Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Friends and such.

 

As I grow older, and with the experiences that I have had, I guess I gotta learn to accept that friends do come and go. Most of them would be there due to certain circumstances and would only be there for a short period of time. After a while, they will begin to create a distance for whatever reason, like a rewind of how two individuals become friends. Only a handful would stay with us for a long time, come what may. And these are the treasured ones that are worth keeping. 

I suppose, we don't need many friends to be happy. As long as we have a few of the true ones, that is already good enough. Friendships, like any other relationships, could only work out if both parties make an effort to make it work. You'll need two hands to clap. If there's only one party that is trying his/her best to make things work, and the other remains nonchalant, things will become difficult. In fact, it'll become a very tiring process for the trying party. As they say, "tepuk sebelah tangan takkan berbunyi".


I had a good time lepaking earlier with a good friend of mine and just bitch about life. I somewhat feel better now after all the sharing and pouring, like something heavy is being lifted off my chest. It was a good day.

On the other hand, my sickness seems to be getting worst. All the symptoms are starting to show. Argh. So, I shall take the cue and have my night's rest. Lol.

Ciao!

 

 

posted by AnDy AriEn at 11:27 PM 0 comments ~~Love is the emblem of eternity; it confounds all notion of time~~

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Always be kinder than necessary?

 

Came across this article earlier about "10 Relationship Tips Everyone Forgets" and at #6, is something all familiar to me.

6.  Show your loved ones your kindness in small ways every day.

Aesop once said, “No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  Always be kinder than necessary.  You never know what someone is going through.  Sometimes you have to be kind to someone, not because they’re being nice, but because you are.  Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

But in reality, is this always the case? That you should always be kinder than necessary. The answer is no. I've learnt the hard way, and more than once, that this does not always happens. Not everyone sees it the same way.

But this is also who I am, and although I could modify a little, I will never change myself completely for whatever reasons.

I am in charge of me.

 

 

posted by AnDy AriEn at 11:05 PM 0 comments ~~Love is the emblem of eternity; it confounds all notion of time~~

Lies and deception

 

I hate it when people lie to me. Especially if it's right straight at my face. I guess this is another of my pet peeves. Yes, I can understand a white lie. But a blatant lie right straight at my face? No. The moment I detected it, I'm sorry, but off you go. No bargaining, no explanations needed.

On another note, sometimes I wish people would be more empathetic with others. Try to understand what others are going through, instead of just criticizing or condemning them. Personally, you'll never hear me criticizing about something unless I have been in and dealt with that same kind of situation before. Everyone does certain things for a reason. We should never judge others based on just what is seen by our eyes. It's not fair. Sometimes, we wouldn't know what is going on inside that other person. How is he/she feeling? We can never know because we are not inside them to share that feeling. One life's lesson that I have had is never to assume. As they say, it'll just make an ass out of you and me. Instead, try to put yourself in other people's shoes. Try to feel what they are going through. If you feel that it hurts you, then it'd probably hurt the other person too.


I need to toughen up.

 

 

posted by AnDy AriEn at 12:34 AM 0 comments ~~Love is the emblem of eternity; it confounds all notion of time~~