Monday, March 29, 2010

A night at home alone

You'd think I would wait to cook on an evening when my husband was home, but oh no.  He was at the store again today so I stopped by the grocery store on my way home from work today to stock up on some things for the week.  I made a chicken and rice casserole for dinner (for myself) and for dessert I tried my hand at some monkey bread (for myself).  The monkey bread turned out awesome!  I've probably had enough for both JJ and I.

I took a picture of it while it was still in the pan just in case I messed it up when I flipped it out onto a plate.  


Mmmmm!

I guess I'll be nice and leave him some leftovers for when he gets home. :)

Sunday, March 28, 2010

My little girl's birthday

Today is Izzy's 4th birthday!  I can't believe she is already 4 and we've almost had her for four years.  She has such a personality and is taking full advantage of "her day' today. :)  She's been babied even more than usual and she'll get to go with us to grandpa's house tonight which she always enjoys.
She's been so much fun over the years and brought us so much joy.  I hope she lives to be at least 50! :)

Friends, Guns, and the Stomach Bug

Friday seemed to drag at work.  The weather was nice, JJ and my dad were at the store, and my brother was planning on joining them on his way home from school for spring break.  I was able to make it till 4:00 though, and headed home to take care of the pups.  I relaxed for about an hour or so and then went to meet some friends for dinner.  We went to Mi Ranchito, a great mexican restaurant.  JJ and I actually went there last Friday for dinner too.  The wait was about 45 minutes so we just started catching up with each other while we waited.

We finally got seated about 8:00 and all had good meals.  Two of the girls gave up fried foods for lent, and since it was Friday, they couldn't eat meat.  They ended up getting fish tacos and shrimp and avocado quesadillas.   Even though I'm not a seafood person, they actually looked pretty good.  We headed home about 9:30 and JJ was shortly behind me.  He and my brother had gone to an outdoor shooting range after finishing up at the store so he was just getting home for the day.

We got up bright and early Saturday morning to head down for a full day of work at the store.   Right as we were walking out the door my dad called and said not to worry about coming.  The gas wasn't going to be delivered that day and the weather was kind of crappy.  So I got off the phone and JJ and I were just looking at each other like now what?  We decided to go anyway because he was looking forward to going to the shooting range again.  We just took our time getting there.  We had to run a few errands and picked up my brothers car (which was at his friend's house) and headed to my dad's to meet my brother.  At the last minute, JJ went one way and I went the other.  I was racing him to the house and I beat him there.  When I got in the house, my brother was on the phone with him and I could tell they were talking about his insurance card.  I yelled into the phone "I beat" and my brother gave me this evil look.  JJ had gotten pulled over and my brother didn't have a current insurance card in his car.  He didn't even get pulled over for speeding, which I was sure is what had happened, he got pulled over for going through a red light.  I didn't think it would be such a big deal, but it was 120 bucks!

We finally got on the road about 10:45 and made it to the store around 1.  JJ and I got to work on cleaning the front windows and my brother hooked up the printer and fax machine.  A while later my dad came out of the bathroom and he looked horrible.  I guess he started to not feel good and just wanted to sit down and get some fresh air.  Amerjeet and his wife took him home about 30 minutes later and JJ, my brother and I locked up the store and headed down to the shooting range.

I should back up...when we left KC that morning, the weather was cold and rainy.  The further south we drove though the clouds started to break up and the temps warmed up.  It was pretty decent the whole time we were at the store and as soon as we pulled up to the range it started pouring down rain.  We waited out the weather for about 30 minutes and finally it stopped enough for my brother to run out and put targets at the 100 yd. range and the 200 yd. range.  My brother and JJ shot for most of the time, but I got a few in as well.  JJ said it was sad that I was the best shot out of all of them.  I guess I'm a natural, ha!  My brother did a pretty good job both Friday and Saturday too, and JJ is always good.

We were there for 3 hours and finally packed up the car to head home about 7:30.  We had been checking in on my dad throughout the night and he still wasn't feeling great so we stopped by the store and got him some stuff on the way.  We only stayed at the house for a few minutes because our puppies had been locked up all day.  By the time JJ and I got home it was about 10 and we were exhausted.

Today will be low-key for everyone.  My dad is feeling much better, but we are just going to his house tonight for dinner rather than going out.  He had called Ask A Nurse last night, and based on his symptoms he had a 12 hour stomach bug.  The sun is starting to come out here so we'll probably take the pups for a walk and then go to the grocery store before dinner.  Nothing too exciting but a nice relaxing Sunday.

The plan is for the store to have a soft opening tomorrow and then if all goes well, they will put up signs Wednesday or Thursday announcing the grand opening.  Here are a few pictures of the store.

Friday, March 26, 2010

A different perspective...and a glimpse of hope

Yesterday I met a girl for lunch who I met in my MBA program. We hit it off right away when we met and she and her husband even came to our wedding in FL. After our program ended though, we haven’t seen much of each other so it was nice to catch up. She works as a pharmacist and is also having trouble conceiving. She is 32 and has been trying off and on for 5 years. This is the first time we really shared our stories with each other and it was nice to get her perspective since she knows so much about meds. When they started trying about 5 years ago they had some trouble. The she began the MBA program and quit trying for about 2 years. She started up again last year and her doctor finally did a blood test and it was determined that she has a hormone imbalance. She was then referred to a specialist who she just started seeing. That doctor prescribed her Femara instead of Clomid, but after 3 months, she hasn’t had any luck. She has regular periods but they are not sure when, or even if, she ovulates. The next step is for the doctor to keep a close eye on her and have her constantly coming in for blood tests to see if she’s ovulated. She is convinced they will get pregnant, it’s just a matter of how much money they want to spend. The money is what I’m afraid of – it gets so darn expensive!

I know I wrote last week sometime that I didn’t think the Clomid worked. Well, that very next morning I actually did have a spike in my BBT so I drew a cover line on my chart and my temps haven’t dropped below that line since. That’s a good sign! However, I didn’t have any other sign of ovulation and I was a little late in the cycle – but some of you wonderful ladies kept my spirits up saying I could still ovulate later in the cycle. I still went ahead and called my doctor though and told them Clomid didn’t work so at least I’ll have a stronger dose next month.  One thing that I’ve read is that when you are on Clomid often times your temps will stay high even when you aren’t pregnant. It seems like even though Clomid is supposed to help you get pregnant, there are some major negatives to it – like the lack of cervical fluid, the high temps at the beginning of your cycle, and the false high temps at the end which makes it hard to analyze your chart.  You are supposed to maintain high temps for at least 18 days which is a sign of pregnancy. 18 days for me would put me at CD 37 and the nurse said I could start taking Provera again at CD 35. I think I’ll hold off a few extra days though just to be sure I even need it. I can tell you right now though, I know I’m not pregnant. I can feel it. But I’m just excited the Clomid might have actually done its job!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Not a typical Wednesday

My dad is moving forward with this new gas station. It’s not a done deal yet, but he is going forward like it is and preparing to get the store ready to open next week. JJ went down to help him on Tuesday and on his way home he called and said my dad asked if he could come back out the next day. Work has been pretty slow for me the past week or so, and I had already asked my boss if I could take off a day or two to help with the store, so I asked if he wanted me to take Wednesday off and go down with him. He was all for that, and that’s all I needed to send my boss a text and ask for the day off. He’s always cool with that so I was excited to have a break right in the middle of the week.

JJ had a doctor’s appointment first thing Wednesday morning so he went to that, then we met at my dad’s house and headed down to the store. It’s about an hour and twenty minutes away but it’s right on the way to my college. It was fun to go on the drive again that I had sometimes twice a week when I was in school. We beat my dad and his partner there by about 5 minutes so we just sat outside and I got to take it all in. The gas station is beautiful! Who would have ever thought those two words would be used in the same sentence? Amish people built it and they are known for building things well and with the best quality materials. Once my dad got there I got to look around on the inside and the pictures I had seen before didn’t do it justice at all. Not only is the store huge (about 5,500 sq. ft.) it is just put together so well. It’s decorated nicely, it’s roomy, well thought out, everything.

My dad had some vendors stopping by plus a few people to interview for jobs so JJ and I got to work. We had planned on scrubbing the oil stains in the parking log – fun right? Ha! We bought some degreaser and a stiff brush and the store already had a power washer. The lot is huge and it’s all cement. I guess a lot of times gas stations put it asphalt because it’s cheaper. One positive thing about asphalt though is it doesn’t show oil stands as bad as cement. Our elbow grease definitely helped lighten the spots, but they aren’t completely gone. AND we only did about 8 parking spots and the whole front walkway. It was a lot of work! We’ll have to finish it up this weekend.

About 1:00 my dad asked me to run down to Osceola to get some sandwiches for lunch. Keep in mind the town his store is in only has one other gas station and that’s about it. If residents need groceries they have to go to this small store in Osceola about 8 minutes away, or Clinton which is about 20 minutes away. He said where he was sending me was a gas station so I figured they just had a little deli inside. I walked in and realized I was in a mini grocery store! I’ve never seen anything like it. I walked all around before I realized they had a deli counter where I could get sandwiches. Someone was in line ahead of me and wanted some meat and OMG I have never seen someone move so slow! I seriously about had a panic attack while I was in that store. People down there operate at a different speed. I stood in line for no less than 10 minutes while this lady packaged 2 POUNDS OF MEAT! Then I get up to order and she has to write down every word I say (I ordered a ham and cheese sandwich). Another 10 minutes pass and I finally got our sandwiches. I was about ready to jump over the counter and do it myself. It was definitely an experience – a good people watching experience at that.

I got back to the store and we ate. JJ and I finished up the sidewalk while my dad and his partner interviewed a couple. We left about 4:00 and JJ wanted to go to this outdoor store that is just down the highway. He was excited to learn they have an outdoor shooting range. He plans to go there often. J We also got some inside scoop on the locals. It’s so funny – everyone seems to be really nice down there, but everyone knows everyone and everything and they aren’t afraid to share information. We learned that the locals don’t really like the other gas station in town so that’s good news for my dad. And there used to be a BBQ restaurant in my dad’s store that everyone loved, but they got into it with the owners and were kicked out. Sounds like it’s worth my dad getting them back in there. He called the guy last night and is supposed to meet with him in the next day or two.

After we left town, we had to hurry home because I was meeting Julie to go to the Black Eyed Peas concert. I rarely go to concerts, and I hadn’t been to the Sprint Center yet so I was excited to go. This post is already long enough, so I’ll just end it with a few pictures from the concert. Our seats were pretty high up and on the side of the stage, but they were free tickets so I can’t complain. LMFAO opened up, then Ludacris. The Black Eyed Peas came on about 9:00 and played for 2 hours. It was a fun night!

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

A New Tenant

Every Sunday JJ and I usually eat dinner with my dad.  Every once in a while his g/f Julie comes along.  We went to Red Robin, and after we had already said goodbye and started walking to our cars my dad says, oh by the way, there will be another tenant at the house this week.  I assumed he meant Julie because she stays there every once in a while, but he said, no Sarah.  Sarah is Julie's daughter who is a freshman in college.
We got in the car and I told JJ I thought that was kind of odd.  Sara was going to be home on spring break, but I didn't understand why she was staying at my dad's house and not with her mom at her own house.  We've met Sarah a few times, but she is very quiet and we haven't gotten to know her very well so it's still a bit awkward. 

I go to my dad's for lunch every day to let the dogs out, eat, and watch my show.  When I got there Monday, Sarah was sprawled out on the couch watching tv so I went upstairs and ate in my dad's room.  Then another day that week I came home and no one was there.  Then about 20 minutes later she came in and made a beeline up to my room and closed the door.  Oh, I guess I forgot that part of the story - she took up residency in my room.  I still have clothes, pictures, things in all the drawers and closet so it's just weird that she was staying there.

Then after my nail appt. on Saturday I stopped by the house just to see what was going on.  My dad’s car was there but I figured he had taken Julie’s car b/c the weather was bad when he went to ref.  The dogs were out and met me at the door so I knew someone was home.  I plopped on the couch and about 15 minutes later no one had come down to say hi.  I just assumed Julie was there…I was about ready to leave but thought it would be weird to do that without saying hi so I walked upstairs and Sarah was all laying in my bed just chatting away on the phone.  Her mom was at work so it was just Sarah home.

If this deal goes through with my dad's new job, Julie will be moving into the house.  She'll still have her own house, at least for a while though.  For some reason I think I'm ok with Julie moving in, but I'm not ok with her daughter moving in.  I can't explain why.  Maybe because I don't know her as well, maybe because she would be staying in my room.  Assuming she stays in school, she would only be at my dad's house during the summer months and holiday breaks.  I don't think my dad is too keen on the idea of her living their full time either, but I don't know what other options we have at this point.  It will be a huge adjustment all the way around that's for sure.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Update

I called my doctor's office this afternoon and spoke to a different nurse than usual.  This one was really nice and seemed eager to help.  The one I normally speak to is nice and all, but she sounds a little bit older on the phone and more set in her ways. :)  I told the nurse today that I was on CD 24 and didn't show any signs that the Clomid worked this first round.  She asked if I came in for a day 21 test and I said no, that the nurse before said I could just chart on my own this first month.  She took some more information and then told me she'd call me back after speaking with the doctor.

I got a call back about an hour later and she said the doctor will go ahead and up my dosage of Clomid to 100 mg.  Yay!  BUT, this next go around I do have to go in for a day 21 blood test which is a bummer.  I guess if I am going to go through all of this, I should probably find out for sure if it's working or not, and not rely on myself trying to chart.  I'm supposed to call the day I start my period to get the Clomid refilled.  Why do they have to wait to prescribe it?  You ladies who are also taking Clomid, do your doctors make you wait and call in the first day of your cycle? 

I also asked about taking Provera again and when I should start.  I still have one round left of those pills so if by day 35 I haven't started on my own, I'm supposed to start that again.  There is no doubt in my mind that I will have to do another round of Provera - I can't remember the last time my cycle was only 35 days!

Sunday, March 21, 2010

More snowy pictures

Here's a few more pictures of our weekend.  This was from today:

I'm ready dad!
Trying to tag Izzy with a snowball.  She was not happy when she got hit!

Saturday, March 20, 2010

First day of spring...well, kind of

Today is the first day of spring and what did I wake up to?  3 inches of snow!  As I mentioned in my last post, I took off work early yesterday to take advantage of the nice weather because they were forecasting a crappy weekend.  I don't put too much faith in the weather people though so I was hoping they would be wrong.  In this case, they were right.  So today the high is about 35 degrees, and yesterday it hit almost 70!  Welcome to living in KS.  This is what it looks like out my front and back door...and it's still coming down.

I think this calls for a good day for a fire.  Too bad JJ isn't here cause I'd probably blow up the house with the gas start.  Maybe the space heater will do for now. :)

Busy Night

Yesterday I planned to take off work a few hours early since the weather was so nice.  JJ has an interest in becoming a home inspector on the side so he shadowed one of his friends Friday morning who has done home inspections for the last 3 years.  Then he went to visit his dad for a while so I actually beat him home.  We had planned to go to the dog park once he got back.  I stopped by my dad's house on the way home and Julie said they had planned to go to the dog park also that afternoon.  We weren't planning on going to the same one, but I thought if the timing worked out, it would be fun to all go together.

I called JJ and told him to come on home, but as soon as he got here, we loaded up the dogs and turned around and headed back up to the dog park.  We got to the park and there was hardly anyone there.  The weather was already starting to cool off - the sun had gone away and the wind picked up making it a bit chilly.  The dogs loved playing together and we all got to talk and get updates on my dad's new business venture.  He had to go ref indoor soccer that evening though so we only stayed about 45 minutes.

We headed home to drop off the dogs and we had about 30 minutes to kill before we headed out to dinner to meet my BIL and his girlfriend.  It was an impromptu dinner but it was nice to go out with them.  They both moved from Kearney about a year ago, but we just rarely see them.  We all need to hang out more often now that they live so close.  We went to Mi Ranchito, a Mexican restaurant in town, and JJ said it was the best burrito he's ever had.  I guess we'll be going back again. :)

When we got home, JJ was messing around with some guns he had gotten from his dad earlier in the day and I fell asleep on the couch.  I went to bed and remember him telling me to look outside.  It was starting to ice.  Then about 1:00 in the morning he came and woke me up to let me know he was running to put gas in the Jeep in case the weather was bad in the morning when I went to get my nails done.  About 30 minutes later I hear the house phone ringing.  It finally wakes me up enough and I realized it was JJ.  I called him back and he said one of his headlights was out so he was going to run to Wal Mart and get that fixed too.  The next thing I know he's waking me up at 3:00 to look out the window again.  Geesh!  4:00 rolls around and he finally comes to bed, only to be woken up by his phone ringing at 6:00.  He was getting called into work.  He hoped it was a mistake so he let them call about a half dozen times before he actually got up and answered it.  Sure enough, he had to go in.  Poor guy; after only 2 hours of sleep, he is stuck working outside today for probably 12 hours.  I guess I can't feel too bad; he's only worked twice in the last seven weeks!  So much for getting to sleep in and be lazy on a Saturday.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

One Month Down, Another One To Go

I'm on CD 19 and haven't shown any signs that the Clomid worked this month.  My doctor said that I should come in on CD 21 for a blood test to determine if it worked or not, but since I have been charting this past month, I know it didn't.  I'm hoping they take my word for it and will increase my dosage for the next month. 

Even though it didn't work, it's been interesting to see the results from charting and know what my body did and didn't do.  I've been talking to some great gals going through the same thing as me, and so far Clomid hasn't worked for any of them. :(  Well I take that back...one of the girls follows another blog who just announced a few days ago that Clomid did work for her, so who knows. 

I just have to remember to be patient.  This is such a waiting game, and knowing you only have a day or two every 30-60 days to make it work is a hard thing to swallow.  I've got a few more friends due in the next month with their first babies, but after that it seems like there is a bit of a lull for a while.  It sure would be nice to have some good news of our own during the next round of announcements.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

I know a celebrity!

Well, not really...Last night was the season premiere of True Life on MTV.  In the past few weeks they have shown several commercials promoting the show and it seems like they are doing shows on more serious topics this year.  The first show which aired last night was "I need a transplant."  In the commercials it showed one guy who needed a bone marrow transplant, and in just the 30 second clip I saw I almost started crying.  I had set to record the show, but I wasn't really in the mood to watch something so sad last night.

Just as we were about to change the channel, it popped up that the other story was from Olathe, KS!  So I thought I'd watch it a little longer just to see if we could recognize any of the places they were.  Then they showed the girl, who needed a kidney transplant, at Children's Mercy Hospital in KCMO.  The next thing I know, her doctor walks in the room and it's a family friend!  JJ and I both yelled, "it's Dr. Warady!!"  So needless to say, we were hooked watching the whole episode.

Dr. Warady has a son who grew up playing soccer with my brother.  His family is part of the "soccer family" group that has stuck together since the boys were about 10 years old, so we've known them for about 10 years.  They were all very supportive when my mom passed away, and even came up and sat with us in the waiting room on that horrible morning.  I also went to school with his older daughter, so we know them pretty well. 

I called my brother right away to see if he knew anything about it.  He didn't answer, but text me back that he was in a meeting and asked what I needed.  I sent him a message back and he said that he did know about the show because my dad of all people told him.  Apparently I was the only one out of the loop.  I was kind of excited to see him perform surgery on the girl, but it was a different doctor who did that.  He did come back after the surgery though to check on her and let her know how things went.

It was really cool to see him at work.  Not to mention on TV!  Even though the show was sad, both people ended up surviving their surgeries and seem to be doing well.

Monday, March 15, 2010

Low-key weekend

After trying to reach JJ's doctor for over an hour on Saturday, he remembered he had given a few of his migraine pills to his brother a few weeks back.  I called him to see if he still had them, and he did.  The only problem was he was up in Kearney, MO taking his dog to the vet and wouldn't be home for about 2 hours.  He said they would hurry and I had planned to run up to their house and get the pills once they got home.  About 5 minutes after those plans were set, JJ remembered he had a refill left on the pills.  I could have shot him!  But in his defense, he wasn't exactly thinking clearly through all the pain.  The refill was for the pharmacy where his doctor works in Independence, MO which is an hour away.  Luckily there is an old-town pharmacy in Gardner where we live and they were super nice and called the other pharmacy to have the refill transferred.  I was in and out in about 10 minutes.

JJ shouldn't have taken the pills until about 3 in the afternoon, but he went ahead and took one at 1 to try and get some relief.  Within 20 minutes he was back among the living and it was like nothing was ever wrong.  He's wondering if he got sick with a stomach bug and that turned into a migraine because he had taken that same pill the night before and it didn't do anything to help him.

Once he gets migraines though, they usually knock him out for a day or so.  He doesn't have any energy and is usually pretty sore (after getting sick).  We just hung around the house the rest of the weekend which was OK because it turned out to be pretty cool and gloomy.  We started a fire, I went and got chinese food for dinner on Saturday night (not my idea of a first meal after being sick, but that's what JJ wanted :)) and we watched a movie. 

Sunday JJ finished up his homework and we met my dad and Julie for dinner.  When we got back home, JJ had his group meeting and I was trying to balance all of the good shows on TV.  I missed The Amazing Race - anyone know who got kicked off?  I missed part of The Desperate Housewives too - anything good happen there?  I recorded Brothers and Sisters, watched the end of Celebrity Apprentice and recorded Kendra (I know, quality TV, ha!).  A cool little fact - Holly Robinson Peete, who is on Celebrity Apprentice, is married to a man who went to high school with my dad!  The same high school both my mom and dad, my uncle, and my brother and I all went to. 

This week looks like it will be pretty nice outside, except for maybe a lack of sun.  With daylight saving time though it's hard waking up and driving to work in the dark.  At least we'll have an extra hour of daylight after work!  We'll also find out if the deal with my dad's new work venture is a done deal or not.  Fingers crossed!

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Rough Night

JJ and I were supposed to meet up with some friends at P&L last night to celebrate a birthday and watch our friends perform on the Live stage.  Minutes before we started to get ready though, JJ started to not feel good.  He had been up the night before with a headache, but felt pretty good most of yesterday.  I started rubbing his neck hoping that would do the trick, but it got worse and he had to run to the bathroom and got sick.  We obviously decided not to go out.

He came back out to the couch after awhile, and then finally went to bed about 10.  When I came to bed an hour later he said he had gotten sick again.  We both fell asleep but he got up several times through the night - to get sick, was tossing and turning, just couldn't get comfortable.  About 5:00 this morning I woke up again from him moving and asked if it was any better.  He said it's the worst headache he's ever had.  He has a history of migraines and even had an MRI done last summer to see if there was anything more serious going on.  My mom also suffered from migraines and the morning she passed away, she thought she had a migraine, but it turned out to be a brain aneurysm.  Anytime JJ gets a migraine, it really makes me nervous, and when he told me this is the worst one he's ever had and that he might want to go to the hospital, my heart started racing.

I started rubbing his neck, got him ice to put on it, and even though it seemed to help a little, it wasn't going away.  He rolled over on his back and I rubbed his forehead until he fell asleep.  I was glad that he was finally able to relax enough to fall asleep because I think he was working himself up so much it was only making it worse.  I took the dogs and went in the other room so we wouldn't bother him.  When I got up a few hours later I checked on him and he was awake.  He said it was better, but he felt like if he moved at all it would come right back.

Now I'm trying to get a hold of his doctor to hopefully have him call in another prescription of his migraine meds - he's out right now which is not good.  If I can't reach the doctor, we'll probably take a trip to the hospital.  I hate hospitals!  Obviously I don't want him to be in pain, but I would do anything to avoid having to go that route.  He's resting right now, and I've got the doctor on speed dial hoping I can reach him.  What a way to start the weekend - poor JJ!

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Change of scenery

As far back as I can remember, my dad has always been in banking.  His dad was in banking, and he just followed in his footsteps.  Over the last 10 years or so, he has worked for 3 different banks.  His last job move was after my mom passed away and it was weird for him to be making such a big decision without her input. His job title was Vice President - Senior Client Manager and he was bringing in good money.  He would also ref indoor soccer 5 days a week, and outdoor games during the season. 

When people started losing their jobs a few years ago, I asked if he was at risk of losing his job and he said no.  I had put it out of my mind and assumed he was safe - so did he.  Until a Monday morning at the end of January when he was called into a meeting with HR and was told they would have to let him go.  It had nothing to do with performance, he was just the newest guy and the first one cut of several people.

I remember seeing him at home during lunch that afternoon and he told me the news.  I felt like I wanted to cry for him.  I know he's in a much better place than JJ and I financially, but still.  He had just spent quite a bit of money on renovations to the house and had plans to do more and now that was all thrown out the window.  I asked if he had any idea what he was going to do and he said he wasn't sure.  Then he said that he had thought about buying a gas station in the future - like years in the future.  Huh??  A gas station?  In his last few years working for Brotherhood Bank, he has done a lot of work with commercials loans for individuals who purchase gas stations.  He knows a little bit about it and that there is potential to make pretty good money. 

I figured that idea would blow over, but he's continued to talk about it.  One of his old clients, who already owns a gas station, has taken him under his wing and showed him some available stores.  There were two within about 30 minutes from his house that he was interested in, but either the owner didn't want to sell, or the price was too high.  Then he heard about one in Lowry City, MO.  It's out in the middle of nowhere, a town of about 900 people an hour and a half south of KC.  I thought for sure he wouldn't consider that one...

Last Sunday, he and this client of his (his name is Amerjeet) drove down to Lowry City to look at the gas station.  They knew it was closed, they just wanted to look around outside.  They had only been there a few minutes, and were out looking at the pumps when a car pulled up.  It was the old owners.  Now get this - the owners are a married couple in their 50's who, for several reasons, closed their store down about 3 months ago.  They thought they had a buyer all lined up, but it fell through the Friday before.  They went to Branson for the weekend to hear a motivational speaker, and they spoke with him afterwards one on one.  They told him about their store and how it was such a burden and they desperately wanted to sell it.  He asked if they had a picture of the store and they said yes.  He asked where it was and they said it was at the store.  Then he said to stop by there on the way home, and write SOLD across the picture and it will sell.  So that's what they were doing when they pulled up to the store and saw my dad and Amerjeet in the parking lot.  Can we say goose bumps??

They ended up going to dinner and meeting with them for 3 hours.  There are obviously some hurdles still, but if all goes well, my dad and his partner will be open for business on the 25th of this month.  The only downfall is how far away it is.  My dad will assume the position of General Manager and will physically be at the store more than Amerjeet.  Because the drive is so long, my dad will most likely rent an apartment and stay down there 5 days a week.  I can't imagine being in your 50's, alone in a new small town, and renting an apartment.  I would be so lonely though, just coming home every night to a small apartment with only a TV for entertainment.  At least now he refs at night so he's not home alone as much, but he won't be able to do that once he moves.  His hope is that it would only be for a year or two, and if the store was doing well, he would buy another one closer to KC and not be at the Lowry City store as much. 

So what about his current house?  The last house where we all lived as a family before my mom passed away?  I really don't want my dad to sell it.  He's thinking if things keep moving in the right direction between he and his girlfriend, he would see if she'd like to move in.  It makes a lot of sense for her because her work is 5 minutes from his house, and currently she lives in Lawrence which is 30 minutes away.  She would also take care of the dogs because he wouldn't be able to take them with him.  I'm strangely ok with that.  At least I think I am.

So yeah, I don't know what to think about this whole thing.  It's so weird for him to be making such a big decision without my mom there to talk him through it all.  He's a smart guy though, so I know he'll make the right decision.  At this point, he is pretty stoked about it so I hope for his sake it works out.  It's just such an odd job change - from a banker who wears nice suits every day to work, to a gas station owner.  Who would have thought?

Monday, March 8, 2010

Wedding Weekend - Part Two

Saturday morning, Jason and I did some stuff around the house before getting ready for the wedding.  The plan was for me to meet a friend at the reception hall to help finish setting up, go to my grandma's to get ready, and then head to the church.  The groom called JJ about noon and said that he and the best man were heading to the church and that they had JJ's suit.  I needed to meet up with the groom though because he had the key to the reception hall.  The groom said on she doesn't need to go anymore.  I was like, what??  This is probably the bazzilionth time the plans had changed.  I told JJ that didn't sound right, so the groom called the bride just to confirm.  He called back a few minutes later and said, no I still needed to go.  

JJ and I headed up north about 1:00 so I could drop him off at the church, get the key, and head to the reception hall.  I got lost on the way out there, but finally tracked down my friend and we both made it.  We did the final touches on decorations and then just sat and waited for the florist and bartender who I thought were supposed to get there between 2 and 2:30.  A DJ showed up that I knew nothing about and started setting up.  He didn't have linens though so I had to call JJ (he was the middleman for everything because I didn't have the bride's number) to see what she wanted to do about the linens and to also find out when people were supposed to show up.  I found out they weren't coming until 3:30.  At 3:45 the bartender finally got there and I booked it to my grandma's to get ready.  As soon as I left though, the bartender was calling me to say the cake lady showed up and no one knew what the cake topper was.  Yet another call to JJ.  I felt so bad bothering the bride, but she didn't do a very good job communicating her plans to people.

I made it to the church right on time and the ceremony was nice, except for our friend's cell phone that rang, a little boy that yelled, "I think I wet my pants," when it was quiet, and the ring bearer that ran around crazy.  Ha!  Oh!  And they forgot the marriage license.  The bride and groom had already taken one of their cars to the airport so it would be there when they got back from their honeymoon, and the license was in there. 
 
  
 
 
 
After the ceremony we headed over to the reception.  All the decorations looked nice, especially with the lighting they had brought in.  We stuck around for a while and waited for cake, then decided to head home.  Izzy still was not feeling great so we hated to leave her locked up for any longer than we had to.  When we got to the car we felt like it was midnight, but we looked at the clock and it was only 9!  Ha, we are such early birds!  It sounds like the night got a little more eventful after we left with the cops getting called, and the groom and his new FIL getting into it.  We always miss the good stuff.  
JJ and I
 
Steve and Jennifer 
  
The decorations
  
JJ and Ed (the best man)
  
The bride and I
  
The happy couple
 
At the end of the night, JJ and I were both exhausted.  We agreed that we were so much more stressed about this wedding than we were our own.  Any advice I can give to engaged couples is do a destination wedding!!  We had a fabulous time and it was stress free!

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Wedding Weekend

Friday at work, JJ called me to let me know he was heading over to Ed's house to help set up for the rehearsal dinner.  Ed is a mutual friend of both the bride and groom, and JJ and I.  He has a beautiful house, and was gracious enough to let 21 people come over for dinner.  I guess Ed was freaking out that things wouldn't be ready in time though so JJ got ready and headed over about noon.  I got off work early, stopped by the store to get more paper towels, and met them over to help any way I could.  I walked in and it looked like a bomb went off.  I like to procrastinate when I'm cleaning before company comes over, but I saw why Ed was freaking out - there was crap everywhere.  So we just started putting things in boxes and taking it down to the basement.  The florist came by to drop off flowers, but other than that it was pretty quiet for a while.  Ed likes to talk though and easily gets distracted, as does JJ, so it was hard to keep them moving.

As we were cleaning off the kitchen table, we came across the groom's gifts to all his groomsmen.  Ed was supposed to wrap them and it had slipped his mind.  So I jumped up and offered to run to the store to buy some gift bags and tissue paper.  By the time I got back, the guys were getting ready to go to the rehearsal.  I was left at Ed's house to let the caterer in. I finished wrapping the gifts, and then decided to iron the napkins before I folded them in my famous teepee shape I learned while working at the nursing home years ago.What would these boys do without us? :)

The caterer arrived about 7:00 and the guests followed shortly behind them.  We ran out of ice right as we were sitting down to dinner so JJ and I ran to get some more and made it back right before starting the main course.  The food was really good - it was a catering company from Gardner of all places.  After dinner, the bride and groom handed out gifts and JJ and I scooted out of there to get home to our sick puppy (again).

Ed's house looked gorgeous all set up and I had to get a few pictures while I was there alone to show how pretty his house is.  I have to apologize for the crappy pictures though - my camera and I did not get along well this weekend.

Ed's house
 
Living room set up for the rehearsal dinner (before food)
 

 
Family room
 

Kitchen (after painful remodel that took a year - turned out great though)
 
  
He and the groom are obsessed with Polo

Living room set up for rehearsal dinner (with food)
 
  
I'll post pictures from the wedding tomorrow.