Bi-Top Married Dad's Answer to a Question about: Rimming: A first timer looking for advice

I seem to be getting lots of questions from readers of my blog.  I didn't go out seeking to be someone people turn to for their questions, but I sure do love it.  I have no idea if my answers are insightful or helpful, but they are honest and from the gut.  I hope that's enough.

So I received a question from a guy who wants to rim his long time partner for the first time:

Anonymous:
I'm about to try the sex act of rimming or 'eating ass' with my longtime partner,Any tips on how to make him moan like a horny schoolboy and any experience/story on your best ass eating encounter?

My Answer:
Okay, the first thought that hit my head was, “You have a long time partner and you’ve never ate him out yet?”  lol I’m sorry - but I had to put my thoughts out there.  I think this is so fuckin’ awesome that you want to introduce something as HOT as rimming into your sex life with your partner.  I’m an oral guy by nature, and I LOVE rimming a hot tasty ass.  The tangy sweet taste, the scent, the musk, the feel of it on my tongue… omg it drives me wild and puts me into an adrenaline surged feeding frenzy.  I usually wind up taking my bald head and rubbing it all up in the valley between those beautiful globes, and then smearing my face tightly up in there making sure the spunk and scent is all over my face and head.  Want to smell like my man for hours!  FUCK!

Best advice I could give about making him enjoy it?  Well, become very aware of what you are doing with your tongue.  Make it do things to his hole that will send the best sensations through him.  Read his body, and let it guide you.  If that doesn’t work, go with the tried and trusted method for licking pussy taught to me by the late Sam Kinison when I was a teenager.  Lick the alphabet.  LOL
 
I think my best encounter with eating ass is when I attended an orgy.  I walked into the place, and sitting at the table amongst the men was this perfect gymed up Latin stud wearing jeans and a tight black tank.  We locked eyes and instantly we went for each other.  In the middle of the room, in front of everyone else, he and I went at it like champs.  When our clothes were completely off, I got him seated on the couch sucking on his long amazing cock.  Then I just had to check out what was underneath.  So I surprised him by lifting his legs and exposing his hole to me.  There was this fucking beautiful tight hole centered between two luscious cheeks.  My mouth is watering again just typing this!  I dove in - and the taste of this Latin hunk was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.  A sweet musky oaky tangy perfection.  It was fucking amazing.  I went wild on him, and he was going out of his mind.  The room full of men were watching with their jaws on the ground, dropping their pants and jacking themselves, and each other while they watched us like we were the main event.  We were.  I have yet to taste another ass like his, and I’ve craved him ever since. 
Let me know how it goes!  I’m so excited for you!!


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 So how would you have answered/advised our anonymous friend?  I'd love to get different perspectives, and don't be afraid to include your favorite rimming experiences as well!

Hugs to all!

Cock sucking: Does it make you a punk?

I received a question about what it's like to suck a cock.  He wants to but is worried if it means he's a punk.  I guess he's younger, I'm guessing a punk in this context means weak, faggy, submissive, feminine.

Question:
As of late I met this great guy. Real man's man. All the times I've met him he just wants to blow me. I've never sucked cock before but as I'm getting more open to things I feel like I'm willing to try soon. How does sucking cock feel? I'm realizing now that it doesn't mean you're a punk.

My Answer:
Hey there.  Thanks for the reaching out to me, I’m glad you’d look to me for my take on things.  That’s awesome.

Sucking cock feels incredible.  I love stretching my lips around a thick head and feeling the solid shaft fill my mouth, savoring the taste of his cock.  Man cock, mixed with precum and saliva creates an elixir that will drive your taste buds crazy.  Combine that with the scent of his bush and the feel of his balls… It’s just awesome.

Let me be clear in stating my opinion about the act of sucking cock, or doing anything to another man for that matter.  There is nothing emasculating, feminine, submissive, or weak in giving pleasure to another man.  It’s quite the opposite, actually.  Imagine how powerful, manly, capable, and the surge of adrenaline you should feel in being able to take a rough, gruff, real man’s body and make it cum.  I can tell you from experience that it is an AMAZING feeling to leave a strong man as a sweaty, exhausted, cum-drained mess - and know that “I” did that.

You see this picture?  Look at the effect that great cock sucking is having on this dude.  That’s power.  That cocksucker is no punk.  He is a stud!
So you go right ahead and suck dick, lick ass, twist nips, nuzzle pits, plow hole, and let that powerful surge shoot through you.  Nothing punk about that.
Look, if it’s a matter of you not enjoying it then don’t do it.  Some guys just like to receive and that’s cool.  But if you’re hesitant to try it because you think it will be demeaning or make you less of a man… uh uh.
Get back to me on this.  I want to know more about how things progress for you.

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So what would you say if you wanted to answer this question?  Let me know.

Is bisexual a step to being gay? Re: Question posted to me

So I was sent a question on my blog from an anonymous guy about how being bisexual is considered just a step to being gay.  Here is the exact question/comment, followed by how I answered.  Let's get your thoughts, as well.

Question:
When do you think being bisexual will stop being treated as the step to becoming gay? I'm currently not out to friends & family and I have a gf of 4 months. But I lost my virginity to a man and had sex with 3 guys before my relationship? She's beautiful and I wanna be 100% honest with her. Just because I like fucking guys this makes me effeminate? Seems like it should be the other way around. Bisexuality at times seems like a blessing & a curse. Am i a werewolf? being hairychested doesn't help lol.

My Answer:
 Hey buddy.  Thanks so much for reaching out to me.  I’m so with you, brother.  The way I see it, being bi is not a step toward anything!  It just… is.  I hope you are totally open with her about being bi.  You may be surprised by how accepting she is of it, and even more happily surprised by her possible willingness to keep your physical desire for men an active part of your lifestyle.

You said it right, man.  A man being with a man is the furthest thing from effeminate.  Sure, there are effeminate men out there - but that is a world away from the masculine, aggressive, powerful, and manly bonding two men can have.  That’s the kind of bonding I’m into.
And hey… as long as you’re open with the the important people in your life - there is no curse.  You’ll be forever free to be who you are and call the shots on how you want to be fulfilled.
Werewolf, eh?  Hairychested, are you?  damn… now that’s something I’d love to see.  lol
Thanks again, man. HUGS!!

So let's hear from you!  Do you think being bisexual is a stepping stone to being gay?  Do you think bisexuals are just treated that way?  Do you think bisexual men who are open about it to their female companions can enjoy physical fulfillment with other guys?

I was asked if I would like to be a submissive bottom. See the question and answer here.

 Link to Question and Answer on my Tumbr Blog

Would you let Joe Manganiello or Hugh Jackman top you? Man you gotta get a real dominant or equal guy to flip with and tell us all about it.

Anonymous

I have never been good and fucked before.  Ever.  I’ve always been a top.  And I’m not really a dominant top, in the sense where I’m holding someone down seemingly against their will and shouting derogatory statements at them.  Not my style.  But I do have a STRONG natural tendency to ‘steer the ship’.  I just… take over.  I read the body language of who I’m with, and sense the mood/adrenaline levels, and I’m in auto-pilot mode to guide the activity base on that.  And with that, I take the dominant role as being the one doing the fucking rather than the one being fucked.  There is such a gratifying feeling in watching someone experience the effect of what you’re doing to them, and see the satisfaction radiate throughout their body. 
Having said that, there is a part of me that desires to be the one experiencing that effect, and be the bottom guy.  I think I would love the feeling of my ass being relentlessly invaded by a big thick pounding cock with the weight of a strong man’s body slamming down on me.  His muscles and strength overtaking me, his body hair glistening from the sweat that clings on to his skin while the rest drips down on me making us both slick and wet.  I want to know what it’s like to have no control over what my body is going to feel next.  All I would be able to do is… take it.

I don’t think I’d care for Hugh Jackman going at me, but FUCK YEAH on Joe Manganiello, or Michael Fassbender, or Colin Farrell.  Damn…. they could fuck me until I pass out and their cum is oozing out of my eye sockets because I’m so over filled from them.  woof.

So.. tell me.  What do you all like best about being over-taken by a strong hot man, and getting fucked like crazy?  I want to know.  Write me about it.  And I promise, if I ever get good and fucked that way - I’ll tell you every detail and I can express through my keyboard.

Looking for thoughts/input - answer to a question about first-time fuck

On my Tumblr blog, I received a question from an anonymous person regarding his first-time with an older guy, and how to feel afterwards especially since the older guy broke off communication since.  Here is the question word for word:

I recently lost my virginity with an older man. About 20 years or so. Just wondering if it's common to just ignore the person you deflowered. I'm not trying to be clingy, but at least stay in touch. Hell, I'll compare every guy after to him right? I fucked him for a while, he said I topped him nicely for a 1st. You ever deflower another man, or woman?

So let me ask... Do you think I responded to this guy's question okay? Thoughts?  How would you have answered?

My answer to his question about losing his virginity.

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Hey am I reading this correctly?  You fucked an older man who was about 20?  If so, just how old are you?  I hope of legal age.  Either way, let me be honest about most men.  Men love sex, and the conquering of another’s body.  It’s more about the physical (for most) than it is about the mutual bonding, or relationship.  I can share in that characteristic in some sense, as I love the energy two men can unleash on each other simply for the sexual adrenaline surge and release.  It’s HOT.  And after it’s done, there’s no need for future contact.

But, there are those whose spirit, heart, and essence transcend that natural instinct to conquer, fuck, and cum with each other.  It’s beautiful to forge a bonding and relationship with certain men and that becomes as important as sharing a load.  I have such close friends whom I love dearly and will communicate with them whenever I can, and there are those whose cum is absorbed into my skin and their cock was rubbed all over my body - and that’s that.  No worries.

So, yes - it’s common for many to ignore someone after having sex with them.  It doesn’t mean they didn’t enjoy being with you.  They probably did. A lot.  But the need that person had to be with you has been fulfilled.  There is no further need.  In plain words, it’s just a fuck.  That’s not a bad thing.  Many will call that shallow, and they are correct.  But that’s still not a bad thing.  There is a certain basic need that gets fulfilled, and there isn’t a need for more.

Personally, I don’t think I’ve ever deflowered someone.  I’ve definitely been told (with a bewildered look in their eye), that they’ve never been fucked like that before. But hey… I’m not bragging.  lol
Look, feel good about what you did.  What did you do?  You’ve taken a huge step into discovering your manhood, and gave yourself a glimpse into what will make you an amazing lover.  One who can confidently charm and seduce another man out of his pants and open up his hole for you, because he knows full well you’ll fuck the hell out of him and leave him a sweaty exhausted cum drained mess.  Atta boy.
So how was it with this first-time guy?  It may have been a first for you, but that doesn’t mean he was some sex god.  As you have more partners in the future, you’ll realize that your first time is very significant because it was your first.  But by far and away it won’t be your best.  The best is yet to cum.  Congratulations.
If you’re trying to reach out to this guy, and he’s not interested… forget him.  You’ve shared all you’re going to with each other, and you should take all that was good from that and move on.  If he is interested in a continued friendship/physical relationship, great!  Enjoy it, either way.

HUGS.  I hope I hear back from you.

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