where i've been

I don't know why some people who are married,
take marriage as an excuse not to "do" anything or "go" anywhere.
Being married doesn't mean you have to stop "living".
Trust me, being married is NOT the end of everything.
Even being married WITH kids is not the end of everything!

But of course, once you are labelled as "married",
there has to be a limit to everything that you do...
Don't expect to hangout with your buddies till 4am in the morning..
Don't make decisions based on your own interest only.. as decisions that you make involves other parties too!
And the list goes on and on...

So, staying true to my words, I try my very best to keep a balance of work and play.
:)

While serving my responsibility as a "corporate slave",
I can still squeeze time for get togethers with my buddies!

Good times in Ipoh in April 2010


Good times in Penang in April 2010


Good times in JB in April 2010


And most important of all, good times with the kiddos - anytime, anywhere!


I totally ditch the idea of losing your freedom once you are married.
I've been coping well since the past 7 years...

It's all about the effort, right?

TAGGED! i'm it! version 7 things about yourself

So, I've been tagged again!
And I never fail to 'entertain' tags (read: the easiest way to get the blog 'moving'!)

Rule No. 1:
Thank and link the person that gave you the award.
TERIMA KASIH, COY

Rule No. 2:
State 7 things about yourself (Coy wrote about things she forgets. What am I gonna write about??)
Maybe.... about me? D'uh!
:p

1. I was a shy and timid person back in school (Hard to believe? But, it's the truth)
2. I wanted to grow up being a reporter, but Bonda did not approve that ambition (talk about being a kepochi!)
3. I can lose my temper easily (anger management class is required, badly!)
4. I have a (serious) thing for British actors/singers and accent (I'm looking for a new BFF - British, single and gay!)
5. I will get sick before or after my monthly red flag (Hormon imbalance or simply getting old?)
6. I work best under pressure (Few days to deadlines thrills me!)
7. I watched Titanic for more than 7 times, and My Best Friend's Wedding for more than 5 times, AT THE CINEMA! (Gila!)

Rule No. 3 :
Pass this award to 15 bloggers that you’ve discovered and think they are fantastic.It’s the exact same list as before. Feel free to do/not to do it.
I don't think I have 15 bloggers to tag... let me see...
1) Tinn
2) Sue
3) Lenn
4) Jazreen
5) Lulu
6) Ems
7) Nellie
8) Geem

Tu je kot??

ah-choo!!

It's been a while.
I'm dusting off the blog.
Will be back VERY SOON!

*missing you mode*

through the trees

All alone in an empty room
Nothing left but the memories of when
I had my best friend

And I don't know how we ended up here
I don't know but it's never been so clear
We made a mistake, dear

And I see, the broken glass in front of me
I see, your shadow hangin' over me
And your face, i can see

Through the trees
I will find you
I will heal
The ruins left inside you

Cause I'm still here breathin' now
I'm still here breathin' now
I'm still here breathin' now
Until I'm set free,

I'm goin'quiet through the trees
I remember how we used to talk
About the places we would go when we were all
And all that we were gonna find

And I remember watching our seeds grow
And how you cried when you saw the first leaf show
The love was pouring from your eyes
So can you see
The branches hangin' over me
Can you see
The love you left inside of me
And my face, can you see

Cause your not comin' back
And your not comin back
No
No
No!
Your not comin' back
Your not comin' back
Take my breath
As your own
Take my eyes
To guide you home

Cause im still here breathin' now
I'm still here breathin' now
And im still here
And your not comin' back
Cause your not comin' back
Until im set free
I'm goin' quiet through the trees

TAGGED! i'm it! version: the 8th pix of the 8th folder

I've been tagged by Coy, few days back.
I'm only getting to it now, since I've been on 'drugs' for these past few days!
(read: I've been unwell, been taking meds non stop!)

So, the tag is to put up a pix, the 8th pix, from your 8th folder.
I have copied all my pix into few CDs, and now, I can't seem to find where the CDs are!
Dis-organised, I know!

Since I can't find other folders, I've managed to get the "green light" from Coy,
to take the 8th pix of my 1st folder that I have now.
And below is the pix... the story?



Remember the trip my besties and I had some time in February 2010? We went to Krabi, and the pix above was taken when we were boarding the plane;
captured by Missy Maz.
The level of excitement was beyond words, and I think, at one point (or maybe at some points),
we had stiff jaw from too much of smiling and laughing!
Every bits and parts of the trip are still glued inside my head! Permanently glued!

I'm not gonna tag anyone.
Since I'm not well, so, I'm gonna be good!
:p

loving the one you're with

I read in a newspaper few days back, the alarming divorce rates in the country.
With the economic condition that's not looking any brighter, demands in life getting increased,
married people have 1001 reasons to stop bickering and go on their separate ways...
It's quite a sad conclusion, but if it's for the best... They can't be living their lives forever throwing tantrums at each other, right?

I got a book from my BFF as my birthday pressie (oh no! not another mention of birthday, please!!)... :p
The title is Love the One You're With. It's a novel by Emily Giffin.
I haven't read the book, but when Uya gave it to me,
I asked her, "Is it a self-help book?? Do I need help on living my life with the person I am with now??"
She replied me with a laugh! Of coz, that book isn't about that! :p

Today, my ex-staff forwarded me an email that had all these...

EVERY relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner .
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit). Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard.
In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy.
It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage,
you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?'
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when marriages breakdown.
People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better.
But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.
It'll NEVER just happen to you.
You can't 'find' LASTING love.
You have to 'make' it day in and day out.
That's why we have the expression - 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy .
And most importantly, it takes WISDOM .
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise programme makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect.
If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always :
'God determines who walks into your life.
It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

stale yet sweet news

I have some room to breathe at the moment.
Mentally and physically tired, I don't have anything interesting to share.
Selalunya pun, memang anything yang I share, tak interesting kan?
:p

So, what I got for my birthday?
It's a bit of a stale news, but, like I care!
Haha!

One of the reasons that I don't like to change handbags is because I might lost few things (along the way). Ehem, but, I don't have that many bags anyway! :p
That's how I lost my old thumbdrive, with so many 'precious items' saved in it! Mencikkk!
Not that I can't afford to buy a new one, I'm just plain lazy!
So, the best way to get a new one, was to ask for it as my birthday pressie! Hahahaha! Boring, I know!!
Thanx to Geem (who gave me Mr. Kingston) and Mr. Hubby (who gave me Ms. Imation).
LOVE THEM!

A cute birdie went to Jakarta and got me a new baju for my BeeBee! Not just any baju, it's FUSCHIA baju!! Striking and very noticeable by so many people! Those who know me wonder why I got myself something in fuschia or rather, pink, coz they know very well, I'm "allergic" to pink! :)

LOVE IT! My BeeBee has never been more stylo!


My team and I bagged the 3rd place for the Comp's annual karaoke competition. Years with the Comp, that was the 1st time I have ever taken part in a competition, what more, a singing competition! In case you haven't noticed, I'm tone deaf! Our glorious song?? BAWAKU TERBANG, made famous by The Fabulous Cats!

We took home cash, to be shared by 4 of us! Hehehe! LOVE THE MOMENT!


It doesn't need to be big or small, expensive or cheap, it's the THOUGHT that counts! To some, that might sound corny, but to me, it's the plain truth :)