my baby's got a secret !!

Some days sure are bummers. I woke up to the chantings of some kirtan on tv which sounded more like hooting and there starts the perfect day with a migraine. So was in real foul mood. (generally my not-so-serious foul mood is a killer !) To add to my woes a kid bumped my humble spark with his grand ennova and had the cheek to abuse me in actions and I of course returned the complement in words. in this one manship i could not note his car's registration number!

The whole way to the office went in first giving myself mental kicks and then calming my nerves and then I realized as usual in a signature after sight manner that this is exactly what secrets is all about ! One negative event leading to another! So I had to stop the moment the migraine started to cool myself and be more positive.

But today I have decided I definitely wont let this happen again. The concerned party who love to listen to loud chantings have received due notice for their acts and warnings of the predicaments that awaits them in case of repetition of the cause of my concern. Second no more driving on crowded roads being preoccupied and further work on my driving skills and reflexes so that I do not get effected by the morons behind the wheels and anticipate better than react.

I really believe in the philosophy behind the secret which states that we attract every good or bad thing that happens in our lives. Each thought in our mind sends out a signal to the universe attracting similar thoughts. Today was a text book example of this fact.

I practice it in a real simple manner and I have even showed it to some of my friends. Some found it useful and others told me to take a hike. But here is it for whoever is interested.


First be conscious about what you are thinking, if its a negative thought. Replace it with a positive one.

Eg if you are worried about ur increments.. let this be the dominant thought in your mind: “I will get a good increment”


Believe that what you think is possible and make a visual collage of the positive outcomes of your thoughts.

Eg: pin up the sexy jaguar's pic on your desk that you want to buy from the increment money


Start living what you believe in

eg: check out where you would like to park your jaguar once you buy it, who would you ask to wash it and with which detergent.


It all might sound funny initially and if it sounds funny then you should try it more as for the sake of humoring yourself and slowly you will see this working out.. try using it as a game initially : think of a friend you have not met in a while and tell yourself, you will receive a phone call or mail from that friend and bring this thought in fore front whenever you are conscious that you want to follow the secrets.. wolla.. it sure will happen and then try the game with another thought!

for more information refer to book: the secrets by rhonda bryne and the dvd too is available at most of the m world stores or any dvd store worth its mettle. I suggest you see the dvd first and then read the book. Helps grasping and referring things lots easier.




the link to the site is http://www.thesecret.tv/

Peace .. my butterfly white

the moment I think of this word, a white lotus smiling brightly in a green pond is what comes first to my mind. On the surface there is tranquility but to attain that a lot of ripples have lived and died.

You too must have heard these lines..

"i have no peace", "there is no peace", "where is peace?", "its so peaceful that I am scared it will go.", "oh she / he rests so peacefully ", "she / he looks so peaceful."

and lot many lines where peace is the hero!

What is peace ? Is it the absence of worries and troubles ? Is it remaining in current state and finding tranquility there in isolation or finding a harmonious co existence ? Is it a feeling of power or is it the absence of it ?

To me peace is an illusion. It mostly consists of a laundry list of goals we have set for ourselves in particular and for the world at large. Once the listed articles are ticked we feel we would have attained peace and we are about to jubilate, then all of a sudden here goes the ever illusive butterfly on another branch and we are set off on a new search of peace. Life is full of paradox and peace definitely fits the bill to the t. One goes through rain and hell water to find it and yet the moment you achieve it, you realize it is a mirage.

I enjoy my chase to find peace, as it is full of motion, some motions set me ahead, some of them set me back to where I started, further some more make me loose track of what I first was thinking was the trail in my search of peace was and allows me discover a whole new world and with it a new road map to peace. Or maybe I find peace in my chase to find it. Who knows ? And is what I love about life, hindsight does not get you anywhere, foresight does not come so easy, being in the moment makes you feel powerful as you really have nothing to loose if you live for the moment and then there is hope to find peace some day.

By the way who ever attains peace dies. So better get that shoe from reebok as its on sale and run in your chase for peace and take good time to find it !!








once when I was in a queue to get my toll pass for using the vashi bridge, I encountered mr cool dude, he was enjoying the breeze and the scenic beauty of the vashi creek. Really found his in peace so captured him on my mobile and next is the view he and I both found enchanting.






Funny I never notice this when I drive over this bridge twice daily !! so much for the chase eh !

blue blood journalism

i have almost stopped reading daily newspaper as they are more full of masala so i really have to strain my eyes to scan through the real happenings and further tax my brain to interpret the effect on human lives from that news.

so i stick to business newspapers and journals but scan the paper for interesting advertisements and promotions.

but i still enjoy my sundays dose of desi masala as it is the day for nonsense so why not start the morning perfect with my sunday news supplement.

today i was pleasantly surprised by an article on mumbai mirror which spoke about media personalities without sensationalizing the whole thing and bringing out the so called "real picture". of course not all fingers are alike but this one is a must read for those who have fantasies about celebrity lives.


i wish Indian media get out of the crutches of bureaucrats and start spilling out the real picture in true sense and did follow up on any news piece as a news is incomplete untill it yields the desired result to the community. Since we love to ape the west why dont we now ape them and got their hands dirty with substantial muck!

its da time to disco

i was attending a two day workshop on medical copy writing. my job demands that i ace on that one and this was fortunately or unfortunately the first formal training i received in medical copy writing.

but i just love workshops where in there are case presentation. it really encourages "out of the box" thinking and lets out the "creative juices". but something more important it does is makes us challenge each others thought processes, discover the strengths we did not know existed in our team mates and in ourselves and ensure we gain maximum as a group.

that is what is most required in today's corporate set up. output needs to be better than the best and everything needs to be ready tomorrow. in such a high stress scenario group dynamics needs to be encouraged to ensure we surpass our goals.

each time i attend such workshops i am amazed by the power of group dynamics. of course you need a good leader or facilitator to identify the strengths and ensure that the best of each team member is brought out.

another reason why i love group presentations is it reminds me of my mba days. the discussions.. the debates.. fundas marooing in typical bumbaiya language ( throwing fundas at each other), the gyan session..the jabs.. the kick backs.. boy i miss all that and here you are back to college.. :)






today is our ganapati visarjan and i am gonna miss my god... every day the family would get together and friends would come in .. hmm all good things have to come to an end ... sigh... but then dat makes all bad things also come to an end...

for the last time this year .. deva o deva ganapati deva tumse bhadkar kaun... deva tum se badhkar kaun .....

deva o deva ganapati deva

we welcome lord ganesha to our home every year. this time we got a red idol. yesterday i and ma had gone to do the puja grocery shopping, there i had seen this lil boi who stole my heart away and today when i went to bring the lord home i was surprised to c the idol looked so much like dat baby... the saying that god resides in little children could not be more true !!

so welcome home to ganesh puja for the next 5 days, its aartis, modaks, lights, hindi gana : deva o deva ganapati deva tumse badkar kaun and lot more sweet hogging.....

bombay meri jaan !!

I had gone a couple of weeks back to wasabi for an official lunch. This was my first time after the terror attack. I was too busy with work to give it a thought earlier in terms of this place was where it all had happened not many months ago.

But the moment I reached there, there was a part of me which was anxious and another which just wanted to go away from there as all the images on the tv started flashing back in my mind and when we went to the restaurant for lunch though its now located else where, I was not at ease. Of course to the world I was enjoying good company, interesting conversation and fine cuisine, inward I could not feel more restless wanting time to fast forward to the out of the hotel part.

Amidst all these silly pandemonium of thoughts running riot I noticed the captain, he was taking such good care of us as though nothing really had happened here after realizing this I started looking around at the other employees there and I was really amazed. Of course its been long so they would have got over the initial nerves but still the memories would not be that far,they have lived through the terror, they bared the brunt of it and yet they were there the moment it opened back. And here I am acting like a coward getting all panicky and silly.

The thought really humbled me and on my way out I silently saluted the spirit of taj and bombay.

love knows no age

today at the airport i saw something so touching and was so refreshing as i was so depressed seeing the scare of swine flu amongst all.. of course we all need to take precaution.. but anyways so heres what happened..

there was this elderly couple using the escalator. since the old man had an hand baggage he could not assist his wife and she fell on the escalator and was too frightened to get up, luckily i was using the stairs and seeing her fall i went on to bottom of the escalator to help her get up but she refused to as she was too scared so i had to brutally pull her.. well for one moment all of us seeing this scene were really freaked out

anyways she was safe but the way the old couple hugged each other after the escapade was soooooooo heart warming.. am sure they would have not even held hands in public (well am guessing from the conservative dress code they followed) and just then when they thought either one was hurt the spurt of emotions was very endearing...

i was so touched by their display of emotions.. i too came home and hugged everyone... baba hates it when i do it .. but what the heck ... life is too short to not show love for ur dear ones...

pleasant surprise

life is the best bundle of contradictions !! u can feel totally devastated one moment and next moment experience ecstasy.

i and my buddy were looking out for a decent dig to have dinner in Hyderabad and we were unsuccessful in finding any. asking locals we landed up in a food court of a mall which really had no real food so the hunt for another joint started, i some how remembered the name of another mall, but in hyderabad finding a rick to go places without being totally rigged seems impossible so i thought of asking someone about it.. there i see this very pretty lady and go out asking her for directions.. to my surprise she said she knew where it is and would drop us.

i thought i either heard her wrong or mis interpreted what she said !!.. but she repeated her offer and i was so pleasantly surprised and both me and my buddy could not believe our lucky stars... she was very kind and dropped us off at our destination and the food that we had really din matter as we were so content with the goodness of this lady who helped us out unconditional without even knowing us

who ever said the world is a bad place.. incidents like these make life worth looking forward to

days of our lives !!

today my alarm clock turned out to be a night mare buzzing way ahead of time.. i saw this absolutely illogical and freaky dream at 4 am and have been awake ever since so you can imagine my mood today and the events that proceeded this were in climaxing order of annoyance and out of turn that it wins the award for worst day so far this year..

now that am back home and have the luxury of retrospecting i realized i knew i should not have let things affect me and more i let them affect me.. more i alone get affected.. ya am rambling.. c how affected i am !!

basically its a vicious cycle and whats annoying and hilarious am enlightened about this fact and yet i let situations and people effect me !!

when things are not in our control, letting go seems so difficult when actually there is nothing to let go as it was not under your control anyways. its just a mirage, we love to believe that we can rule situations. We can only make best use of situations to ensure what we want is met. changing situations is just a myth. you use them to ensure that the end is in sync with your needs.

further more we would blame ourselves / our ancestors / god /cat / aliens .. just about anybody when the end is not the end we wanted !!

but then since nothing is really under our control and if whatever has to happen will happen then what is our role in this gamut of things ?
finding out what is our role is our eternal strive that keeps us kicking and alive, we in ways unknown to us right away fit perfectly in the big sphere of living, do our bit ... even if it is doing nothing and then wither away to unknown existence we call death to make things structured and logical for us

we love order, moment we do not know something, we transform the unknown to known form not trying to verify its existence but remain smug with the feeling we have typecasted it out..

yes this is how are the days of our lives.. living,,, feeling.. hurting.. healing.. fooling... getting fooled.. happy.. miserable.. disillusioned ..deluded...

but how we live does not matter as long as we bring in happiness to ourselves and others depended on us !!

my prince charming

whenever we see the hutch oh now vodafone advt of the pug, ma complains, dexter never learned to do anything and look at that pug earning his stay. but of course that was on a lighter side..

well many of my friends too have said the same to me of course not on lighter sight that dexter is an absolute no gooder. on hind side it was always the guy friends who said that.. but if i look at the species male they are mostly no gooders!! and dexter is following the rule if i go by their perception of dexter !!
(ha ha... ya call me fcp... but deep down u no am right !!)

anyway dexter may not help us with our daily chores like the pug but he is our bundle of joy, unconditional love and laughter.. with him all of us in the family become a kid.. he brings back the smile we had lost some place.. he makes us believe that we are indispensable for him & that we rock his world..

he wont hide his feelings and will be there to welcome us after a any kind of day..

well for this if i spoil him silly am i being wrong ??

yesterday i and dexy were on our evening walk.. on the road there were berry with thorns and i started clearing the path by removing them so that my Prince can walk safe..

he does mean the world to us.. gooder or no gooder aint matters !! as its only a perception..

who am I to judge

i was in the ladies second class compartment in the morning one day.. if you know bombay local trains .. u would know when i say it was jam packed even by harbour line standards.. anyways i was standing near the exit door as i could not manage to go in ..

a 30 something lady standing beside me started to cry, i found it weird but did not bother to ask her the reason.. my defense i was minding my business..

some other lady was kind enough to ask her why was she crying ... the protagonist replied she wanted to get down at the next station but could not due to the crowd and had an operation done which was hurting...

i that time too had no empathy for her as i thought she was faking the whole thing so that we made way for her...


later i thought.. who gave me the right to judge her !! especially when i get so miffed when others do that to me !!!

i felt embarrassed and started arguing with my conscience with real silly excuses.. but inside i knew i was wrong and resolved to not make this mistake again !

take a right then left, then again left... at the cross section ask some one for further direction !!

all our lives we look for direction.. as kids .. for the candy bar store .. as adolescence for the way to the heart of our crush.. as young professional.. quickest way to successful carrier .. as parents... way to make children's life more richer.. as sr citizen direction to get spiritually more evolved

and what if you do not look for directions ? then you are out of the race.. you are alone ..

why do we have to always fit into stereotype ? why is there no stereotype for people who are different ? why if you do not understand me .. it automatically makes me a mad person ? why do we follow directions given by others to find happiness for ourselves? why do we think we have all the coordinates mapped out and fit any body in the matrix?

when i get too bobbled thinking am i doing the right direction in life .. gabbar (anita my dear buddy) always tells me .. why do u worry .. v cannot fight destiny so whatever has to happen .. will happen.. so why worry..

ya baby why worry... if i dont find my direction.. destiny will...