Ripples in the water - A small ripple can gain current and create a big effect
I was asked to write about promises last night because of a relationship strain. Am wondering where to start...
Ok...lets start by :
FAITH & PROMISES
The definition of
faith is to have complete confidence in a person or a plan.
Faith is believing completely without doubt on the things you cant see.
The definition of
promise is a pledge or an assurance given by one person to another that he/she will act exactly as promised. The other person can rest assured that the promise will not be broken in under any circumstances. In this case, circumstances word is very significant. Because even if the promise is made in total sincerity, the circumstances are taken as an excuse for breaking them.
The breaking of a promise
The breaking of a promise will definitely hurt the other party. We kill the faith of the other party in humanity and its words. One must think about the value of the promise for the one to whom it was made. Why do we promise something to someone? Because both the parties agree that if the promise is broken, the other person will be hurt. Why is the promise accepted? The promise is accepted only if one who makes the promise is believed to be a truthful and honest person. No one believes upon the promises made by liars.
As this is for you, i will share with~
Why some men keep their promises and others don't
The word a man offers is his bond. It is believed that their are two types of men. There are the men that keep their promises and the ones whom do not. Once a person has amassed a specific amount of social experience, it is easier to spot the men who are serious and the ones who are simply playing the game.
The reasons why some men take promises more serious than others depends on a man's childhood, personality, maturity level and character. The reasons are endless and one size does not fit all. It could be one or a combination of the above.
We live our lives everyday using the laws of attraction.
To portray attraction to the opposite sex comes in many ways, may it be wealth, confidence, security etc, these are in fact subconscious energy to attract the one he is interested in.
Motives behind the attraction are extremely difficult to notice as we are sometimes too focus on what we want from the man. A player can be considered a master of psychology and body language, as they follow the rules of attraction, usually the person targeted are unable to tell the difference between true and false. This is a touch-base on a non-verbal promises(signals) received.
Relationship-courtship is what we call the honeymoon period. Usually the couples will make many promises to each other verbally, probably some in the form of a contract which we don't see nowdays.
The promises made are the bond of the relationship.Some promises are also made out of desperation to conform to their partners will in order to gain acceptance. Once when the courtship touches their one year mark, theres where communication plays an important role to build trust, in order for trust to take place, you need to have faith in your partner.
An example i would like to use is about Bill & Amy.
The couple met, they had a great time, Bill and Suzy made a commitment to each other, they said no matter what happens they will stick together in good or bad, they made goals and dreams together, they will always share their feelings for one another so that they will always have a common ground to hold their love together.
As time passed, Bill was on the verge of taking up a new career, and things was moving very slowly for him and this became a burden to Amy. Bill realizes the burden Amy had to take because he was financially tight and he asked Amy how did she felt about things and the burden she had to go through. Amy said to Bill, he only had to work hard because they wanted to build a future together and mentioned she believed in him. So Bill made a plan to switch back to what he did best but not before he gave his current job a try. It was a 3 months plan and he asked her for sometime to be able to switch back to what he does best. And as usual Amy said she trusted him and loved him..
However before the period of 3 months was up, things started to change. She became frustrated without his knowledge and she spent less time with Bill, whenever Bill wanted to see her she would say time is a luxury they do not have, she started going out late in the nights meeting different man. As Bill is usually not the jealous type because he trusted her he allowed her the few outings but when it became so frequent he generally got worried and asked her why did she change. Amy mentioned that she did that was because she wanted to build a future for both of them as she was in a mlm company which encourages the members to meet as many people as possible. However by doing so, she saw that the grass on the other side is greener because she was meeting with more successful people out there. Slowly as the pressure build up he pressured her to decide on what she wanted, the relationship or the things she currently loves doing because it displeases him. And as you know, she chooses the break-up because she thought he wasn't doing anything to build a better future for both of them. She lost trust, He was blind. Broken faith and promises.
So from this brief story we can see that in actual fact MISUNDERSTANDING are common mistakes which breaks a relationship and if u notice my previous post, communication and trust are one of the bond which holds a relationship together. Do not, i repeat do not give hints to any man because man are logical creatures and they do not thrive on emotions to make a judgment.. The best way to communicate to a man is through sharing it with them your thoughts and concerns tactfully. Find a place where its quiet and peaceful every once in awhile, work on issues that will build a stronger foundation for your relationship.
Good luck..... talk to your man.
A small ripple which created a waterfall.
