Last weekend I took a somewhat quick trip to Canada (second time ever, first time in over 6 years and first time to Quebec) to witness the marriage of Erik Dangremond and Sarah Cantin-Langlois. Erik is a friend of mine from a previous Big 4 job, and we have stayed in touch over the years, either to enjoy a meal in a random city where we both happen to be traveling, or to exchange travel tips on places one or the other has visited. Erik and Sarah were also the kind hosts, albeit remotely, of my apartment-sitting for them in NY earlier this summer.

I flew in on Thursday evening (SFO-ORD-YQB) and arrived without trouble by taxi to my hostel in the Old Town. Quebec Old Town is much like small towns in Europe that have a healthy amount of tourism. Cobblestone pedestrian-only streets with shops, boutiques and restaurants connect the main squares that host sites such as the Hotel de Ville and the Chateau Frontenac. And best of all (for me), people speak French! There were a few moments over the course of the weekend where I just reverted to English even when ordering food -- either because I was just too hungry, tired or lazy. But for the most part, especially a drink or two in, I used the French that I could remember fairly liberally.
Rehearsal Dinner
But I digress....the reason the wedding was in Quebec is because Sarah is French-Canadienne (Quebecoise) and her entire family lives here. Erik is from Rhode Island, and they met in New York where they have both lived during their courtship the last three years. The wedding weekend started with everyone invited to the rehearsal dinner on Friday night at
Panache in the Auberge Saint-Antoine Hotel. Earlier in the day, after working for several hours from the hostel, I explored the old town, familiarizing myself with all the wedding venues so I wouldn't be running down cobblestone alleys confused and stressed out later. When I located their church, the
Notre-Dames-des-Victoires, I even spotted Sarah and Erik during their rehearsal and had a chance to say hello!


Once I was comfortable with the vielle ville, I enjoyed some sweet potato fries and a beer at one of the local pubs to tide me over until dinner later on. I got ready for the rehearsal dinner at the hostel, with full hair dryer, hair straightener, and makeup (not the usual hostel bathroom accoutrements) and found the venue with ease. This is a good time to mention that other than Sarah and Erik, I didn't know anyone at this wedding. For some, that would be a scary social proposition. For me, it's an opportunity to make new friends! I walked down the stairs to the bar, and whether by instinct or serendipity, the first person I spoke to was Erik's mother! She was kind enough to take the time to introduce me to Sarah's mother, a few relatives, and her Erik's sister, Kirsten, and then "the kids table" as I still refer to the contingent of high school and college friends. I was in, and I had a group to hang with the rest of the weekend.
The rehearsal dinner was just about 100 people; it was more like a pre-wedding celebration, as the wedding itself was only to be 120. It was open seating and buffet-style, and I actually ended up sitting next to Erik and Sarah that night. It was so great to spend some quality time with them and enjoy the family's speeches from their vantage point. The food, wine, company and speeches were all wonderful and really set the stage for the main event the next day.
Kim and I
But once the restaurant and bar closed down, the night wasn't over. A few of the "kids", myself included, decided to stay out, so we explored a few of the local pubs and bar hopped until closing time around 2am. It was a very fun night and a casual way to get to know some of the people from Erik's life.
I gratefully slept in on Saturday, so much so that I really only had time to wake up, get some "breakfast" (i.e. a crepe with bacon, egg and cheese) and then take a nap (hey, it's vacation) before starting to get ready for the 5:30pm ceremony. I arrived at the church and there was crowd of at least 100 tourists surrounding the square, waiting for the bride to show up. It's also worth noting that this particular church is the oldest Catholic parish in North America, so having a wedding here is pretty significant from a historical standpoint. We took a few photos outside and then made our way indoors, sad to miss Sarah's arrival on a horse-drawn carriage.
The ceremony was sweet and beautiful. As with the dinner the night before, most of the ceremony (and speeches, and prayers) were repeated in both English and French. Understanding both languages was a wonderful opportunity to experience everything twice and to appreciate the different expressions of both cultures.
After the ceremony, we all took the
funicular up the hill to the site of the reception,
Le Chateau Frontenac. It's now a Fairmont Hotel, which meant that there were plenty of venues for such a formal occasion to carry on with style. We had cocktails and appetizers in one of the salons, and then a formal 5 course dinner in an adjacent hall, where we continued with dancing until nearly 2am.
The food, wine (I may have had a say in the choices ;) and atmosphere were all so elegant, and it was a very fun party. I sat a table with many of Sarah's med student friends, all Quebecois, but all of whom have spent at least 3 months on a rotation in the US (and therefore spoke English). The reception was truly a celebration of Sarah and Erik's love and commitment to each other, with everyone there in admiration of their affection and sweetness for one another.
A few cute surprises: The Brooklyn Bridge has significant meaning in their relationship, both as part of their first date and where Erik proposed. Sarah has installed a deadbolt on the Brooklyn Bridge with both of their names to symbolize their union of persons, families, and countries. She gave Erik a picture of the actual deadbolt on the bridge during the reception and he was so surprised! She also had the pastry chef make a mini chocolate Brooklyn Bridge for their personal dessert. Very thoughtful!
A map of their first date across the Brooklyn Bridge
For Erik's part, he gave a very sweet speech that started out in French, but required him to switch to English when he either: a. got too emotional to continue, b. was actually at a loss for expression, or c. a combination of the two. :)
Despite the fact that I was retained in Quebec an extra day due to flight cancellations (not a big deal, just another night at the hostel and a less than productive Monday spent in transit), the entire weekend was perfect -- very enjoyable friends and family of the the bride and groom, an adorable European-style city and venue, and a nice escape from America for a weekend.
Congratulations Sarah and Erik! I am grateful to be a part of this momentous occasion and I look forward to spending more time with you in New York and when you visit me in San Francisco!