It's
Mother's Day, or as my Mum and David's Mum always insisted on calling it...

Unlike
Father's Day, Mothering Sunday is a very old custom preceding - by many
centuries - the current annual bonanza for choc-makers and florists.
In
fact, a religious event celebrating motherhood has existed in Europe
since around 250 BCE, when the Romans had a mid-March festival in honour
of Cybele
(right), the Magna Mater, or mother of the gods.
As
the Roman Empire and Europe converted to Christianity, Mothering Sunday
celebrations became part of the church's calendar with the fourth
Sunday in Lent being set aside to the honouring of the Virgin Mary and
'mother church'. On this day, during the sixteenth century, people used
to attend a service in the church where they were baptized and folks who
did this were commonly said to have gone 'a-mothering'.
Other
names given to this festival include Refreshment Sunday (because, being
half way through the 40 days of Lent, the fast was relaxed for a day)
and Simnel Sunday, from the custom of baking Simnel cakes.

Simnel cake (the name probably comes from
simila, the Latin word for fine, wheaten flour) is a fruit cake, not unlike a Christmas cake, covered in marzipan and, sometimes, with
another layer of marzipan or almond paste baked into the middle of the cake.
Yummy!
Around
the top of the cake are eleven marzipan balls representing the true
disciples of Jesus (Judas being excluded) and, in some cases, with
single, larger, ball of marzipan placed in the centre of the cake to
represent Christ. Today, they will probably also feature a few fluffy
chicks and be dotted with mini-chocolate eggs, but there are all kinds
of variations on the Simnel cake tradition.
In the 18th
and 19th Centuries, Mothering Sunday was the one day in the year when
domestic servants were given a day off in order to visit their mothers
and families, often taking with them a home-made Simnel cake, baked in
their employers' kitchens.
If Valentine's Day is one of
the least popular dates in the calendar for the unattached, then, I
guess, Mother's Day is the equivalent for the motherless son or
daughter.

It's almost fifteen years since the death of my Mum, Doris.
She was great worrier, my mother - a trait she passed on to me in spades (
thanks,
Mum!) - so there are some things that I'm glad she didn't survive long
enough to worry about, such as seeing me walking with a stick and
affected by a similar arthritic disease to the one that so painfully
crippled the last years of her life.
But there are many other things that I really wish she
had
lived to see - like David and I getting legally hitched, because she
and my Dad (along with David's parents) not only accepted, but lovingly
embraced, our relationship.
And
I'm so thankful that she saw me achieve some of my best work and
justify the support and encouragement that she and my Dad gave me when I
embarked on the career of a freelance.
But -- and, oh,
it is such a big 'but' -- even after so many years, I still miss my
mother (irritating and frustrating through she could sometimes be -
unlike
me, of course!), and I'd give anything to be able to pick up the phone to her today and have a chat...
And because my Mum loved elephants, I thought I'd mark today with this evergreen (if sentimental) moment from Disney's
Dumbo...