Sunday, February 12, 2012

Sad moment in the airport


I sat in a quiet, isolated corner of the Atlanta airport earlier in the month, facing a large window with a view of Delta planes bathed in the late afternoon light.

As I read my magazine, employees from all over the terminal started gathering around me. When their chitchat grew louder, I blocked them out by focusing harder on each sentence on the page.

When I finally looked up minutes later, no one was talking any more. Staff and passengers stood with their hands over their hearts, looking out through the glass.

A group of men holding flags marched to the side of the Delta plane in front of me and stood at attention near a conveyor belt. They saluted as a white, coffin-sized box slowly moved down the ramp.

It took me a second to understand what was happening. But then I heard sniffling, and one woman began reciting the pledge of allegiance. One middle-aged man broke down in tears.

The moment snapped time into focus. And for a second I felt a truth I know intellectually, but rarely process—that these sites, though jarring to me, have become a regular occurrence during the last nine years.

At first I read the newspapers to follow the wars--to really live in the moment--and when those grew old I turned to books. In recent years, I wrote articles about soldiers and had the privilege of covering two military funerals – among the most heartbreaking assignments I’ve ever had.

But now that this chapter in American history is closing, I can’t help but wish I had paused to reflect more, taken in more information about Islam, learned more about the Armed Forces, or spent more time studying a map of Iraq or Afghanistan. When I talk to grandchildren about this period years from now, I want them to see me as a discerning witness during a fascinating time.

I’m not quite sure yet what influence the war has had on me, or society at large. But I do hope it’s had some effect. If it hasn’t, I’ll wonder whether we weren’t paying enough attention.

Saturday, January 7, 2012

Another day, another wrinkle


My latest wrinkle arrived on Friday. I first noticed it a few days earlier, under a patch of dry skin, but hoped in vain that I was being duped by low-quality bathroom light.

This new wrinkle begins above the right corner of my mouth and slants, at a 45-degree angle, toward my nose. It’s a relatively new addition to my face, but it won’t be lonely. It now lies symmetrical to my left lip wrinkle, which has been there to greet me in the mirror every morning since I was 29.

On some days, I tell myself I’m fine with these pesky little creases. Laugh lines. Wrinkles of wisdom. But if that were the case, I probably wouldn’t feel compelled to track their expansion as if they were surging rivers or fault lines threatening to tear apart my face.

To remember what I looked like pre-wrinkle invasion, I’ve started taking more pictures of my countenance than most people do of their firstborns. Right side profile, left side profile, chin up, chin down. I have it covered. (While flipping through my photos on the computer a few months ago, a friend remarked, ‘Nice pictures. Have you noticed there happen to be a lot of you?’)

At 31, of course, there should be no surprise that I am aging. But I’m struck by how young I still feel.

Does my face have something to say about how little my lifestyle has changed since my late twenties? Even if it does, I don’t necessarily feel like listening. There are so many great late night conversations to have, so many new people to meet, so many new places to see.