Thanksgiving was an emotional one for me this year and I fought back tears most of the day. Thankful for all of the delicious food that I could keep shoveling in to keep my tears at bay.
I'm not sad, just extremely overwhelmed with emotion because of amazing people who are helping our family. I came up with a little project to help earn a little extra money for the Holidays and was blown away by the support I received. Not only that, but my mom and sister sacrificed their entire day to help me. I felt so loved. Ever since Emma joined our family, we have been a needy family. Needy for moral support, needy for financial support, needy for physical support, needy needy needy. It is one of the hardest things I've ever faced. Recognizing that it is impossible to be able to handle our situation all on our own was a slow and painful process and very difficult to accept. But as I stripped away each layer of pride and dignity and accepted this reality I was able to see just how very lucky we are. Lucky because those around us have stepped up to the plate and helped us. Over and over, we've been helped. I feel so unworthy of such love and sacrifice on our behalf, but also very very grateful. Not a day goes by without being grateful for the service those have rendered to our family. Thankful that one of the hardest things I've ever faced has blessed us beyond words.
Thankful that life has taught me to understand what Thanksgiving is really about. I use to dream and envision about what I wanted in life and can even say I had my dream house planned out. Jeff and I used to have so much fun drawing it out on paper. I don't even know that girl anymore. Hitting rock bottom, more than once, can really open your eyes to what you really want and need in life. What a treasure and blessing to learn.
Thankful for my children and all that they are teaching and giving me. I can be disappointed with myself a lot. I never finished college and feel more than inadequate when I learn of others amazing achievements. But then, I see my 3 blonde beauties and wake up to find that I'm accomplishing and learning more from them than any other thing in life. I did want to pursue nursing at one time in my life. Through Emma, I get experience that on a daily basis. Madison has taught me to be strong when I don't feel like being strong. So many times, I need her help in distracting Emma out of a meltdown. She always has the special touch and she never complains. She frequently cries over all that her sister has to go through and is wise beyond her years. I still have so much to learn from her. Abby, with her perfect joy and innocence gives me a smile on my face everyday. She still says and does the funniest things and I'm so thankful for that daily dose of medicine.
Thankful for my husband. We celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary in May. I was emotional that day too. Emotional because we are beating the odds and still together. After years and years of trials and hardships, we love each other. Real love, not the kind that comes so easy through dating and physical attraction. The kind that we've earned by fighting every day to stay together through some really difficult times. The daily stay at home mom duties take a back seat to Emma and her cares. He never says a word or makes me feel like a bad mom/wife when the laundry is piled up to the sky and leaking into the hallway. Or when the dishes haven't been done for 2 days and the playroom hasn't been cleaned for 4 months(I wish I was exaggerating). A far cry from who I used to be. I used to be super organized and had a house that was spotless. He makes me laugh when I feel like crying and works so hard for his family. I'm grateful for him in my life, even on the days he drives me crazy........
Thankful I can do hard things. I've learned that it's possible to do things you never thought you could do in life. When Emma was born I was given a book that detailed certain things that babies born with Down syndrome might face in life. I was a wreck when I read it the first time, it seemed too hard and too foreign. Recently, I came across that book again and flipped through it realizing that Emma had already been through quite a bit in the book. I was flipping the pages saying "Yep been there, we've done that". It was so normal to me and was not as big of a deal as I thought originally. What a lesson I can apply to many areas in life, things really aren't as bad as they first seem.
Thankful we have a "normal" family. Things get pretty crazy around here, it's just how it is with Emma. When she was first born, I was worried about feeling like a normal family. We have had some not so normal moments and quite the journey to our new normal that makes us a family. But we have it and I soak it up. We still do many things that other families do, but have a few additions like traveling with oxygen tanks and an entire suitcase of medical supplies. We still go to the movies over the holidays. Sometimes we wipe down the armrests with cleaning wipes and usually check Emma's blood sugar by the light of one of our cell phone's during opening credits. While driving to see Tangled over the weekend of Thanksgiving, I looked back and saw my girls in their excitement. At that moment, I realized again, that we are still a family. Through all of the craziness, exhaustion, meltdowns, illness, etc-we are still a family.
So very very thankful this year.