verge of tears

: Does music make you cry:
>> yes

:: Have you ever been called a cry baby:
>> no

:: Have you ever tried to stop yourself from
crying:
>> yes when there are people ard. when no one ard, i juz let myself cry

:: Have you ever cried in front of a teacher:
>> yes

:: Does this survey make you want to cry:
>> LOL

::Have you ever cried over a guy/girl:
>> no

:: Do you cry when you are physically hurt?
>> not that i remember

:: Do you cry when you are scared:
>> no

:: Do you cry when you are mad:
>> no

:: Do you cry over bad grades:
>> no

:: Have you ever cried over spilled milk:
>> cannot remember

: Can you make yourself cry:
>> sometimes

:: When was the last time you cried. describe:
>> forgot liao. paiseh to tell

:: Have you ever cried because you were sad
for someone else:
>> yes

:: Do you have a favorite crying quote:
>> no

:: Have you ever cried for anyone who wouldn't
cry for you:
>> no

:: Do you ever cry on anniversaries of things:
>> no.

:: Do you cry over someone you love because
they have a gf/bf:
>> no

:: When was the last time u felt loved and u
cried:
>> no

:: Who is the person you always cry for:
>> family

:: Will you cry because this survey is over:
>> LOL

P.S. i am sooooo dumb to do this survey

Word of a dying man

“Whatever the body suffers the mind needs not associate itself with.

“If there is still anything this body can do, this body will do.

“Whatever happens in life that can’t be changed, just accept.
There is no absolute good or bad.

“If I am well again, I will help others like how others are helping me now.”



Often, we take for granted the things we have,
only to treasure them when they are gone.

Most things that are lost will never return.

Are we admiring and treasuring the things still here today?

Or are we lamenting for the things gone yesterday,
or yearning for the things to come tomorrow?

read a very good article. Some of it is quite a true portrait of my feelings

http://www.zaobao.com.sg/fk/fk507_161104.html

文中精髓：

"我已习惯扛担子，且习惯性地接受挑战。

是山穷水尽了，柳暗花明还遥在重山之外

越是难挨，越是放不下。明知花明的那一村远在山涧天边，然而只要有希望，我还是坚挺着下去。身心时刻承担着不同层次的压力。确实是压力，不过却都是自己给披加的。真正给我造成压力的是一贯对自身的要求。

大概除了宽容，我已没有余地可走了。疲累的身心使我没有讨价的本钱，我拖着身子对抗生活的考验和多变，最后拖着身子上了飞机。这一刻，空虚的情绪还应该捻出多一份感激，感激这班机托起我的身子，挥去昨天的尘埃，飞向另一个里程碑。

他隐约可感受到，我的不语和表面上的安好，背后都承载着多变多重的压力

我传承的是骨子里的傲气，好家伙是肩上硬绷绷地压着扁担，就算再苦再难，总有路子走下去。再说，嘴边的苦闷根本谈不上艰难，充其量只叫做生活。积极正面的煎熬好比徒步跋涉高原，再使劲地攀上一步，兼胸膛一口脉搏还在，那花明的炊烟就在眼前不远处。

再贵的减压疗程还不如这一缸水。听起来可笑，然而这水却带着单人间的宁静属性。此刻，最拜谢这份奖学金的，大概就是给了我这一块宁静的空间

回想，就算是前阵子被压力压得紧，老实说，我还是满足的。至少这是我主宰的生活，生活里带着我的人格选择。我一步一步艰难地走过，就算辛劳，然而走过的路中还历历印着我的步迹。"

阅后感：
虽说本人的命不算苦，但孤身赴他乡求学之路走来不易。一路上若非师友相助实是寸步难行。本人深知未来路途将更崎岖，但本着强烈的信念及友人的祝福，本人将无畏前进！（哇，写得实在夸张...）

love

Do Small things with Great Love
All of us want to do something grand to show our love for our loved ones. It would be marvellous if we have the opportunity to do it. But, we dont need to carry out grand things in order to show great love for others and for God. We dont have to do big things only small things with great love. It is the intensity of love we put into our actions every day that makes them into something beautiful for God and for others. It is not the magnitude of our action that counts but the depth of love we put into it.
So, how do we show how much love we put into our deeds every day? Mother Teresa shows us how, Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired.
How does a lamp burn? Through the continuous input of small drops of oil. If the drops of oil run out, the light of the lamp will cease, and the bridegroom will say, I do not know you (Matthew 25:1-13).
What are these drops of oil in our lamps? They are the small things of daily life: faithfulness, punctuality, small words of kindness, a thought for others, our way of being silent, of looking, of speaking, and of acting. These are the true drops of love that keep our religious life burning like a lively flame.
Do not look for Jesus away from yourselves. He is not out there; He is in you. Keep your lamp burning, and you will recognize Him. (A Life for God, 70)
Even a small thing like being present for others can be done with great love. Mother Teresa says:
If there is a need God will guide you, as He guided us to serve those with AIDS. We dont judge these people, we dont ask what happened to them and how they got sick, we just see the need and care for them. I think God is telling us something with AIDS, giving us an opportunity to show our love. People with AIDS have awakened the tender love in those who had perhaps shut it out and forgotten it.
Sister Dolores shows how simply being there with love is often enough:
"There is a lot of fear at the beginning for those who come to us with AIDS. It is hard for them to cope with the fact that they are going to die. But being there with us and seeing us with others in their last moments makes a difference. I remember in New York that the mother of a man from Puerto Rico offered to nurse him if he came home. He thanked her but said he would remain with us, though he would visit her. One day he told me, I know when I am dying you will be there holding my hand, because he had seen us doing it with others and knew that he wouldnt die alone.
Its quite simple really. The dying are moved by the love they receive and it may be just a touch of my hand, or a glass of water, or providing them with some kind of sweet they desire. You just take that to them, what they ask for, and they are satisfied and know someone cares for them, someone loves them, someone wants them---and that, in itself, is a great help to them. Because of this they believe that God must be even kinder, more generous, and so their souls are lifted up to God. As we dont preach, we just do what we do with love, they are touched by Gods grace."
Brother Geoff, General Servant of the Ministries of Charity Brothers, also comments of the best way to offer love:
"When people who are used to being rejected and abandoned experience being accepted by others and being loved, when they see people are giving their time and energy for them, that conveys a message that, after all, they are not rubbish.
Certainly, love is expressed first in being with before doing to someone. We have to continually, renew our awareness of this because we can get caught up in a lot of the doing for. You see, if our actions do not first come from the desire to be with a person, then it really becomes just social work. When you are willing to be with a poor person you can recognise his need and if your love is genuine you naturally want to do what you can as an expression of your love. Service, in a way, is simply a means of expressing your being for the person---and often with the poorest people you cannot completely alleviate their problem. But by being with them, by being for them, whatever you can do for them makes a difference. The message we try to convey to the poorest of the poor is: We cannot solve your problems but God loves you even while you are handicapped or alcoholic or have leprosy, and whether or not you become cured, God loves you just as much and we are here to express that love. And if we can help relieve their pain a bit all well and good, but it is more important for us to remind them that even in the midst of pain and suffering, God loves them. Its a difficult message to communicate, obviously, but we believe that being for them is the first thing. If you spend time with a person then that is as much an expression of love as what you can do for them. (A Simple Path, 87-90)

"I would like it very much if our Co-Workers, each in his or her own immediate environment, would concentrate more and more on giving service freely and generously to the poor. Let each of them seek out those who live alone, who lack affection, those cut off, in any way, and try to see in them the suffering Christ.
Give some a smile, visit someone for a short time, make a fire for someone who is cold, read something to someone. These are small things, very small, but they will make your love for God more concrete." (Stories of Mother Teresa, 61)

It may happen that a mere smile, a short visit, the lighting of a lamp, writing a letter for a blind man, carrying a bucket of charcoal, offering a pair of sandals, reading the newspaper for someone--something small, very small--may, in fact, be our love of God in action. (A Life for God, 77)

Again, Father Henri Nouwen shows us how we can choose love in the little things we do every day: We choose love by taking small steps of love every time there is an opportunity. A smile, a handshake, a word of encouragement, a phone call, a card, an embrace, a kind greeting, a gesture of support, a moment of attention, a helping hand, a present, a financial contribution, a visit---all these are little steps toward love.
Each step is like a candle burning in the night. It does not take the darkness away, but it guides us through the darkness. When we look back after many small steps of love, we will discover that we have made a long and beautiful journey. (Bread for the Journey, June 15)
To pay attention to others can also be done with great love, as Father Henri Nouwen says, Paying attention to our fellow human beings is far from easy. We tend to be so insecure about our self-worth and so much in need of affirmation that it is very hard not to ask for attention ourselves. Before we are fully aware of it, we are speaking about ourselves, referring to our experiences, telling our stories, or turning the subject of conversation toward our own territory. The familiar sentence, That reminds me of. . . is a standard method of shifting attention from the other to ourselves. To pay attention to others with the desire to make them the center and to make their interests our own is a real form of self-emptying, since to be able to receive others into our intimate inner space we must be empty. That is why listening is so difficult. It means our moving away from the center of attention and inviting others into that space.
From experience we know how healing such an invitation can be. When someone listens to us with real concentration and expresses sincere care for our struggles and our pains, we feel that something very deep is happening to us. Slowly, fears melt away, tensions dissolve, anxieties retreat, and we discover that we carry within us something we can trust and offer as a gift to others. The simple experience of being valuable and important to someone else has a tremendous re-creative power. (Compassion, 80)

Ultimately, God will not ask us how many projects we have accomplished, the number of books we have read, nor how many degrees we have obtained, but He will ask us if we have done our best, for the love of Him and others.

positive

Yes....you're rite, no point grieving over now...life goes on anyway...:) thank you

人生

人生...
不能总是赢一世，
就有如一二三四；
此次失利无所谓，
赢得经验更可贵

钱财不够怎么办？
一步一步慢慢算；
归心似箭难耐寂
无奈有心却无力
心中辛酸谁人知
只好抒情于此诗

狂...
狂野雄魄，狂怒疯乐，狂人是也

龙...
龙的传人，龙在异乡，龙孙是也

圣...
圣洁高尚，圣魂纯情，圣士是也

侠...
侠骨任心，侠义肝胆，侠者是也

狂龙圣侠，本人是也

（以上乃本人对高尚梦幻之体，狂龙圣侠之见法，并非对本人之无耻自夸）

For all those who have faith in me, thank you and i love you

Great song, great lyrics, in my top ten list

SImple red - You Make Me Feels Brand New

My love
I ll never find the words, my love
To tell you how I feel, my love
Mere words could not explain
Precious love
You held my life within your hands
Created everything I am
Taught me how to live again

Only you
Cared when I needed a friend
Believed in me through thick and thin
This song is for you
Filled with gratitude and love

God bless you
You make me feel brand new
For God blessed me with you
You make me feel brand new
I sing this song cause you
Make me feel brand new

My love
Whenever I was insecure
You built me up and made me sure
You gave my pride back to me
Precious friend
With you I ll always have a friend
You re someone who I can depend
To walk a path that never ends

Without you
My life has no meaning or rhyme
Like notes to a song out of time
How can I repay
You for having faith in me

dunny

"You are .* You are a wildcard. You are everything to everybody. You can't make up your mind as to what you want to be.">


Which File Extension are You?

PW

I shall pen this down while this feeling is still in me. PW has finally ended. It is something that I would never forget in life. My blood, sweat and tears…I feel so proud of our group as we completed this project in style and class. It feels so good when a group of people had a common goal and worked towards it together
HC 183 roxor!
I think this statement is true to a 100%, because everyone enjoyed doing pw and went through the ups and downs together. I am very thankful to God as I had this wonderful chance to work with this group of wonderful people.
Timothy, MS, YY, DR Lew, Teck…This 5-membered group can NOT function w/o anyone of them.
At times in the project, I admit that I am quite frustrated with myself and some of my members, as they did not my expectations. However, as the Project went on, I find more and more clearly how wonderful everyone is. God is indeed awful, as every son of His is unique. One of the greatest lessons I learnt from PW is to appreciate the strength in your teammates, and do not harp over their shortcomings. Instead, find ways to overcome these shortcomings and complement each other as everyone has different field of mastery.
Timo…
Sometimes I thought he was quite irresponsible, coz a few times he couldn’t attend meetings or submit stuff to me on time and did not inform us for that. However, I later discovered that most of the times he has reasons and sometimes we misunderstood him. And I started to understand how nice a person he is. His crappiness and lameness truly made the grueling pw meeting more bearable. And he is often helpful and nice and sometimes ask me whether am I stressed and that he could help me to take some burdens. It is this sort of encouragements and helps that keep me going and it makes me feel sjust so happy to contribute to this group. From a groupmate’s point of view, he is very efficient worker. And he often take those portions of work that others do not want…and I think he has become and interview expert liao…haha.
Mei Sheng…
I think she really contributed a lot to this group. She is the one who conscientiously take down learning points ALL the times. She is like a born organizer. I have absolute confidence in her for GPF, that’s why I leave it fully to her, and she never let me down. She gives quality work all the times. One of her constraints is that she doesn’t have an Internet line. She overcame this constraint perfectly by taking care of other stuff aka GPF and allow us to work full-hearted inline. She also updates timeline and she is also a timeline for us, coz she is always the one reminds us of important deadlines. She also always give valuable opinions and suggestions during meetings. From a groupmate’s point of view, she is the groupmate one can ever get. Because she doesn’t have line, so she have to pass her work to me in hostel most of the times…but I never complain about this…in fact this experience is quite joyful as well…and I fear…I fear that after PW there would be no more “handover” ceremony (handing over stuff in hostel, that is). She is also very understanding. Eg I spoilt her laptop, and she didn’t get angry over that. She is a miracle worker and someone the group can always count on. Through pw, I also learnt a lot of new things on her. She is not that serious girl who has no life, the image that I had of her. She is quite relac and fun-loving too.
Yue Yen…
I feel that she is like the DaJieDa of this group. Her presence seems to have a calming effects suring the group minute. Group meeting is much less tense when she is around. Though sometimes she always fell asleep at night when we are piaing for deadlines, she is responsible and would wake up and continue the work if we called her or something. She is like the CORE of this group, while everyone revolves around her. W/O, the group would have much less interaction as she is always like the secondary messengers of signal-tranduction pathway, and links between the rawdy group ( me and teck) and the gentle group (timo and MS). Much of her contribution cannot be found in the claim-to-fame. It is her psychological assurance and presence that bond the group together and keep the group together in tough times. It is truly beyond words. She also offered her house to us lotsa times and even allows us to camp over there. And she and her family are all very nice to us. Excellent food also from her mother. And it is very unselfish of her to help us print most of the documents. Really….imagine…if yy is not around, the discussion would be very tense and not crappy and relax…and this is no good. I always believe in joy in work. Joy and work are inseparable. And indeed we had lotsa fun together niaoing about her and section leader… =P
Teck…
What can I say? He is GREAT!!! I seldom talk to him b4 pw…but throughout pw, he is a workmate I enjoy working with. He is dependable, and always pia late night together with me. He often sets the key direction for PW…her Edward de bono, random trigger, diagrams and flowcharts, templates. It is quite an eye-opener for me, coz I have not been always aware of all these essential research skill. Not only he is my close workmate, as we often work on the same parts, he is also a great buddy for me for pw, coz his personality is closest to me in HC 183. He is the pillar of this group, and our source of inspiration. And he truly spent a lot of efforts in pw. And he has a very sharp mind, and often offer key ideas. And he is the one who always provides the counter arguments to me and it is great as it provides a check so that our arguments would be balanced and not one-sided. It also often keeps me mindful and aware whether my statement is well justified. This balance of view is essential to the strive towards excellence in our group.
Mr.Lew…
He has given his best and he has no regret!

Sometimes when there is pw meeting, we would say “sian diaoz..” however, when we are doing it, we derive joy in the process. We are really close as a family. And the sense of satisfaction and pride when seeing the product of our yearlong hardwork is immense. OP was smooth and sleek. Written Report is (almost) immaculately done. GPF is complete and well-organised. Project Work is done!