There are a lot of things that I have regrets about in life and many of them could have been avoided had I adhered to the things that my dad taught me. And the rest could have been avoided if I had listened to the things people taught me that my dad helped (planned or not) place in my life. Many I still consider freinds though I may not have much contact with.
During my opportunity to memorialize him during his funeral there was much I intended to share but for one reason or another left out. One very important part that has bugged me a little ever since. It may have been best that I didn't share this at that time becuase I'm sure I would have left someone out and I don't ever want to offend anyone. Heavens know that I do that enough in life without doing it in front of a hall of people, but I wanted to take a little time and address it now. Please bare with the length as I'm sure it will be long just based on what keeps popping into my head while thinking of it.
Dad put me in such a wonderful place in my life. My paternal gradnmother I never knew, but I do remember Sunday afternoons with my grandpa while he was living in a rental behind Aunt Jeanne and Unlce Jerrys place. I had Aunts and Uncles (especially Harold and Donald) that I know loved me not becuase they told me, but becuase they showed me. Whether it came becuase they were teaching me to fish and/or hunt or if it was just them playing with me (important to note that one uncle I grew up with becuase he is my age). They taught me life lessons that I carry with me still today like a work ethic that was extremely important to my dad. I'm not sure that it was instilled as deeply as he would have liked, but all those Saturdays mowing lawns (Unlce Jerry's back 40 with a push mower. At least it felt that big) I'm sure went a long way. And then there were cousins, whom I still look up to like when I was a kid. Kevin was extremely patient with his younger and annoying cousins. The tickles from Anita, Lynda, Kathy, and Michelle.
Some of the people that he placed in my life are the people in the neighborhood that nearly raised me as much as my own parents (Dewitts, Goodmans, Jensens, Reeds, Knotts, & Browns just to name a few). There wasn't much we could get away with that someone wasn't going to catch us, but boy did we try. Also, friends from those families that we would have sleep overs with and summer days and nights playing sports, games, and hide & seek. You know who you are. Of particular mention here has to be Matt Sanchez and Ben Coley. What examples they were to me and how they molded my life. To this day, again, I look up to them in much the same way I did as a kid and enjoy the occasional Risk game and I appreciate their influence in my life.
Church leaders! I had many and while Dad can't take a lot of the credit here he put me in a very special ward growing up as most people are, but I was in the place I needed to be. Bishops (Watson, Brown, O'Loughlin, Hansen, & Bang) that saw me from primary to a mission and beyond. Teachers like Bro. Jensen who taught me how, or at least tried, to lead a meeting and lead in the church. It was he who prompted me to bare my testimony on Fast Sunday for the first time as a Teacher. Bro. Ellsworth who in hindsight wasn't all that much older than me, but imparted so much wisdom and fun. Other teachers many of whom I can think of only by face now.
Lastly, and most certainly not least, are my family! Never did a brother have a more loving and supportive brother and sisters. While I am sure that Dad wondered where our relationships would end up later in life (especially on Sunday afternoons when somebody was going to end up fighting), he put us in a place where we would all end up freinds for the most part into adulthood. I am ever grateful for the love and support of my siblings. And how do I go without mentioning a Mom that for the better part of my first 14 years raised as many as 6 kids nearly singlehandedly.
I wanted to show that you are appreciated (
lds.org President Monsons message)
I love you all!
I love and miss Dad. I appreciate his example of what kind of father my Heavenly Father must be. Gives me a glimpse.
-John