I like to share some article that I read just now while I come home from school.. Got a magazine from student helpers in school.. The magazine is called "Naked i".. Since I got nothing to do in bus.. So I decided to read it.. Got this page talking about "What Woman and Man Want"..
For Women.. What a Men Want..
He isn't as strong as he seems.. Behind your man's strong facade may lie uncertainty and the fear of failing.. Sometimes, he is unsure about what he should do in a situation and feels inadequate to provide solutions or comfort, but he masks his insecurities and 'act tough'.. So what can we do?? For starters, don't taunt him or tear him down when he tries to help.. Rather, encourage and affirm him by showing your appreciation, especially in front of others!! How you look matters to him.. Dressing up for your man is one way of showing him how much you respect and love him.. We're not saying doll up to the nines just to ear dinner at the nearby kopitiam, but some basic personal grooming can go a long way.. If you think you're fat, don't just complain - do something about it!! A man does gets frustrated when the woman in his life anguishes endlessly about her appearance.. He Loves You.. If there is one thing a man most wishes you knew about him, it's that he really loves you.. Often, he may want to express his feelings to you, but he worries that he will not do a good job.. To make things easier for him, let him know what makes you feel most loved!! Appreciate him for the times he does try to show his love for you.. For Man.. What a Woman Want..
She can't shut out her emotions.. Surprising fact: Most women are like Macs, and most men are like PCs!! Like a Mac, there can be many 'windows' open (thoughts and feelings) on the screen of a woman's mind at any one time.. VS the 'PC' mindset of a man, who is able to close each 'window' on his screen before going on to the next one. (On the other hand, that's why most women can multitask, and more men can's!!) DON'T say "Just don;t think about it.." (She can't..) Instead, listen, reassure and encourage her in any action that needs to be taken to resolve her concern..She want your empathy.."I'll don't want you to fix the problem; I just want you to listen!!" Sound familiar?? What she FEELS about the problem is actually more important to her than the problem itself.. The problem is not the problem; the feeling is the problem.. You need to learn to filter out the problem to focus on her feelings.. Only after you have acknowledged her feelings will she want to focus on working on a solutions..She needs to feel loved..Most women are insecure about whether their man really loves them.. Whenever this insecurity is triggered, she may respond in ways that confuse or dismay you, until she feels reassured.. Constant romancing of you woman, whether in little or big ways, will tell her that you desire and care for her, thus lessening her feelings of insecurity..
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Based on the books "For men only" and "For women only", by Jeff & Shaunti Feldhahn, Multnomah Publishers Inc., 2004, extract from "Naked i")Well, after I read this.. Hey, is quite true.. This article said important points that some couples didn't know at all.. Once one person did/said something wrong, he/she will just continue to wrong.. That why between couples, when bad thing happened if they cannot communicate properly, problems will become a chaos for them.. Anyway, I carry on to read the rest of the magazine.. This magazine sure helped a lot.. Cause can kill time.. A few pages after the article I mention above.. There is this article that provide information that after I see, I was kinda shock.. Oh well, it is nothing other den SEX.. Some information stated in the magazine from a survey in 2005..
The average age that we learn about sex is about 14.4 years.. The average age that we start "doing it" is about 18.4 years old.. The average number of sexual partners one get is about 7.2.. And people that have had unprotected sex is about 41%.. Woman that had unwanted pregnancies is about 15%.. People that have had one-night stand is about 29% and those have had extra-marital affair is about 17%.. This is according to the Durex Global Sex Survey..Well, there is also some personal comments from young adult from various school printed in the magazine.. Some think it is alright to have sex.. Some do not.. But one thing for sure is that one must be responsible for what you have done.. There is some personal experiences shared by peoples to "Naked i".. Well, never mind about the story.. But at the side, there is this few paragraph mentioning about having premarital sex..
Having sex actually allows a couple to experience great physical intimacy but it will not last long.. After all the trill they have, couple may find themselves stuck in a rut of feeling very close physically.. It is still advise to have sex after marriage.. For that one moment of pleasure, who knows what will happen next?? Are you so sure that he/she is the correct one for you?? For that moment maybe YES.. But what if in the end he/she is not your another half?? You just give you first time to him/her?? What about your future husband or wife?? I bet that you wanted to give your first to your most love husband/wife..
"I don't eventually marry the girl I'm sleeping with, one day she might be another man's wife! I mean, when i do get married, I wouldn't like the idea that someone else has slept with my wife.."Above is one of what one guy shared inside the magazine.. After I read this, I really think that it is still better to have sex after married.. There is HIGH chances where couple engaging in sex when having some physical intimacy.. At that moment, their brain may be block from thinking properly due to the huge power (emotion) rushing in their blood.. Is very hard to stop your emotion from reacting that why after engaging in sex, female will tend to feel sinful (said by my lecture last time from my IS module).. Let's assume that this is true, after having sex that the female party will feel sinful.. The sense of secure inside her will drop greatly.. When a girl agreed to engage in sex with her boyfriend, there may be two possibilities..
One: Purely just wanted to have fun..Two: THOUGHT that he will be her one and only one.. In other words, future husband..But girls!! How you so sure that that particular person will be your husband for sure?? If you feel that most likely he will be the one.. How many percent are you sure?? 50%?? 80?? 99%?? Even if you use 6 Sigma to find out.. There will still be 0.00034% chances that he
will not be the one.. When you get married to another men, you will still feel guilty that your first is not your husband.. This feeling will eventually torture for the rest of your life.. Well, nowadays is so open.. Some teenagers may take that sex after married is so old fashion or even they may have this thinking "If I don't have sex with him/her, I may loss him/her.." Young girls tend to have this thinking more frequently.. This is because they just started knowing about relationship.. They may not know what is correct and wrong in a relationship due to inexperience..
Year 2005 survey, 18.4 years old.. What about 10years later?? Will the age drop?? I have no idea, but I hope girls can be more sensible.. From the magazine, I also find out that having premarital sex will affect your after married love life.. Say it simple, one will not enjoy the intimacy to the fullness..
"Waiting for marriage before having sex may be one of the best decisions you will ever make.. This is because when wo people have sealed their commitment to each other, when they agree to share their lives for better or worse, when their love doesn't depend on how amazing they look or how great they are in bed, then sex isn't just 'sex' anymore - its's making love.."This particular paragraph found in the magazine really very very good!! Totally support this!!
Anyway, enough for this sex education stuff.. Is time to write some of my personal stuff.. Today finally school reopen.. First day of school is SO BORING!! Break is longer than usual.. Lesson from previous lecture is still better than Lullaby; as always.. Today dress until so hip-hop like tat.. Ming Kai trying to hit the piggy on my shirt.. So baddie!! Went to help Alan because he this year 1st year in my school.. Pass him my CATs book as I don't really need that.. I am kind enough to go find him at his class to pass him the book..
Weather really very warm today.. But when i on the way back home, raining cats and dogs.. Finally my new Adidas jacket is up to good use!! Unfortunately, it got wet by the rain.. Anyway, my head got a big BANG when I reach Yishun.. My sense of protection drop a lot when I listening to my iPod.. Without noticing, a loud BANG just coming from somewhere on top of my head.. I was sitting at the inner seat.. I need to get off the bus because I reach liao ma!! But, never realise that I am tall I just hit the top of the bus.. The side of the bus tend to be lower than the center.. Bet there is some peoples laughing there!! Lucky I got wear cap.. Can protect my head a litttttle bit.. Haha!!
Tummy still hurts.. After this week, if the pain still persist I think I may need to go for a check up.. Don't worry!! Haha!! I am alright.. Oh well, this semester is the last semester in school!! Gonna power up to 100% and get at least 3.5 GPA this time!! Gonna find a way to break my lecture special Lullaby skill if not 3.5 will be super hard!! I can do it!! So long I tell myself I can do it.. I will.. Haha!! My primary school motto.. "Do the best and be the best" and I will be the best!! So long I put in my full effort, I am the best!!
Think my post is long enough.. This is not the longest.. Haha!! Anyway, is time for me to rest my eyes a little.. Too much to write actually.. Gambatte Ruby!!
