All-encompassing
There's something about our psychological, spiritual, and physical makeup that cries out for intimacy with another. That's because God designed marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships, in which we share life intellectually, socially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Are you and your spouse intimate in these ways?

Intellectual intimacy.
This isn't about discussing highly intellectual ideas. The important thing is discussing your thoughts. They may be thoughts about food, finances, health, crime, work, politics. They reveal something of what's gone on in your mind throughout the day.

Social intimacy.
This has to do with spending time around the events of life. Some of these events we experience together; others happen while we're apart and are shared through open communication. Much of life involves doing. When we do things together, we not only develop a sense of teamwork, we also enhance our sense of intimacy.

Emotional intimacy.
Feelings are our spontaneous, emotional responses to what we encounter through the five senses. I see the fire truck racing down the road and I feel troubled. You touch my hand and I feel loved. When we share emotions, we build emotional intimacy.

Spiritual intimacy.
Often the least excavated of all the foundations of marital intimacy, yet this has a significant impact on the others. It doesn't require agreement of belief on every detail. Instead, we seek to tell each other what's going on in our inner self. It's discussing our thoughts about spiritual realities. The purpose isn't agreement, but understanding.

Physical intimacy.
Because men and women are different (long live their differences!), we often come at sexual intimacy in different ways. The husband's emphasis is often on the physical aspects—the seeing, touching, and climax are the focus of his attention. The wife, though, comes to sexual intimacy with more interest in the relationship. To feel loved, appreciated, and treated tenderly brings her great joy. Sexual intimacy requires understanding and responding to these differences.

Practicing intimacy
An essential ingredient of intimacy is allowing your spouse to be himself without striving to conform him to your ideals.

In intimacy, we try to grow closer together, not to eliminate the "otherness," but to enjoy it. Men and women are different and we must not, even with good intentions, seek to destroy those differences.

What keeps us from experiencing intimacy? All of us are egocentric; the world revolves around us. Yet, when we focus on self, we lose intimacy.

The opposite of self-centeredness, then, is love. Love concentrates on the well-being of the spouse. We take time to listen to the thoughts, feelings, and desires of our spouse. We seek to understand and to respond with empathy. We choose to do things with each other, even things that may not be our favorite activities, simply because we want to be with each other.

In the context of such intimacy we become supportive and caring of each other, which builds a stronger, more contented marriage.



posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 5:00 PM

Wall.E is so damn CUTE!
haha! i seriously don't mind watching it again!
although most part is Waaall.eeee , eeeVaaa
but it is so so nice to watch!
so creative!
and then was watching P.S I Love You,
walau. can cry. cannot imagine if it happens to me.
i will be like a robot and go auto shut down.
but i know life is always forwarding so i will pick up myself and chiong again.
k. my wall.e website load le.
ciao~

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 1:59 PM

spent 2hrs watching Olympic closing 08.
as usual, the fireworks amazed me.
many special guest.
David Beckham , Leona Lewis, Jackie Chan, Andy Lau, Zhou Hua Jian, Chen Hui Ling, Rain, Rong Zu Er.

I don't feel good.
Shall continue studying.
2 more days,
4more days,
19-22 days

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 10:05 PM

$ no enough. i wonder who finds the show nice.
after first 15 mins of the show, i dash straight to the sian mood.
and throughout the whole movie, i really sian half and a half.
now i know why my bro and i stop watching local shows.
because they really cannot make it.
always advertise in the shows. all the same.
they make it so OBVIOUS!
and of cos $$ no enough was no different.
advertisement after advertisement. it was like more than 4 loh.
computer animation also so fake. so exaggerating.
uhhhhh... BORING~
then the funny part. i heard lots of laughter. and of cos the 1 beside me.
but i dun find it funny at all. because i saw that "joke" before. many times
no originality.
i only remember laughing at 1 part. which i cannot really rmb which. it wasnt a big laughter.
story plot, typical.
the sad part of the movie story, the grandma died. i will be touched if i wasnt in the sian mood la. i was waiting to get out of the cinema halfway through the movie.
overall,
-0.5 : many advertisement
-0.5 : typical story plot
-0.5 : not funny at all
-0.5 : exaggerating
-0.5 : destroy my mood cos of advertisement
-0.5 : waste my $$!
-0.5 : waste my time
-0.5 : the disappointment

i give u 1/5-------because u are Jack Neo. lucky u.
the show 0.

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 10:22 AM

w0o.. went to a church ytd with Try & ZW.
fun. and very meaningful.
whenever i go church, i will learn lots of things but i have yet to receive God.
Commitment is one thing. and i still pray in temple. hmm.

Mother & Bro are still debating.
obviously my bro wins.
it's getting louder & louder.
& i learn a lot of things from my bro.

Olympics,
W0oh0o! Micheal Phelps!! yay~! 8 medals!
was watching table tennis girls singles, japan vs korea.
and i thot the korea girl with the irritating "HA!..HA!" got a very punchable face
then i see the japan girl...even worse =.=
really really a jiao bin.

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 2:36 PM

I 've got my hair cut.
and i look nerd.
but somehow i love it.
cos it gives me a new look.
but my fringe T-T
took me so long to grow..
now its gone.

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 10:44 AM

Mummy not nice meh?
not as nice as 1, 2 and 3 but still nice ma.
how come ppl say until like the movie CMI?
seriously...
i think it can compare with Dark knight..
ok fine, a lil bias. i dun like BADman and i like jet li & brendan fraser

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 6:22 PM

AH! i missed the opening ceremony for the Olympic 08'!
OMG!
somebody! anybody! i wan the Video!!

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 10:36 PM

Took me forever to upload pics.
took more pics with fren than dar although was with him most of the time.
wadever..
i am still waiting..zzz

They treat my room like picnic place wor! but it looks nice and warmth :D

The guys, made themselves at home when i am not ard -.-"
My Cake! crap! too many candles shown.. no la, actually got extra candles..really..
Besties! Drea & Fran
Me cutting the cake
and now waiting for 2nd batch to upload

Me and dar.. Ugly me..
The guys and me :0 i am not short..they are just too tall.. damn..
The girls and me :D height ard the same XD
i found one of the prez
My beautiful room. only took it down a week later. because its hungry ghost festival >.<

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 6:02 PM

Peer evaluation was funny..
Last time say i kan jiong spider.
now i relax a lot but still say i got that attitude there.
haha!
then stupid zhuo wei say i "crazy" in Hokkien.
sian diao..

posted by <不要叫我 Xiao Hui> @ 3:08 PM