Bowen And Daddy Make An Opinion

Just went out to chill with some friends. Happy birthday Xiang Ling!

Heard stories. My curiousity was piqued about clubbing, drinking, and just hanging out in pubs and clubs. I want to form an opinion on these issues, and I cannot do that without experience. There are some things which are obviously bad, or where precedent has shown it harmful in certain ways, but neither is the case with this issue.

Drinking is clear-cut. I do not trust myself with alcohol. Non-negotiable position for the next few years, at least.

As for going to clubs, I think that the difference between my trip and the trip of the guy who just puked outside the club is the company. Tentatively, I think that the people you go with makes 90% of the experience, largely insulating me from any sleazy flip-side of clubs (I am obviously overhyping the negative aspects, and that is all I have heard from others). I will for now only go with people I know very well and who know me even better. Taking that circle of friends, and intersecting that with the friends I know who might be remotely interested in this area, it leaves just a few people. Heh. Looks like I may not be going anytime soon. I don't think I'm that kind of person you'd want to bring to a club, anyway. For now, at least.

I guess all this is probably premature, but as Pastor Phil wrote in his blog, we should prepare our stance beforehand, before the tempting and trials and tribulations come. Deciding then might bring you under the wrong pressures and influences. Thus this.

Is that a naive opinion? Is that an uninformed opinion? Is that a correct stance to take? Or rather, is that an appropriate stance to take?

Daddy?

And They Called It Puppy Love

Heh. Cute, if you know the original story.

Love, Lost and Found

Sometimes when I try to be a friend to others, and I get rebuffed, rebuked, or otherwise ignored, I often think if the person is worth it. "True friendship is a two-way relationship", I would think. "If the other person doesn't reciprocate, maybe it's not worth it."

How wrong can one get? True friendship is not a two-way relationship. It is two one-way relationships. Love is the one way relationship that each carries for each other. In two way relationships, love is somewhat conditional, but in two one-way relationships, each party loves each other with all their heart, no matter what the other person does or say. Mikki, Boon Kiat, Mark, Shaun. These are people that have seen my wildest side, my darkest moments, and have told themselves that "I still love Bowen for who he is." They don't even see me for who I can be. It's not that they see a lot of potential in me, potential to be great or someone smart or famous. They see me as who I am, faults and all, and still they love me, lovingly correcting my faults and bad attitudes.

Can you be a friend like that? Can you participate in this two one-way relationships? Can I?

Foo

Wow. July 16th. Haven't updated in quite a while. Never had anything positive to write. I rather not write, and keep all my negativity to myself. Don't know why, but blogging to me seems like an accentuator of my feelings. If I'm feeling happy, blogging about happy things, I get happier. When I'm sad, and blog about sad stuff, I get more upset over whatever I'm upset about.

Oh yes, got curious a while back, shot off an email to church. What I asked about should be pretty evident.

Dear Bowen,

Greetings in the wonderful name of Jesus!

Thank you so much for taking time to write to our church.

In response to your email, we have searched through our records and the date you received Christ was on Sunday, November 12, 2006.

We hope the information is helpful to you!

May God bless you richly!

Yours sincerely,

Serene Koh | Church Liaison Officer

City Harvest Church

It's always nice to know this kind of thing. Less than one month to go till my anniversary with God. I still can't believe it's been three years...